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It overwhelms me. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 1:1-17

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From the Gospel according to Matthew 1:1-17

The book of the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham. Abraham became the father of Isaac,Isaac the father of Jacob, Jacob the father of Judah and his brothers.Judah became the father of Perez and Zerah, whose mother was Tamar. Perez became the father of Hezron, Hezron the father of Ram, Ram the father of Amminadab. Amminadab became the father of Nahshon, Nahshon the father of Salmon, Salmon the father of Boaz, whose mother was Rahab. Boaz became the father of Obed, whose mother was Ruth. Obed became the father of Jesse,Jesse the father of David the king.
David became the father of Solomon, whose mother had been the wife of Uriah. Solomon became the father of Rehoboam, Rehoboam the father of Abijah, Abijah the father of Asaph. Asaph became the father of Jehoshaphat, Jehoshaphat the father of Joram, Joram the father of Uzziah. Uzziah became the father of Jotham, Jotham the father of Ahaz, Ahaz the father of Hezekiah. Hezekiah became the father of Manasseh, Manasseh the father of Amos,Amos the father of Josiah. Josiah became the father of Jechoniah and his brothers at the time of the Babylonian exile.
After the Babylonian exile, Jechoniah became the father of Shealtiel, Shealtiel the father of Zerubbabel, Zerubbabel the father of Abiud. Abiud became the father of Eliakim, Eliakim the father of Azor, Azor the father of Zadok. Zadok became the father of Achim, Achim the father of Eliud, Eliud the father of Eleazar. Eleazar became the father of Matthan,Matthan the father of Jacob, Jacob the father of Joseph, the husband of Mary. Of her was born Jesus who is called the Christ.
Thus the total number of generations from Abraham to David is fourteen generations; from David to the Babylonian exile, fourteen generations; from the Babylonian exile to the Christ, fourteen generations.

It overwhelms me

It is astonishing to contemplate how an eternal, infinite, all-powerful God chose to come into the world in the same way as any one of us: within a family history, through a real genealogy, full of names and lives as imperfect as ours. He, who could have come wrapped in power and majesty, chose instead to arrive through the humble doorway of our humanity.
In Jesus’ genealogy there are names that mean almost nothing to history, imperfect lives, complicated families, disorder, sins… and yet, through all of this, God continues forward with his plan of salvation. Such is the heart of God: a heart that does not recoil from our poverty, that discards no one. When I contemplate this… I simply fall in love. What can I do but surrender to this Love? I can only say: Who is like God?
Lord, today in my prayer I want to contemplate this mystery: your greatness, your majesty made small; your self-emptying that makes you one with us… this humility of yours overwhelms me, surpasses me, Lord… and I can only adore you.

Applied to married life:

Isabella: Mike, I’ve been feeling nervous for days thinking about how we’re going to manage this year… my parents want us to spend Christmas Eve there; yours do too, but only to spite me, because in reality they can’t stand me… I’m exhausted before we even start! Every Christmas feels like an impossible test. Once again your mother reproaching me, your father always so serious, seeming annoyed with me, I don’t know… so strange… all of this overwhelms me… it’s been so many years of tension with them, with your siblings… I give up!
Mike: You know what I was thinking while reading Jesus’ genealogy? That there were conflicts there too, and some worse than ours… and yet God entered through that door. Jesus didn’t choose a genealogy of perfect lives, just as we don’t choose our families either…
Isabella: I’d never thought of it that way, honestly.
Mike: Maybe this family chaos is precisely the door through which Jesus wants to enter our marriage this year.
Isabella: I’m honestly afraid of going through the same thing again and continuing to suffer because of this. What can we do?
Mike: Well… I don’t know. To begin with, let’s fix our eyes on Jesus, on that humility, that self-emptying out of love… If Jesus could be born from a wounded genealogy, he can also be born in our imperfect families. We can’t choose them, but we can choose to love them in the midst of all this mess.
Isabella: It’s going to be very hard for me, Mike. You’re going to have to help me…
Mike: Of course, my love. For now, let’s start by praying for them.

Mother,

how impressive God’s plan is, nothing is improvised. This entire genealogy has been prepared so that Jesus might reach my heart. Thank you, Mother, for opening the door of our humanity to him; help me to open my heart as well. Blessed and praised be you!

Love The LOVE. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 21:28-32

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From the Gospel according to Matthew 21:28–32

Jesus said to the chief priests and the elders of the people: “What is your opinion? A man had two sons. He came to the first and said, ‘Son, go out and work in the vineyard today.’ The son said in reply, ‘I will not,’ but afterwards he changed his mind and went. The man came to the other son and gave the same order. He said in reply, ‘Yes, sir,’ but did not go. Which of the two did his father’s will?” They answered, “The first.”Jesus said to them, “Amen, I say to you, tax collectors and prostitutes are entering the Kingdom of God before you. When John came to you in the way of righteousness, you did not believe him; but tax collectors and prostitutes did. Yet even when you saw that, you did not later change your minds and believe him.”

