Monthly Archives: May 2024

Spiritual Milk. Reflection for marriages Mark 10, 46-52

“Master, I want to see.”
Reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Mark 10, 46-52
As Jesus was leaving Jericho with his disciples and a sizable crowd,
Bartimaeus, a blind man, the son of Timaeus,
sat by the roadside begging.
On hearing that it was Jesus of Nazareth,
he began to cry out and say,
“Jesus, son of David, have pity on me.”
And many rebuked him, telling him to be silent.
But he kept calling out all the more, “Son of David, have pity on me.”
Jesus stopped and said, “Call him.”
So they called the blind man, saying to him,
“Take courage; get up, Jesus is calling you.”
He threw aside his cloak, sprang up, and came to Jesus.
Jesus said to him in reply, “What do you want me to do for you?”
The blind man replied to him, “Master, I want to see.”
Jesus told him, “Go your way; your faith has saved you.”
Immediately he received his sight
and followed him on the way.
Word of the Lord.
Spiritual Milk
As the first reading in Peter’s letter states: “…desire the pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation, if you have tasted the kindness of the Lord.”
I see myself nursing from the Mother Church and from the prayer in which Mary leads me to Jesus, that spiritual milk that reveals to me the love that God has for me and for my wife, and for loved ones and not-so-loved ones…
I see myself nursing from the consecrated Host and extracting the sweet juice of divine Mercy. The nectar of grace, savoring the truth, amazed by the supernatural beauty of my spouse…
Give me more, Lord, Son of David, as I am still hungry for You and thirsty for Love.
Applied to Married Life:
Claudia: Husband, what do you keep in your memory of our relationship? I have some dark moments that occasionally surface and cause me pain.
Salva: I do too. But I am learning to purify my memory so that everything within my heart carries a touch of God’s grace and is enveloped in Love. This way everything becomes part of our salvation history.
Claudia: That sounds good, but I don’t quite understand it. Can you give me an example?
Salva: Well, sometimes I would remember that person you were flirting with. The pain that came over me was indescribable. It provoked a tremendous anger against you and even more against him.
Claudia: I know. I don’t know how I could do something so terrible to you, but I also didn’t know how to recover and fight against that ghost of the past for which I have asked for forgiveness a thousand times.
Salva: So, I’ve decided to rejoice in having suffered the pain that I inflict on Him and so many others every time I disregard His sacrifice for me by focusing on worldly things.
This experience has helped me to unite with Him in sacrifice for your redemption, and has borne much fruit in my heart. Now, when that memory comes to me, it is wrapped in desires to suffer for your salvation, dear wife, and in reparation for the wounded Heart of Christ.
Purify our memory so that we only keep in our hearts what You stored in Yours. Mother, may I see with Your eyes. Amen.

