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Forgive Always. Reflection for married couples. Luke 17:1-6

Gospel of the Day

From the Gospel according to Luke 17:1-6

Jesus said to his disciples,
“Things that cause sin will inevitably occur,
but woe to the one through whom they occur.
It would be better for him if a millstone were put around his neck
and he be thrown into the sea
than for him to cause one of these little ones to sin.
Be on your guard!
If your brother sins, rebuke him;
and if he repents, forgive him.
And if he wrongs you seven times in one day
and returns to you seven times saying, ‘I am sorry,’
you should forgive him.”

And the Apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith.”
The Lord replied, “If you have faith the size of a mustard seed,
you would say to this mulberry tree,
‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it would obey you.”

The Gospel of the Lord

Forgive Always

In this passage, the Lord teaches us how we should respond to offense.
When we are hurt, there is only one true response: to forgive.

Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or denying the wound. It means recognising the pain and deciding to heal it rather than letting it destroy the heart.
To forgive is not weakness but an act of great strength — one that prevents harm from ruling the relationship and allows love to keep growing.

It is an ongoing journey, because living together reveals the fragility of both hearts and demands forgiving many times, with patience and humility.
True forgiveness requires truth, dialogue, and a sincere commitment to change. It is not about keeping silent to avoid conflict but about healing together.

And the Lord shows us that, to reach this kind of forgiveness, we must rely on Him — have faith that with Him, even the greatest offenses can be forgiven.
Whoever knows they are loved and forgiven by God can also forgive and begin anew.

Let us walk this path of true forgiveness, because without it, no marriage can endure.

Brought Down to Married Life

Lewis: Anna, I still struggle to forgive you for what happened a few years ago.
Anna: I know, Lewis; you’ve told me many times. I truly regret it, and I’ve asked for your forgiveness again and again. I also tried to explain that it happened at a time when I was under a lot of pressure and let myself be poorly advised. I asked the Lord for forgiveness too — and He has forgiven me.
Lewis: The thing is, sometimes the memories come back, and I realise I still feel resentment.
Anna: My love, I know forgiveness also requires repair. And over these years, I’ve tried to make amends — by being more gentle, by trying to embrace your weaknesses and failings, and by learning to forgive you too when you hurt me. But your forgiveness is an act of your will, and only you — with the Lord’s help — can achieve it.
Lewis: Thank you, because I see now that what you’re saying is true. And thank you for reminding me that forgiveness is also a gift, one I must keep asking the Lord for. I want to forgive you — and by doing so, I want to be free from this weight that has enslaved me for years.
Anna: Thank you, my love. The very desire to forgive me is already a sign of forgiveness. I’m deeply grateful for that.

Mother,

Give us a humble heart to correct with love,
and a generous heart to forgive truly.
Praised be the Lord forever, and blessed be our Mother always.

Balancing Petty Accounts. Reflection for married couples. John 2:13-22

Gospel of the Day

From the Gospel according to John 2:13-22

Since the Passover of the Jews was near,
Jesus went up to Jerusalem.
He found in the temple area those who sold oxen, sheep, and doves,
as well as the money-changers seated there.
He made a whip out of cords
and drove them all out of the temple area, with the sheep and oxen,
and spilled the coins of the money-changers
and overturned their tables,
and to those who sold doves he said,
“Take these out of here,
and stop making my Father’s house a marketplace.”
His disciples recalled the words of Scripture,
Zeal for your house will consume me.
At this the Jews answered and said to him,
“What sign can you show us for doing this?”
Jesus answered and said to them,
“Destroy this temple and in three days I will raise it up.”
The Jews said,
“This temple has been under construction for forty-six years,
and you will raise it up in three days?”
But he was speaking about the temple of his Body.
Therefore, when he was raised from the dead,
his disciples remembered that he had said this,
and they came to believe the Scripture
and the word Jesus had spoken.

The Gospel of the Lord

Balancing Petty Accounts

We are temples of the Holy Spirit, yet we constantly allow “inner merchants” to enter: thoughts, affections, desires… turning the soul into a marketplace where everything is up for negotiation.
Even marriage can be lived that way: “I’ll give you if you give me — and that way, we keep the balance.”

But God’s way of keeping accounts doesn’t follow that logic.
For one lost sheep, He leaves the ninety-nine.
He pays the first and the last worker the same wage.
He feeds more than five thousand people with five loaves and two fish.

His zeal for the holiness of the temple —which we are— consumes Him. And while we remain trapped in our own calculations, God suffers, because He longs to restore what has fallen into disorder within us… and He counts on us to do so.

