You make me fall in love with you. Reflection for married couples. MT 15:21-28

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Matthew

MT 15:21-28

At that time Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon.

And behold, a Canaanite woman of that district came and called out,

“Have pity on me, Lord, Son of David!

My daughter is tormented by a demon.”

But he did not say a word in answer to her.

His disciples came and asked him,

“Send her away, for she keeps calling out after us.”

He said in reply,

“I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.”

But the woman came and did him homage, saying, “Lord, help me.”

He said in reply,

“It is not right to take the food of the children

and throw it to the dogs.”

She said, “Please, Lord, for even the dogs eat the scraps

that fall from the table of their masters.”

Then Jesus said to her in reply,

“O woman, great is your faith!

Let it be done for you as you wish.”

And her daughter was healed from that hour

The gospel of the Lord

You make me fall in love with you.

When I hear this Gospel, I have in my mind: I wish I could say that phrase so that Jesus would tell me: “Great is your faith.” What a compliment coming from Jesus! But that compliment comes after that faith has been tested by the path of humiliation.

Applied to Married Life:

Juan: One of the things that makes me fall in love with you even more is your faith.

Cristina: I love when you say that to me. There’s no greater compliment. In what situations do you notice my faith?

Juan: Especially when you live with peace and joy in a situation where someone humiliates you, and right after, you thank God for having experienced it with you.

Cristina: It’s true. I don’t really live through those situations myself. It’s the Lord who lives them for me.

Juan: Great is your faith.

Mother,

Model and Teacher of faith, give us more faith to live through humiliations in Your Immaculate Heart.

After His manifestation. Reflection for Married Couples. Mk 9:2-10

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Mark

Mk 9:2-10

Jesus took Peter, James, and his brother John,

and led them up a high mountain apart by themselves.

And he was transfigured before them,

and his clothes became dazzling white,

such as no fuller on earth could bleach them.

Then Elijah appeared to them along with Moses,

and they were conversing with Jesus.

Then Peter said to Jesus in reply,

“Rabbi, it is good that we are here!

Let us make three tents:

one for you, one for Moses, and one for Elijah.”

He hardly knew what to say, they were so terrified.

Then a cloud came, casting a shadow over them;

from the cloud came a voice,

“This is my beloved Son. Listen to him.”

Suddenly, looking around, they no longer saw anyone

but Jesus alone with them.

As they were coming down from the mountain,

he charged them not to relate what they had seen to anyone,

except when the Son of Man had risen from the dead.

So they kept the matter to themselves,

questioning what rising from the dead meant.

The gospel of the Lord

After His manifestation.

The Lord keeps His divine manifestation to show Himself to us incarnated as one of many. But for a moment He reveals Himself to Peter, James and John as He really is. It was necessary before they contemplated His transfiguration and His tearing in Gethsemane. On Mount Tabor, another event happened, the Father also manifests Himself, confirming that Jesus is His Son and the mediator of His Word. God the Father was with Him. This is also important, because Jesus, in addition to being God, did not face His Passion alone.

What Jesus did with His apostles is what we should do when we are going to face a complicated situation: Contemplate the glory of God that will accompany us in that situation. If we really become aware of what His glory means, we would live the tribulation in a different way. Instead, we see how the apostles lived the preparation before the glorious manifestation of Jesus and before His crucifixion, Tabor and Gethsemane. In both preparations they fell asleep. This is how we are…

Grounded in Married Life:

Ana: In the past, in times of tribulation, I saw my husband as a sinner and the Lord showed me that he was just a simple man and under construction. In the past, I used to see him as superficial, and the Lord showed me that he was actually lost. Before, I saw him as hard-hearted, and the Lord showed me that He had not yet called him, that His time had not come. And so on with everything. I judged my husband according to my criteria and condemned him. But the Lord, little by little, showed me the truth to which he was called. Now I live the wonders of my marriage, because it is now the time to help the Lord with my dedication, so that my husband lives forever. What else can I aspire to? My mission is already given fruits, in my husband and in me. Is there a more beautiful mission than discovering Love together?