Misunderstood but faithful. Reflection for marriages Mark 10:32-45


Behold, we are going up to Jerusalem, and the Son of Man
will be handed over to the chief priests and the scribes. Reading from the holy Gospel according to Saint Mark 10:32-45
The disciples were on the way, going up to Jerusalem,
and Jesus went ahead of them.
They were amazed, and those who followed were afraid.
Taking the Twelve aside again, he began to tell them
what was going to happen to him.
“Behold, we are going up to Jerusalem, and the Son of Man
will be handed over to the chief priests and the scribes,
and they will condemn him to death
and hand him over to the Gentiles who will mock him,
spit upon him, scourge him, and put him to death,
but after three days he will rise.”
Then James and John, the sons of Zebedee,
came to Jesus and said to him,
“Teacher, we want you to do for us whatever we ask of you.”
He replied, “What do you wish me to do for you?”
They answered him,
“Grant that in your glory
we may sit one at your right and the other at your left.”
Jesus said to them, “You do not know what you are asking.
Can you drink the chalice that I drink
or be baptized with the baptism with which I am baptized?”
They said to him, “We can.”
Jesus said to them, “The chalice that I drink, you will drink,
and with the baptism with which I am baptized, you will be baptized;
but to sit at my right or at my left is not mine to give
but is for those for whom it has been prepared.”
When the ten heard this, they became indignant at James and John.
Jesus summoned them and said to them,
“You know that those who are recognized as rulers over the Gentiles
lord it over them,
and their great ones make their authority over them felt.
But it shall not be so among you.
Rather, whoever wishes to be great among you will be your servant;
whoever wishes to be first among you will be the slave of all.
For the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve
and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
The Gospel of the Lord.
Misunderstood but faithful.
This is how the quintessential Spouse acts, giving His life as a ransom for many. It was clear that Jesus was not being understood by His disciples, as He spoke of being ridiculed and killed while His friends were concerned with securing the best positions. They were self-centered and driven by the typical inner tyranny of worldly leaders. But Jesus was not disturbed by this, nor did their response change His determination to give Himself for them and many more, in faithfulness to the Father’s will and out of love for them. May the misunderstandings of our spouse not separate us from our vocation to total self-giving like His.
Applied to Married Life:
Inés: I don’t feel understood by my husband at all, and that makes me protect myself from him.
Paco: No Inés, that is not the way. On one hand, precisely to know and understand yourself, you need to surrender to your husband. And secondly, precisely for your husband to know you and purify his gaze towards you, the best thing you can do is to surrender to him.
Inés: It’s a big sacrifice of my emotions, but I understand it. I understand that in my surrender despite the circumstances, true love is found. Thank you for helping me to love in the name of the Lord.
Nothing and no one stopped you from giving yourself completely and with all its consequences. We also offer our surrender. Thank you, Mother.

Little but everything. Reflection for marriages Mark 10, 28-31

You will receive in this time a hundred times more, with persecutions, and in the age to come, eternal life.
Reading from the holy Gospel according to Saint Mark 10, 28-31
Peter began to say to Jesus,
“We have given up everything and followed you.”
Jesus said, “Amen, I say to you,
there is no one who has given up house or brothers or sisters
or mother or father or children or lands
for my sake and for the sake of the Gospel
who will not receive a hundred times more now in this present age:
houses and brothers and sisters
and mothers and children and lands,
with persecutions, and eternal life in the age to come.
But many that are first will be last, and the last will be first.”
The Gospel of the Lord.
Little but everything.
Yes, 100 times more. There is no equal return in the world, but the only condition is to leave everything. And what is most difficult is to leave one’s own honor: to ask for forgiveness for what I have not done, to agree with joy and conviction even if I do not believe the other is right…
Mother, today I come before Your Son, with a full heart, because I have been surrendering my honor for some time now thanks to the Love of His Sacred Heart that you have transmitted to me and that moves me. But do not give me more of this that I receive now because I will explode, and besides, I do not deserve it. I want to continue surrendering my honor but without consolations, and in secret. Only for you. Dispose as you wish of this tiny gesture of love that I make to you and to Him.
Applied to Married Life:
Alberto: Thank you, Mother, because today the Supreme Master has allowed a misunderstanding between my wife and me, and her comments hurt me. Thank you for allowing this poor sinner to adhere to God’s Love for her. I offer this sacrifice for Your free disposal, although I ask that if possible, it may contribute to the salvation of my wife, and if any punishment is due, let it fall on me.
Marta: Thank you, Mother, for the public humiliation that the Supreme Master has allowed me to receive publicly through my husband, which has filled me with so much joy. I offer it to you in case this small contribution might be useful for the greater glory of God, and if You will, especially for the salvation of my husband.
(And the glory of God was filling their hearts a hundred times more)
I am all Yours, Mary. Help me to give you all my smallness. Little but everything. Thank you, Mother.