And what about us? We go on with our own business, counting and keeping score.

Brought Down to Married Life

(Laura and Andrew, driving home after Sunday Mass)

Laura: You know what? I need to ask your forgiveness.
Andrew: Oh? What for?
Laura: Sometimes I feel like I’m always giving and never receiving anything back. I expect your attention, your thoughtfulness, your time…
Andrew: Nothing? But I work all day so that nothing’s missing at home.
Laura: Let me finish, Andrew. Today, in the second reading, I heard: “No one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.” And I asked myself, how can I make Christ the foundation? Then, during the Eucharist, it became so clear: He does everything. And how can He, if I’m the one constantly doing, never leaving Him any space?
Andrew: I didn’t know you felt that way. I feel exhausted too. Sometimes I think, “What about me? Nobody sees what I do.”
Laura: My love, I think we need to stop and rediscover who we are by getting to know Him. I love you deeply, but the moment we stop looking at Him, we start looking at ourselves — and worse, at what you do or fail to do.
Andrew: Well, what can I say? It hurts that you don’t see what I do.
Laura: Forgive me, Andrew, for not seeing it. I’m sorry.

(Later, Laura in personal prayer)

Laura: Thank You, Lord, for showing me the truth about myself and for placing in my heart the joy of discovering Your plan.
I offer You my pain over Andrew’s lack of understanding, so that through Your sacrifice You may turn my tears into nourishment for my soul.
May my heart be Your dwelling place, where my senses, feelings, and understanding become Yours, so that I may do only the will of our Father.
Amen.

Mother,

Teach us to trust in Your Son’s plan.
Blessed and praised forever be the One who, with His Blood, has redeemed us.

Training in Faithfulness – Reflection for married couples – Luke 16: 9-15

From the Gospel according to Luke

16:9-15

Jesus said to his disciples:
“I tell you, make friends for yourselves with dishonest wealth,
so that when it fails, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings.
The person who is trustworthy in very small matters
is also trustworthy in great ones;
and the person who is dishonest in very small matters
is also dishonest in great ones.
If, therefore, you are not trustworthy with dishonest wealth,
who will trust you with true wealth?
If you are not trustworthy with what belongs to another,
who will give you what is yours?
No servant can serve two masters.
He will either hate one and love the other,
or be devoted to one and despise the other.
You cannot serve God and mammon.”

The Pharisees, who loved money,
heard all these things and sneered at him.
And he said to them,
“You justify yourselves in the sight of others,
but God knows your hearts;
for what is of human esteem is an abomination in the sight of God.”

Training in Faithfulness

In this Gospel, Jesus warns us that if you are not faithful in small things, you will not be faithful in great ones either. And faithfulness is absolutely essential in marriage.

When we marry, the most familiar words we hear are perhaps these:

“I take you as my husband/wife, and I give myself to you, and I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love and honour you all the days of my life.”

We promise each other faithfulness in both joy and hardship. This fidelity is a sign of our love and respect — a reflection of God’s covenant with us. God is faithful; He keeps His promises and has bound Himself to our marriage in a covenant of love to make it possible.

How important it is that we live out that faithfulness we promised each other — beginning with the small, everyday details! Fidelity is not only about physical loyalty, but also about the little things: coming home promptly after work to help with the children or the house instead of staying for a drink; keeping our daily prayer time together, persevering in that moment we set aside for one another and for our marriage.

These are chances to train ourselves in small acts of fidelity, so that when real temptations or trials arise, we will be strong enough to remain faithful. If we grow careless in the small things, we will not withstand the great ones when they come.

Brought into Married Life

Vincent: Claire, I don’t quite understand what Jesus means about “making friends with dishonest wealth.”

Claire: I think it means we shouldn’t cling to material goods but rather use them to store up treasure in heaven.

Vincent: But He mentions “dishonesty” — doing wrong knowingly. That would mean earning money through deceit, and I earn our living honestly.

Claire: Yes, but we earn more than we truly need, don’t we?

Vincent: That’s true, but it’s the result of many years of hard work.

Claire: Are you sure it’s only that, Vincent? Don’t you think God has given you certain gifts and opportunities that others haven’t received?

Vincent: Hmm… I’m not sure I follow you.

Claire: I mean that everything we have — absolutely everything — comes from God. We are very blessed with the material goods the Lord has allowed us to enjoy, far more than we actually need, while others lack even the essentials. What do you think God expects from us?

Vincent: You’re right. God has given us more than we truly need. I suppose He expects us to use it to help those who have less.