Mother of married love,

show us the greatness of God present amongst us. Amen.

It does not belong to me. Reflection for married couples. Mt 14:13-21

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Matthew

Mt 14:13-21

When Jesus heard of the death of John the Baptist,

he withdrew in a boat to a deserted place by himself.

The crowds heard of this and followed him on foot from their towns.

When he disembarked and saw the vast crowd,

his heart was moved with pity for them, and he cured their sick.

When it was evening, the disciples approached him and said,

“This is a deserted place and it is already late;

dismiss the crowds so that they can go to the villages

and buy food for themselves.”

He said to them, “There is no need for them to go away;

give them some food yourselves.”

But they said to him,

“Five loaves and two fish are all we have here.”

Then he said, “Bring them here to me,”

and he ordered the crowds to sit down on the grass.

Taking the five loaves and the two fish, and looking up to heaven,

he said the blessing, broke the loaves,

and gave them to the disciples,

who in turn gave them to the crowds.

They all ate and were satisfied,

and they picked up the fragments left over–

twelve wicker baskets full.

Those who ate were about five thousand men,

not counting women and children.

The gospel of the Lord.

It does not belong to me.  

I ask myself: Would those who put up those 5 loaves and two fish be proud? Obviously not, because they would clearly see that what they had given was not proportional to what was shared, judging also by the evidence of the leftovers collected.

This is the difference between doing something on our own without previously giving it to Our Mother through our consecration or by entrusting it to Her. If I do it without offering it, I will believe that the results come from my effort and the merit is mine. If I give it to our Mother, I will see a disproportionate distribution with what I have given and the abundance that we all have received …

This is what we see every day in the “Conjugal Love Project”, about what happens with our marriage, with our family and with so many marriages that come to us sent by our Mother, Virgen Mary. Great miracles happen here and they make us increasingly aware of how little we put in and how small we are.

Landing in Married Life:

Peter: I love you.

Martha: And so do I.

Peter: But I love you more.

Martha: You always say that. Why do you say that?

Peter: Because it’s true. I am more affectionate than you, I don’t put up any obstacles for you to go and see your parents, I am much more attentive to you and your needs all day long, and for me you are my life, while for you I am one more thing of the many that you have to look after.

(A few years later, after her conversion to the love of God)

Peter: Wife, since we consecrated ourselves to Mary, I recognise that this love that I experience for you is not human. It is not mine. The Lord has shown me how little I am and has given me a love that surpasses me as a testimony that it is He who does it.

Martha: I thank the Lord for having made you a mediator of His grace. It is wonderful to be able to live His love amongst us.

Mother,

Thank you for taking our simplicity and making it beautiful for the Lord and thank you for giving us Him all in return. Thank you our blessed Mother.

What’s at the bottom? Reflection for Married Couples. John 6:24-35

GOSPEL

He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty.  
Reading from the holy Gospel according to John 6:24-35
When the crowd saw that neither Jesus nor his disciples were there,
they themselves got into boats
and came to Capernaum looking for Jesus.
And when they found him across the sea they said to him,
“Rabbi, when did you get here?”
Jesus answered them and said,
“Amen, amen, I say to you,
you are looking for me not because you saw signs
but because you ate the loaves and were filled.
Do not work for food that perishes
but for the food that endures for eternal life,
which the Son of Man will give you.
For on him the Father, God, has set his seal.”
So they said to him,
“What can we do to accomplish the works of God?”
Jesus answered and said to them,
“This is the work of God, that you believe in the one he sent.”
So they said to him,
“What sign can you do, that we may see and believe in you?
What can you do?
Our ancestors ate manna in the desert, as it is written:
He gave them bread from heaven to eat.”
So Jesus said to them,
“Amen, amen, I say to you,
it was not Moses who gave the bread from heaven;
my Father gives you the true bread from heaven.
For the bread of God is that which comes down from heaven
and gives life to the world.”
So they said to him,
“Sir, give us this bread always.”
Jesus said to them,
“I am the bread of life;
whoever comes to me will never hunger,
and whoever believes in me will never thirst.”
Word of the Lord.

