Daily Archives: 22 April, 2024

Intimacy Thief, Reflection for Marriages: John 10:11-18

From the Gospel according to John
Jn 10:11-18

Jesus said:
“I am the good shepherd.
A good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.
A hired man, who is not a shepherd
and whose sheep are not his own,
sees a wolf coming and leaves the sheep and runs away,
and the wolf catches and scatters them.
This is because he works for pay and has no concern for the sheep.
I am the good shepherd,
and I know mine and mine know me,
just as the Father knows me and I know the Father;
and I will lay down my life for the sheep.
I have other sheep that do not belong to this fold.
These also I must lead, and they will hear my voice,
and there will be one flock, one shepherd.
This is why the Father loves me,
because I lay down my life in order to take it up again.
No one takes it from me, but I lay it down on my own.
I have power to lay it down, and power to take it up again.
This command I have received from my Father.”

The Word of the Lord.

Intimacy Thief.

A thief is one who enters to steal, to take something from another for their own benefit. I am not a shepherd of my husband, but I must take as a reference the relationship that Jesus has with us to learn how my relationship with my spouse should be. According to that, I ask myself: In my relationship with my husband, am I a thief who enters to take what I desire, or do I enter into his intimacy to call him by his name and for him to know my voice?
Furthermore, in marriage, we must enter through His door to find the food that fills us with life.

Applied to Married Life:

Julieta: I have a huge vice in the way I relate to you, and it is that if I am not careful, I am focused on what you don’t give me, on what you don’t say to me, on whether you don’t listen to me, on whether you don’t do something for me… Of course, the result is that I have a generalized discontent because I only look at what I don’t receive from you. Or what I receive and is inadequate.
Manu: Unfortunately, it’s a tendency that most of us have, and yet the good, what we do for each other, almost goes unnoticed.
Julieta: So, Manu, I have been created to give myself to you and I can’t stop looking at what you don’t do for me.
Manu: Well, Julieta, first of all, it’s very good that you’re aware of the problem because that means the Lord wants to help you overcome it. Cheer up, I’m with you.


The Lord places by our side a child of His to make them our main mission. May it be so between us. Praised be the Lord who gives us this precious gift.