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Humility for Rest. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 11:25–30

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Matthew 11:2530
At that time Jesus exclaimed:
“I bless you, Father, Lord of heaven and of earth,
for hiding these things from the learned and the clever
and revealing them to mere children.
Yes, Father, for that is what it pleased you to do.
Everything has been entrusted to me by my Father;
and no one knows the Son except the Father,
just as no one knows the Father except the Son
and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.
“Come to me, all you who labour and are overburdened,
and I will give you rest.
Shoulder my yoke and learn from me,
for I am gentle and humble in heart,
and you will find rest for your souls.
Yes, my yoke is easy and my burden light.”
The Gospel of the Lord.

Humility for Rest
Jesus reveals that the most important things of God are not understood through intelligence or superiority, but through littleness — by allowing Him to enter within us. Acting from pride and self-love exhausts us because we were not created for that. We were created as children of God, to act in His image and likeness: to act from love, with love, and for love. And this is only possible if we become small enough for God to enter.
So often in our daily lives we think our tiredness comes only from external difficulties, but much of that exhaustion comes from wanting to be right according to my own judgement, from wanting to control situations, from wanting to be above my spouse, or from expecting the other person to change. In reality, it is our pride that places a heavy yoke upon us.
That is why the Lord calls those who are weary and burdened, so that we may learn from His “gentle and humble” Heart. He invites us to become little, to live with humility, recognising our need for Him — because it is precisely there that we find peace and rest.

Applied to Married Life
Candelaria: Juan Carlos, resting again? You’re always the same. The moment I turn around, you stop helping. You never get involved with things at home.
Juan Carlos: What do you mean “always the same”? You’re the one who always does the same thing — always wanting everything done your way!
Candelaria: Look, I’m exhausted. The house, work, the children… I can’t cope anymore!
Juan Carlos: Candelaria, I think we should pray for a while. We both really need it.
Candelaria: Yes… you’re right.
(After some time in prayer)
Juan Carlos: You know what? I want to ask your forgiveness. When you get upset with me, I close myself off even more, and instead of helping you, I end up hurting you more.
Candelaria: And I’ve realised that I’m not only exhausted because of everything we have to do, but because of my need to do everything my own way.
Juan Carlos: I think this is what we’re missing — turning more often to the Lord and letting Him help both of us. After praying, I always feel that our burdens don’t disappear, but they become much lighter.
Candelaria: You’re absolutely right! Let’s make a commitment to pray every day so we can count on Him in our daily lives.
Juan Carlos: Perfect!

Mother,

teach us to be humble. Praise be to the Lord.

I Have Been Given So Much. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 10:7–13

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Matthew 10:7–13
 “As you go, proclaim the good news, ‘The kingdom of heaven has come near.’
Cure the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those with leprosy, cast out demons.
You received without payment; give without payment.
Take no gold, or silver, or copper in your belts, no bag for your journey, or two tunics, or sandals, or a staff; for labourers deserve their food.
Whatever town or village you enter, find out who in it is worthy, and stay there until you leave.
As you enter the house, greet it.
If the house is worthy, let your peace come upon it; but if it is not worthy, let your peace return to you.”
I Have Been Given So Much…
God sends us to give freely what we ourselves have freely received. The challenge is that I have received so much… and therefore, I have so much to give.
In marriage, spouses give themselves completely and freely to one another — especially the love we have received from God. In this way, we share His peace. And if that peace is not welcomed, may I not lose my peace, but allow it to return to me. After all, I can only give what I have first received freely.

Applied to Married Life
Andrew: Darling, I’d like to invite you to start going to the Eucharist daily.
Marisa: Andrew, here we go again… Why are you always trying to make me do the same things you do? Honestly, it feels excessive. It’s not necessary to go that far.
Andrew: No, Marisa, I’m saying this because I want what is best for you.
Marisa: If it’s really for my good, then help more with the housework instead of disappearing to Mass every evening.
Andrew: Fair enough. I’ll go to the 7 a.m. Mass with the sisters instead. Then in the afternoon I can pick you up from work, and if you’d like, I’ll take you to Mass while I go home and take care of everything — the ironing, dinner, bathing the children…
Marisa: You would really do that for me? You’ll end up exhausted.
Andrew: For you — and so that you may receive the graces God wants to give you — I would do whatever is needed.
Marisa: Now I truly believe you’re inviting me to the Eucharist out of love. Forgive me for judging you unfairly. I love you, Andrew.
Mother,
It is true that deep down, many of the corrections we make towards our spouse are often mixed with some benefit for ourselves — and eventually, our selfishness becomes obvious. Now I understand why true love must be freely given. Praised be the Lord.