What’s at the bottom?
At the bottom, this is what happens to us. We work not for the glory of God, but to live a pleasant marriage, full of harmony, filled with gestures of affection, in which we feel loved. But am I willing to give up the experience of living such a marriage for the love of the Lord? Or do the spouses who have been abandoned not have the right to live in the Love of God?  
That is the question, that at the bottom, I seek my own satisfaction, not to give myself to my husband out of love. And without going through the cross of self-giving, I will not be able to discover true communion. Conjugal Charity.

Grounded in Married Life:
Jaime: Dear tutors, I was very happy because everything was going very well until today when I had a bad day with my wife.  
Marriage Tutor: Define that “bad day.”  
Jaime: Well, she got up in a very grumpy and demanding mood, and she made me have a really difficult day.  
Marriage Tutor: And how did you react?  
Jaime: What am I going to do… I just tried to hang in there as best I could.  
Marriage Tutor: So, the Lord gives you the opportunity to love your wife with a mature love, participating with Him in His Love, and you have squandered it?  
Jaime: Well… Said like that… I would have to say yes, I squandered it.  
Marriage Tutor: So, you’ve lived a wonderful day as if it were a horrible day.  
Jaime: It seems so…
Mother,
Let us not seek the Lord for worldly interests but love Him in Spirit and in Truth.  
Thank you, Mother.

What am I missing? Reflection for Married Couples. St. Matthew 14:1-12

GOSPEL

Herod had John beheaded, and his disciples went to tell Jesus.
Reading from the holy Gospel according to St. Matthew 14:1-12
Herod the tetrarch heard of the reputation of Jesus
and said to his servants, “This man is John the Baptist.
He has been raised from the dead;
that is why mighty powers are at work in him.”
Now Herod had arrested John, bound him, and put him in prison
on account of Herodias, the wife of his brother Philip,
for John had said to him,
“It is not lawful for you to have her.”
Although he wanted to kill him, he feared the people,
for they regarded him as a prophet.
But at a birthday celebration for Herod,
the daughter of Herodias performed a dance before the guests
and delighted Herod so much
that he swore to give her whatever she might ask for.
Prompted by her mother, she said,
“Give me here on a platter the head of John the Baptist.”
The king was distressed,
but because of his oaths and the guests who were present,
he ordered that it be given, and he had John beheaded in the prison.
His head was brought in on a platter and given to the girl,
who took it to her mother.
His disciples came and took away the corpse
and buried him; and they went and told Jesus.
Word of the Lord.

What am I missing?
In this Gospel, we can identify almost with each of the characters. The proud Herod, the superficial daughter of Herodias, who attracts others but doesn’t even know where she wants to go… But our reflection oriented towards marriage is: How great must marriage be to God, that someone like John the Baptist died defending it! The greatest man born of woman, as Jesus himself said, and he dies a martyr for upholding the truth of marriage. What are we missing about the beauty and greatness of our vocation that we are not willing to give our lives for it, as John did?
In the end, martyr means witness, and all Christians are called to be, in a sense, martyrs, witnesses, of the Truth. We need many who are willing to do so.

Grounded in married life:
Paco: I am discovering more and more things about marriage. It truly is a mystery created by God, with a greatness that eludes me. I know there is still much for me to discover, and the only way to find it is by living it as God wants.
Marga: Yes, marriage is a wonderful gift. And we have to show the world the truth and beauty of our vocation. It is our mission. Blessed be the Lord who has given us such an important mission.

Mother,
You are the Mother of spouses, and you are performing great miracles in us and in many. We are eager to continue learning and taking steps to grow towards Conjugal Charity. Blessed be God.