Love The LOVE

To you, dear soul, the Lord speaks. Do the will of the Father; do not grieve the Holy Spirit. Do not postpone what Love is asking of you. Give everything. That idea stuck in your mind that you know you are holding back. That standard you do not want to let go of. That surrender that frightens you. That renunciation you try to negotiate. What you keep and do not give ends up fragmenting and desolating your heart. Surrender peacefully to the Love that does not fight; do not negotiate, do not give yourself in parts. Give yourself completely at once, just as He gave Himself entirely for you on the Cross. Does your heart not move at the inexhaustible love of a God who seeks you tirelessly? The prophets already proclaimed it: “God does not grow weary or tired,” “My love will not be taken from you,” “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” Where will we find such love? May it not be so hard for us to love Him by doing His will! He will never force you; He will always draw you with His love but you must use your strength, your will, to struggle against yourself, because it is from yourself that He comes to save you. Return to His Heart, if at any moment you have strayed. The way back is Christ, perfectly obedient to the Father. Be obedient too. Give Him what you hold back and what He asks of you. Give Him your heart and its affections; give Him your little treasures; give Him your marriage and give Him your misery; the kind no one wants; He does want it. Give everything you have accumulated in this life that does not truly belong to you, because everything is a gift. Strip yourself of everything, be left with nothing, and you will find Everything. And with your gaze fixed on Mary, Mother of God and your Mother, let yourself be guided. She will teach you; let yourself be formed desire to arrive, and you will arrive.

Applied to married life

Karen: Peter, I wouldn’t like you to go out for drinks after the company Christmas dinner. Last year you drank too much and you know what happened…
Peter: My goodness, Karen, are you really asking me that? That’s when we really relax, talk, and build team spirit, which the company badly needs. Everyone is looking forward to that moment! I can’t do that to them, Karen.
Karen: (sad tone) Okay, my love, do what you think is best.
On the night of the dinner, Peter arrived home at midnight, and Karen was reading in bed.
Karen: Well, you’re already back! I’m so happy!
Peter: And I’m happy too, Karen. I won’t deny that it was very hard for me to leave right after dinner, it really was. And the comments from my coworkers… you can imagine… But I couldn’t get out of my head what you told me and the love with which you told it, so I grabbed my coat and left.
Karen: (smiling) Thank you, my love.
Peter: No, thank you, really. You have no idea the feeling of victory I had while walking home. This is a real high, not the kind rum gives. hahaha
Karen: Glory to God!
Peter: Glory to Him, my beautiful and suitable helper always to Him be the glory!

Mother,

Help us always remember your words and make them our own: “Let it be done to me according to Your will.” Everything for the greater glory and praise of our God!

Go and Announce. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 11:2-11

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From the Gospel according to Matthew, 11:2-11

When John the Baptist heard in prison of the works of the Christ, he sent his disciples to Jesus with this question, “Are you the one who is to come, or should we look for another?” Jesus said to them in reply, “Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind regain their sight, the lame walk, lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the poor have the good news proclaimed to them. And blessed is the one who takes no offense at me.” 
As they were going off, Jesus began to speak to the crowds about John, “What did you go out to the desert to see? A reed swayed by the wind? Then what did you go out to see? Someone dressed in fine clothing? Those who wear fine clothing are in royal palaces. Then why did you go out? To see a prophet? Yes, I tell you, and more than a prophet. This is the one about whom it is written: Behold, I am sending my messenger ahead of you; he will prepare your way before you. 
Amen, I say to you, among those born of women there has been none greater than John the Baptist; yet the least in the kingdom of heaven is greater than he.”

Go and Announce

The darkness of going through a trial or difficulty can lead us to doubt whether we are truly following the right path. John the Baptist although he had pointed to Jesus as “the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world” also lived moments of darkness in prison, and he had to send his disciples to ask for answers. 
In the face of our doubts, the Lord answers with witnesses: Go and announce what you are seeing and hearing. Marriages that were blind, lost, now see the gift they are for one another; those who were living their sacrament in a mediocre way now see the beauty of their marriage; those who were broken by their sin are cleansed and begin a new life; and those who were closed to grace now welcome the Word that saves them. Even couples who had been separated for many years, “dead”, rise again, and the life of their marriage is renewed.
You spouses who are witnesses of all this: do not get tired of announcing what the Lord has done in you and what you contemplate in the Conyugal Love Project retreats.

Applied to Married Life

Steve: Hi Helen! How was your day?
Helen: Good. And yours?
Steve: Well, I ran into Charlie and he told me things are terrible with Kris, that they’re going through a huge crisis and he doesn’t think he can take much more. He said the only reason he’s still at home is because of the kids… and he even told me they might be better off separating.
Helen: Oh my goodness!
Steve: I told him about our own experience, how a couple of years ago we were in a very similar situation, and we were invited to a Conyugal Love Project retreat, and our life changed. We discovered how beautiful our marriage really is.
Helen: And did you tell him we’re not the only ones who’ve discovered this? That there are thousands of couples who have experienced the same thing?
Steve: Yes, and above all that there is light in everything that happens to us. That the difficulties remain, but you learn to live them with the Lord.
Helen: I hope you mentioned the tutor couples, that we never walk alone, that there are those wonderful stretcher-bearers who carry us closer to God…
Steve: Of course! And I invited him to the next retreat.
Helen: And what did he say?
Steve: I could see a ray of hope in him. He said he would bring it up to Kris.
Helen: That’s wonderful! That’s already a step. Now it’s our turn to pray and make sacrifices so that they accept and embrace God’s plan for their marriage.
Steve: Well then, let’s get to it!