Listening to You Always. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 5:17–19

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Matthew 5:1719
Jesus said to his disciples:
“Do not imagine that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets.
I have come not to abolish but to complete them.
I tell you solemnly, till heaven and earth disappear, not one dot, not one little stroke, shall disappear from the Law until its purpose is achieved.
Therefore, the man who infringes even one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be considered the least in the kingdom of heaven; but the man who keeps them and teaches them will be considered great in the kingdom of heaven.”

Listening to You Always
My beloved Jesus, how grateful we are that You became man and speak to us so clearly!
You tell us that “the one who breaks even the least of these commandments…”. How many times have You told us that to enter Your Kingdom we must listen to Your Word and put it into practice, keeping Your commandments. Why do You give us the commandments? So that we may clearly know how to do Your Will, and not our own. Because my own will, my own judgement, is distorted by self-love, even when I do not realise it.
That is why You ask us to seek only Your Will. To listen to You constantly so that we may do only what You would do, and as You would do it.
I can deceive myself with a thousand excuses. I may not want to stop and listen to You. Or I may stand before You, but listen only to myself. A terrible solution. I will hurt myself and hurt others.
Lord, please help me to listen to You in every moment. May I place all my actions before Your Light. And those situations that wound me, may I sincerely place them before You, listening to You. So that You may teach me that precisely there, I must overcome my self-love, do Your Will, and love — only love. To love even when it hurts; to love where it hurts.
Thank You, Lord.

Applied to Married Life
María: “I do not understand why you are so stubborn! Everything always has to be done your way. Enough already! Can’t you see I cannot take anymore?”
Alberto: “María, you are being unfair. Don’t you realise how hard I am trying to do what you want?”
María: “Yes, sure. Well, it certainly does not show!”
Alberto: “Forgive me, María. I only want to help you. I love you very much.”
That evening, after María spent time in prayer…
María: “Alberto, forgive me. I have been so blind. For days I have been focused only on what I do, on all my problems. And even when I went to pray, I stayed focused on myself, telling the Lord everything happening to me, but without listening to Him. Each day I was suffering more and more. This afternoon, before the Lord, crying, I asked Him where He was. Then I became silent. And finally, I could hear Him. I realised the Lord was there all along, but I could not hear Him because I was focused only on myself. I saw that the Lord wants to speak to me through you. He wants me to see your efforts to please me, your loving silence when I become angry, all those times you give in and I do not even notice. Thank you so much, Alberto. Please help me to know Jesus more deeply. I love you so much!”
Alberto: “María, I love you dearly. Let us walk hand in hand towards holiness, shall we?”

Mother,
Please teach me to always listen to your Son. To flee from my own will and do only His. Blessed and praised be God!

Be Light. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 5:13–16

Gospel of the Day – Matthew 5:1316

Jesus said to his disciples:
“You are the salt of the earth.
But if salt loses its taste, with what can it be seasoned?
It is no longer good for anything
but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.
You are the light of the world.
A city set on a mountain cannot be hidden.
Nor do they light a lamp and then put it under a bushel basket;
it is set on a lampstand,
where it gives light to all in the house.
Just so, your light must shine before others,
that they may see your good deeds
and glorify your heavenly Father.”

Be Light
Today we live in a world full of contradictions, where everyone wants to show outward beauty, yet we are ashamed to reveal the beauty within. We do not mind exposing our bodies, but we are often incapable of uncovering even a small part of our soul.
These words of Jesus invite us to do the exact opposite: to give glory to God by making His Love visible through our small gestures and ordinary daily actions, by being light… and what better way to be light than by showing the beauty and greatness of our marriage?
There is no need to do anything extraordinary. Through our simple daily witness and small signs of affection — walking hand in hand down the street, a loving glance, a hug, a kiss… speaking of “marriage” when there is a sacrament and not merely of a “partner” — all these little acts give glory to God because they gradually fill this world with light.