Hanging by a thread. Reflection for marriages Mark 10, 17-27


Go, sell what you have, and give to the poor
and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me.
Reading from the holy Gospel according to Mark 10, 17-27
As Jesus was setting out on a journey, a man ran up,
knelt down before him, and asked him,
“Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”
Jesus answered him, “Why do you call me good?
No one is good but God alone.
You know the commandments: You shall not kill;
you shall not commit adultery;
you shall not steal;
you shall not bear false witness;
you shall not defraud;
honor your father and your mother.”
He replied and said to him,
“Teacher, all of these I have observed from my youth.”
Jesus, looking at him, loved him and said to him,
“You are lacking in one thing.
Go, sell what you have, and give to the poor
and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me.”
At that statement, his face fell,
and he went away sad, for he had many possessions.
Jesus looked around and said to his disciples,
“How hard it is for those who have wealth
to enter the Kingdom of God!”
The disciples were amazed at his words.
So Jesus again said to them in reply,
“Children, how hard it is to enter the Kingdom of God!
It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle
than for one who is rich to enter the Kingdom of God.”
They were exceedingly astonished and said among themselves,
“Then who can be saved?”
Jesus looked at them and said,
“For men it is impossible, but not for God.
All things are possible for God.”
The word of the Lord.
Hanging by a thread.
A dove cannot fly, whether tied by a thread or a thick cord. Conjugal love demands the entirety of the person, and the Lord wants my soul to soar, to be free in order to surrender. The rich young man couldn’t fly; he lacked one thing: giving up his riches. What is stopping me from being an authentic Christian spouse? What is hindering me from fully committing in my marriage? The Lord’s words will always echo in our ears: “You lack one thing.” Could it be my pride? My soul cannot fly because it hangs by a thread. I don’t fully surrender because I want to hold onto something of myself, as if it belongs to me, yet I must not forget that I was bought by the Blood of Christ.
Applied to married life:
Marriage Coach: What prevents or prevented you from fully surrendering to each other?
Laura: My husband lacks faith, making our relationship impossible.
Ramón: I come home late from work, and by the time I arrive, my wife is already asleep. But I can’t come home earlier as I might lose my job.
Lucía: He doesn’t understand me.
Jaime: We don’t have time to pray together and dedicate ourselves to our relationship.
Alicia: He’s too dependent on his mother, and she’s always meddling.
Andrés: He can’t forgive the wrong I did.
Paula: I can’t stand him lying to me.
Javier: She’s very aggressive and says hurtful things to me.
Marriage Coach: We are unable to love in each of those situations because “one thing is lacking” for us to be Christian spouses. Christian spouses are those who love like Christ in His Passion. Did His Wife have faith? Did she treat him well? Did she appreciate his sacrifice? Was she his priority?
Show me the beauty and grandeur of love so that I desire nothing else. May my desire always be the will of God. Through Jesus Christ Our Lord. Amen.

We are not examples. Reflection for marriages Matthew 28:16-20

” Baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.”
From the Gospel according to Matthew 28:16-20
The eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain to which Jesus had ordered them. When they all saw him, they worshiped, but they doubted. Then Jesus approached and said to them, “All power in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, until the end of the age.”
The Gospel of the Lord.
We are not examples. 
Today we celebrate the Holy Trinity, a great day especially for marriages because They are our model of Communion, whom we represent here on Earth through our marital communion. This is something to meditate on deeply, over and over again. God Himself gives us, as spouses, the mission to represent with our love all the greatness and beauty of His Love of Communion. So few of us know and desire this, which gives us an even greater responsibility because we are the chosen ones. Priests are entrusted with the mission of baptizing in His name. We have the mission to make disciples of Christ Spouse, all marriages, teaching them to observe all that the Lord has commanded us.
Applied to Married Life:
Mentor Couple: The Lord is pleased because you are embracing the gift of God. You have been open to discovering His logic, which is contrary to the worldly one. To complete the process of the Good News of Marriage, you need to announce it to other couples. Those who do not take this step remain closed in themselves, and everything they receive seems insufficient.
Jack and Emily: Us? No, no way. We are not prepared. We are not an example for anyone.
Mentor Couple: None of us are examples for anyone; we are witnesses of God’s Love, which is different. We have discovered where the gift of marriage is as God wants it, and we must transmit it so others can know and aim towards it. And most importantly: Christ promised He would be with us, so do not be afraid. You are well accompanied. It is good that you do not trust in your own strength, but it would not be good if you did not trust in His.
The Lord gives us the Holy Word of the Father, which is Himself, but like any gift, it implies a task—the task of spreading it, of sharing it so that others may also reach their fullness. Let us not be led by the temptation of false humility and understand that we are going to talk about Him and His work, not about ourselves. Praise be to the Lord who has been great with us. Amen.