Mother,

Help us never to grow tired of thanking the Lord for what He has done for us and of announcing it to other marriages.
Blessed and praised be He forever!

Recognizing You in My Husband. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 17:10-13

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From the Gospel according to Matthew 17:10-13.
As they were coming down from the mountain, the disciples asked Jesus, “Why do the scribes say that Elijah must come first?” He said in reply, “Elijah will indeed come and restore all things; but I tell you that Elijah has already come, and they did not recognize him but did to him whatever they pleased. So also will the Son of Man suffer at their hands.” Then the disciples understood that he was speaking to them of John the Baptist.

 
Recognizing You in My Husband

Lord, I wonder whether I would have recognized You when You came. And today, do I recognize You in my husband, or do my pride and self-love hide Your presence in him/her? This Advent, I want to learn to see You in my spouse: to speak to him/her with tenderness, to look into his/her eyes and discover there Your gaze. Just as many did not recognize Elijah in John the Baptist because they expected something more spectacular, may we not make the same mistake with You in the everyday.
Saint John Paul II reminded us that husband and wife are a reciprocal gift, a sacrament of Your Love. For this reason, help me to recognize Your ways of reaching me through my spouse, through his/her words, in what he enjoys and what wounds him, in his fragility, and in the small details of daily life.
May I never have to hear: “I sent you a husband as a suitable help, and you did not recognize Me in him/her.”
Lord, this Advent open my eyes and my heart to discover You in my husband and to prepare our hearts together for Your coming.

Applied to Married Life

Miriam: Dan, can we talk about something that’s been on my heart and has worried me a little?
Dan: Of course, sweetheart. Sit down and tell me whatever you need.
Miriam: It’s about our intimacy. I feel that lately we’ve been growing distant… as if our hearts were walking without meeting. It saddens me because I long for us to live a fuller communion.
Dan: Sweetheart, I’ve felt it too. When I come close to you and sense distance, I wonder if your heart no longer wants to unite with mine. And sometimes I fear your silence is a sign that I’m losing you.
Miriam: It’s not rejection, Dan. It’s just that I need to feel your affection and tenderness… that helps me to give myself.
Dan: I understand, Miriam, and I’m sorry for having created distance. When I seek you physically, it’s not only desire; it’s my way of saying, “I need you, I want to unite with you, I want to be one with you.” But when I see you’re tired, I stop… and sometimes I feel frustrated because it seems my desire for communion isn’t welcomed.
Miriam: Oh Dan… I’m so sorry…
Dan: What would help me is that, if you’re not ready, you tell me what you need in order to feel closer. I don’t want to guess or create stories that aren’t real.
Miriam: Of course, Dan. And what would help me is that you show me your affection through small gestures: a hug, a look… without it immediately implying a physical encounter.
Dan: Miriam, thank you for your understanding and for listening to me.
Miriam: Thank you for trusting me with your heart.

Mother,

This Advent, teach us to imitate Your humility in our marriage, so that we may open our hearts to Christ and to mutual communion. Blessed and praised are You forever, Lord.

Restless. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 11:16-19

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From the Gospel according to Matthew, 11, 16-19. 

Jesus said to the crowds: “To what can I compare this generation? They are like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling out to others: “‘We played the pipe for you, and you did not dance; we sang a dirge, and you did not mourn.’ For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, ‘He has a demon.’ The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners.’ But wisdom is proved right by her deeds.”

 

Restless.

The Lord’s patience is infinite. He is always calling us, tirelessly, asking for our “yes” to him so that He may work in us. Yet we ignore Him, because we lack faith and because we stubbornly insist on doing our own will. The same happens with our spouse: we insist on being right, and we also lack faith because we fail to fully believe that our spouse is a means through which the Lord leads us to Him. It is part of God’s plan, a beautiful plan in which we must strip ourselves of our own ideas and hand them over to the Lord, so that He may accomplish His work in us and in our marriage.

 

Applied to Married Life.

Charles: You know what, Claire? Ever since we went to the Coyugal Love Proyect retreat, I don’t see you the same way. I’ve gone from seeing you as someone who sometimes got in my way, to seeing you as the person God has placed by my side so that we may reach Him, purely out of grace.
Claire: It’s true, Charles, I feel something similar. And I also know now that I need to let go of my own criteria if I want to be in communion with you and with the Lord. Forgive me for all the times I tried to impose myself and didn’t value you enough, even knowing that you are a mediation for reaching God.
Charles: No, Claire, you forgive me. Because I know there are times when I fail. Thank God the Lord calls me again and again to trust Him more, so that we may place our marriage in His hands and unite ourselves to Him through our sacrament. 

Mother,

You who are the intermediary of all graces, help us to have greater faith so that we may draw closer to Him. Praised be the Lord!