Applied to Married Life
(Antonio is shopping at the greengrocer’s.)
Antonio: Good morning! Would you be so kind as to give me a quarter of a kilo of strawberries? But please choose the very best and the most beautiful ones!
Greengrocer: Of course. I received a fresh delivery this morning and they look absolutely wonderful. Are they for today?
Antonio: Yes, I need to prepare a dessert for my wife, so they must be the very best. María Lourdes loves strawberries and I want to surprise her.
Greengrocer: It is lovely to see a husband care so much for his wife. Nowadays that is not very common.
Antonio: I try… My wife is a gift from the Lord, the greatest treasure I have, and that is why I take such good care of her!
Greengrocer: You have really made me think, and you are absolutely right. Tonight I will prepare something special for my husband as well. It has been a long time since I last had a thoughtful detail for him.

Mother,
May we be a witness of light in this world of darkness.
Glory be to the Lord!

Quantity, or quality? Reflection for married couples. Mark 12:38-44

Gospel

‘This poor widow has put in more than everyone.’
Mark 12:38-44

At that time: In his teaching Jesus said to the crowd, ‘Beware of the scribes, who like to walk around in long robes and like greetings in the market-places, and have the best seats in the synagogues, and the places of honour at feasts, who devour widows’ houses, and, for a pretence, make long prayers. They will receive the greater condemnation.’
  And he sat down opposite the treasury and watched the people putting money into the offering box. Many rich people put in large sums. And a poor widow came and put in two small copper coins, which make a penny. And he called his disciples to him and said to them, ‘Truly, I say to you, this poor widow has put in more than all those who are contributing to the offering box. For they all contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in everything she had, all she had to live on.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Quantity, or quality?

In this Gospel, Jesus contrasts two attitudes of the heart: the appearance of the scribes, who seek recognition, prestige and the approval of others, and the quiet self-giving of the poor widow, who offers all that she has. In this way, He invites us to examine how we live out our love and self-giving. Because we too can fall into the temptation of doing things in the hope that our spouse, our family or others will recognise our efforts, when what truly matters is not what appears important in human eyes, but the love we put into it, the intention of the heart.
In married life, this means giving ourselves to our spouse not only when it is easy or convenient, but especially in the small things of everyday life. The Lord does not ask us for great acts of heroism or extraordinary demonstrations of love, but for a total gift of the heart. True communion is built through the willingness to give oneself completely to the other each day. Sometimes what we offer may seem little: time, patient listening, forgiveness, service, giving up our own way, seeking the good of the other… But when it comes from a heart that gives itself without reserve, it has infinite value before God. Love in a matrimony grows when each spouse chooses to give themselves entirely, trusting that God sustains and multiplies that self-giving. Only through a total gift of ourselves to our spouse will we be truly happy.

Applied to Married Life:

Jessica: Praying with this Gospel has touched me deeply. I can see that Jesus does not look at the amount the widow gives, but at the love and trust with which she offers her few coins.
Martin: Well, it makes me think about our marriage. I wonder whether I really only give what is comfortable for me. Because sometimes I focus on doing big things, but forget to give you my time, my attention and my heart.
Jessica: It’s true, Martin. Sometimes we forget that marriage consists in a total gift of self. And when I look at my daily life, I realise that at times I offer time, affection or service only when I have energy left over.
Martin: The widow gives everything she had to live on. She gives everything, Jessica! I feel that the Lord is asking me to give you my heart, to trust more and not keep parts of myself in reserve.
Jessica: And He invites me to offer myself joyfully, without keeping score, and to make every small sacrifice for you an offering of love and an opportunity to grow in communion.
Martin: May our love be a sincere offering to God in every ordinary detail of life.
Jessica: Amen.

Mother,

teach us to give ourselves completely, in silence, without keeping score, as You did here on earth, and as You continue to do. Blessed and glorious are You, Mother! Praised be the Lord for ever!