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Once again. Reflection for marriages. Mark 1:40-45

Gospel

Leprosy left him, and he became clean.

From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 1:40-45

A leper came to him and kneeling down begged him and said,
“If you wish, you can make me clean.”
Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand,
touched the leper, and said to him,
“I do will it. Be made clean.”
The leprosy left him immediately, and he was made clean.
Then, warning him sternly, he dismissed him at once.
Then he said to him, “See that you tell no one anything,
but go, show yourself to the priest
and offer for your cleansing what Moses prescribed;
that will be proof for them.”
The man went away and began to publicize the whole matter.
He spread the report abroad
so that it was impossible for Jesus to enter a town openly.
He remained outside in deserted places,
and people kept coming to him from everywhere.

The Gospel of the Lord

Once again

One of the most profound wonders of our Catholic faith is the opportunity for cleansing and starting afresh. It is the spectacular miracle of Confession. It seems unbelievable that some people do not confess regularly to partake in this miracle. The sanctifying grace is restored, accompanied by an additional grace that strengthens the faculties of the soul. Obviously, thereafter, one must engage in a path of purification, also relying on grace; otherwise, one will inevitably return to the same cycle.

Another remarkable wonder is that we are called, as spouses, to mutually forgive each other. This is essential for the survival of a marriage. Restore dignity to your spouse so that they can embark on a new beginning and praise God.

Applied to Married Life:

Clare: I had already confessed, the Lord had forgiven me, and it was an immense relief, but until you forgave me and reconciled with me, I did not regain my peace. I need reconciliation with you to be well.

John: I need you very much too. When you are distant, I am not well. I need to feel united with you, and when there is resentment in your heart, I lack life.

Clare: Indeed, because to truly forgive, one must genuinely love. And I genuinely love you.

Mother,

The Lord cannot resist when we need Him and approach Him with faith. Grant us more faith, Mother.

He continues to act like this. Reflection for marriages. Mark 1:29-39

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 1:29-39

On leaving the synagogue Jesus entered the house of Simon and Andrew with James and John. Simon’s mother-in-law lay sick with a fever. They immediately told him about her. He approached, grasped her hand, and helped her up. Then the fever left her and she waited on them.

When it was evening, after sunset, they brought to him all who were ill or possessed by demons. The whole town was gathered at the door. He cured many who were sick with various diseases, and he drove out many demons, not permitting them to speak because they knew him. Rising very early before dawn, he left and went off to a deserted place, where he prayed. Simon and those who were with him pursued him and on finding him said, “Everyone is looking for you.” He told them, “Let us go on to the nearby villages that I may preach there also. For this purpose have I come.” So he went into their synagogues, preaching and driving out demons throughout the whole of Galilee.

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

He continues to act like this.

The Lord sought and seeks nothing for Himself, not even recognition, and thus He continues to act from the right hand of God the Father. He is a source of grace, a source of healing, a rocket to heaven. All His power is at our disposal. Will we take advantage of it? Let us do as He does and let us go to pray.

 

Applied to married life:

Lucy: I don’t feel valued, despite everything I do for you.

Deklan: I don’t feel valued by you either.

(Both went before the Lord to pray together, and the Lord acted.)

 

Lucy: Now I see things differently. What better opportunity for my life than to give it for you and announce the Lord?

Deklan: Nothing is more worthy or greater. It is an honor to serve you. I need nothing more for myself.

 

Mother,

Giving is what makes us resemble Christ. How good it is to have a vocation and a place to give ourselves away. Thank you, Lord.

Authority or Authoritarianism. Reflection for marriages. Mark 1:21-28

Gospel

He taught with Authority.
From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 1:21-28.

Jesus came to Capernaum with his followers, and on the sabbath he entered the synagogue and taught. The people were astonished at his teaching, for he taught them as one having authority and not as the scribes.
In their synagogue was a man with an unclean spirit; he cried out, “What have you to do with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are–the Holy One of God!” Jesus rebuked him and said, “Quiet! Come out of him!” The unclean spirit convulsed him and with a loud cry came out of him. All were amazed and asked one another, “What is this? A new teaching with authority. He commands even the unclean spirits and they obey him.” His fame spread everywhere throughout the whole region of Galilee.

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

Authority or Authoritarianism.

The scribes and Pharisees spread the Word of God but did not cast out unclean spirits from people. They imposed the law but did not expel evil. Christ, on the other hand, conveys the Word with authority because unclean spirits obey Him, and only God can cast out demons.

 

Lord, there are times when I preach Your Word in my home to my spouse, but I do it by impossing “corrections,” asserting my position of “I do it, and you don’t.” What do I discover by doing this? I do discover that I have no authority over him/her, and I fail to cast out evil from my home; rather, I strengthen that evil, causing my spouse to rebel against me or escape from listening me. Only by casting out the “unclean spirits” will I be conveying Your Word in Your name, Lord.

 

So, I have decided to change tactics. I will stop demanding that my spouse be more perfect than he/she is, and instead, I will make him/her feel welcomed by me, rest in me when tired, have confidence in me, and share his/her thoughts without fear of reprimand. I will be his/her friend, confidant, someone who pampers him/her, makes him/her feel valued, and shows the most mercy. I believe that is what you ask me to give, Lord. In short, I will be the one who loves him/her the most. Perhaps by behaving like a true spouse, I will effectively use the authority you have given me to help him/her and bring out the best in him/her.

 

Applied to married life:

Peter: Darling, I acknowledge that I’m making your life difficult with so many complaints about you. I understand perfectly that you don’t feel valued because hardly anything good comes out of my mouth when I talk about you. But I want you to know that I really value you a lot, and I want you to rest in me when you’re with me, to be relaxed with me, to feel important beside me, and to be yourself without fear of reproach. I want you to feel a part of me because I understand you. I don’t want to bury our love under a pile of reasoning and laws I impose on you. I want our love to flourish beautifully, full of color.

Mary: (Emotional) Thank you, darling. Now I feel much better. I will do the same. I will love you as you are, let you be yourself, and feel admired being you. The only thing that matters to me in life is seeing you happy. Everything else is secondary to me. If you are happy with me, I am happy. So, I won’t judge you when I see you nervous, take refuge in something, or when I see you bitter or dejected. Instead, I will calm you when you’re nervous, accompany you when you feel alone, make you happy when I see you sad, and encourage you when I see you tired. I believe that is the mission of a wife that God has entrusted to me.

Peter: Thank you, my love. I love you.

Mary: I love you.

 

Mother,

Sometimes, despite life’s difficulties, we make it harder for each other with so many demands and complaints. Always asking for more instead of making each other’s lives simpler, lightening each other’s burdens. God does not want us to act like the Pharisees, burdening each other with heavy loads. God wants us to love each other as He does, with tenderness, understanding, and mercy. Praise the Lord who speaks to us about love with such authority. He is the only Teacher. Amen.

 

Leaving father and mother. Reflection for marriages. Mk 1:14-20

Gospel
From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 1:14-20

Repent and believe the good news!

After John was put in prison, Jesus went into Galilee, proclaiming the good news of God. “The time has come,” he said. “The kingdom of God has come near. Repent and believe the good news!”. As Jesus walked beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw Simon and his brother Andrew casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. “Come, follow me,”Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” At once they left their nets and followed him.

When he had gone a little farther, he saw James son of Zebedee and his brother John in a boat, preparing their nets. Without delay he called them, and they left their father Zebedee in the boat with the hired men and followed him.

The Gospel of the Lord.

Leaving father and mother.

I have always wondered how poorly Zebedee must have felt when a stranger arrives, invites his sons to follow him, and they leave him alone with the boat and the nets. I have also wondered, what about Jesus? Doesn’t it bother him that Zebedee’s sons are leaving him alone? He could have at least called one and left the other… But God makes no mistakes. When He calls you, He calls you, and we must respond despite everything we leave behind.

It is relatively common for one of the spouses to have some “attachment” to their family of origin. First, because they are accustomed to being subject to their parents and depending on them; second, because there is affection and a sense of indebtedness towards them; and third, because with their family of origin, they feel “at home,” as it is where they were born and raised. But when I get married, God calls me to serve through my marriage, and that implies detaching myself from my parents. Can this cause them some kind of “pain”? It may be so, but it is God’s call, and He does not make mistakes. Not in vain, the family of origin often becomes one of the main reasons for breakups in marriages. It’s sadly ironic.

Therefore, there is a clear command from God: “A man (or woman) will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife (or husband), and the two will become one flesh. What God has joined together, let no one separate.” Christ explicitly mentions this because there may be a temptation to “leave” my spouse out of pity or a certain preference for my parents or siblings, and that is not what God wants. He wants me to become one flesh with my spouse, for that is why He created me.

Applied to married life.

James: My mother says we should come for lunch on Saturday.

Laura: James, it can not spend every weekend at your parents’ house. If we barely see each other during the week, on Saturday, we’re with your parents, and on Sunday, with mine. What time is left for us?

James: Well… they look forward to it, and it’s just a short time for lunch.

Laura: No, James. In the end, we don’t do anything else all day. Between you going, starting lunch late, then an eternal after-meal chat, helping to clear the table, and afterwards, it’s time for the children’s snack… We end up with no desire for anything else, and we go home to the couch. We don’t go on outings together, we no longer have our moments to talk, there are no moments to nurture our family, our own.

James: I understand. That should not be neglected. If you agree, from now on, we’ll plan weekends based on our plans. First, you and I; second, our own family; and any time left, we’ll dedicate to the extended family, friends, and others. Does that sound good to you?

Laura: Yes, thank you for understanding, James. Also, I needed to know that I am your priority. Sometimes I feel like you worry more about your parents than us.

James: Don´t be silly… You are my life, and you always will be. And after you, our little ones. I love you, I adore you.

Mother

Sometimes we are not aware of the importance of our vocation and that it is God who calls us to marriage, and it is God who wants us to focus on becoming one. Sometimes, we disguise as good to focus our attention and charity on other things or people that distract us from our vocation.

Mother, teach us to be faithful to our call, as you were. You subjugated anything else to your vocation as the Mother of God. Teach me to do the same with my vocation. Through Jesus Christ Our Lord. Amen.

 

Opening the heavens. Reflection for Marriages. Matthew 2:1-12

GOSPEL
From the Gospel according to Matthew
Mt 2:1-12

When Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judea,
in the days of King Herod,
behold, magi from the east arrived in Jerusalem, saying,
“Where is the newborn king of the Jews?
We saw his star at its rising
and have come to do him homage.”
When King Herod heard this,
he was greatly troubled,
and all Jerusalem with him.
Assembling all the chief priests and the scribes of the people,
He inquired of them where the Christ was to be born.
They said to him, “In Bethlehem of Judea,
for thus it has been written through the prophet:
And you, Bethlehem, land of Judah,
are by no means least among the rulers of Judah;
since from you shall come a ruler,
who is to shepherd my people Israel.”
Then Herod called the magi secretly
and ascertained from them the time of the star’s appearance.
He sent them to Bethlehem and said,
“Go and search diligently for the child.
When you have found him, bring me word,
that I too may go and do him homage.”
After their audience with the king they set out.
And behold, the star that they had seen at its rising preceded them,
until it came and stopped over the place where the child was.
They were overjoyed at seeing the star,
and on entering the house
they saw the child with Mary his mother.
They prostrated themselves and did him homage.
Then they opened their treasures
and offered him gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh.
And having been warned in a dream not to return to Herod,
they departed for their country by another way.

The word of the Lord.

Opening the heavens.

Today, we reflect on the profound image of the Holy Trinity: where the Son undergoes baptism by John, the heavens dramatically unfold, unveiling the Holy Spirit, accompanied by the Father’s voice bestowing blessings upon Him, affirming, “You are my Son, the Beloved; with you, I am well pleased.” This serves as a poignant illustration of the Father’s love for the Son. Benedict XVI emphasized that “Christ’s alignment with the Father’s will paves the way to heaven, as heaven is the realm where God’s will is fulfilled.”
Hence, we, too, can “unlock heaven” by embracing God’s will for our marital purpose. In our spouse, we find our beloved, and during our baptism, God bestowed the Holy Spirit upon us. Let’s ponder this symbolic scene and integrate its essence into our married life.

Applied to married life:

Peter: (Praying) Lord, there are numerous instances when I struggle to comprehend the dynamics between my wife and me. Often, her thoughts and concerns elude me. She tends to hold onto grievances, overlooking my efforts and love. Unintentionally, I end up hurting her again, and sometimes, I catch myself being self-centered instead of considering her… Nevertheless, Lord, my ultimate desire is to align with Your will, even in my confusion, even if my attempts are awkward, even if my strength falls short. I want to convey this earnestly. With hopeful anticipation, I pray for Your will to unfold, even if it means tearing open the heavens. Amen.

Mother,

In this valley of tears, we sigh and weep, turning to you… gaze upon us with your merciful eyes, and once our exile concludes, reveal Jesus to us… Holy Mother of God, intercede for us, that we may prove worthy of the promises made by Our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.