Claire: Exactly. If we cling to worldly goods, we end up serving money instead of God. But if we use those goods generously for the benefit of others, and do so out of love, then we are serving God — and storing up treasure in heaven.

Vincent: Thank you, Claire, for enlightening me. I don’t know what I’d do without you. I love you.

Mother,

teach us always to be faithful —

to our spouse, to our sacrament, and to God —

and to do His will, just as you did.

Blessed and glorious are you, Mother!

Praise be to the Lord forever!a

Are We Shrewd? – Reflection for married couples – Luke 16:1-8

Gospel of the day

From the Gospel according to

Jesus said to his disciples, “A rich man had a steward who was reported to him for squandering his property.
He summoned him and said,
‘What is this I hear about you?
Prepare a full account of your stewardship,
because you can no longer be my steward.’
The steward said to himself, ‘What shall I do,
now that my master is taking the position of steward away from me?
I am not strong enough to dig and I am ashamed to beg.
I know what I shall do so that,
when I am removed from the stewardship,
they may welcome me into their homes.’
He called in his master’s debtors one by one.
To the first he said, ‘How much do you owe my master?’
He replied, ‘One hundred measures of olive oil.’
He said to him, ‘Here is your promissory note.
Sit down and quickly write one for fifty.’
Then to another he said, ‘And you, how much do you owe?’
He replied, ‘One hundred measures of wheat.’
He said to him, ‘Here is your promissory note;
write one for eighty.’
And the master commended that dishonest steward for acting prudently.
For the children of this world
are more prudent in dealing with their own generation than the children of light.”

Are We Shrewd?

Through this parable, the Lord teaches us that we must use all our gifts and talents wisely and shrewdly, collaborating with Him in building His Kingdom.

Does this mean we should act wrongly or deceive others? Of course not. It means that we should bear witness to the beauty and goodness of our sacrament by making the best use of every “weapon” available to us.

If I am kind, then I will use my kindness shrewdly for good.

If I am intelligent and hardworking, I will place that intelligence at the service of the Lord.

If I am a good organiser, I will offer my skills wherever they are needed, for the greater glory of God.

Brought into Married Life

Peter: Good morning, Mary. How did you sleep? I noticed you’ve been awake for quite a while.

Mary: Good morning. I’m sorry if I disturbed you. I woke up very early and couldn’t stop thinking about what we heard at yesterday’s Opening Day for the new term. I think we’ve been nourished and formed by the wonderful catecheses of Saint John Paul II in our Marital Love Project group, and we do help with the retreats — but perhaps it’s time we took another step forward.

Peter: I thought the same. It really was a beautiful start-of-year gathering, but it gave us plenty to reflect on.

Mary: Peter, do you think we’re being a bit selfish by not offering ourselves in service to Our Lady’s Project?

Peter: Well… I wouldn’t go as far as calling us selfish, but yes — we do need to use all the gifts the Lord has given us, so that this treasure can reach many more couples.

Mary: Then, if you agree, we could call our coordinators and ask them to tell us more about the different areas we could help with — and see where our skills might be useful.

Peter: That sounds wonderful. And you, my love, seem more beautiful to me every day. Come on — give me a kiss and let’s offer the day to the Lord!

 

Mother,

You placed all your gifts at the service of your Son.

Help us not to fall into the temptation of laziness;

teach us to discern our talents

and to put them at the service of God’s Kingdom.

Amen. Blessed and praised be You forever!

The joy of conversion – Reflection for married couples – Luke 15:1-10

Gospel of the day

From the Gospel according to Luke
15:1-10

The tax collectors and sinners were all drawing near to listen to Jesus,
but the Pharisees and scribes began to complain, saying,
“This man welcomes sinners and eats with them.”
So Jesus addressed this parable to them.
“What man among you having a hundred sheep and losing one of them
would not leave the ninety-nine in the desert
and go after the lost one until he finds it?
And when he does find it,
he sets it on his shoulders with great joy
and, upon his arrival home,
he calls together his friends and neighbors and says to them,
‘Rejoice with me because I have found my lost sheep.’
I tell you, in just the same way
there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents
than over ninety-nine righteous people
who have no need of repentance.

“Or what woman having ten coins and losing one would not light a lamp and sweep the house, searching carefully until she finds it?
And when she does find it,
she calls together her friends and neighbors
and says to them,
‘Rejoice with me because I have found the coin that I lost.’
In just the same way, I tell you,
there will be rejoicing among the angels of God
over one sinner who repents.”

The Joy of Conversion

It fills us with joy to know with certainty how deeply God loves us. We may fall and lose our way countless times, yet He will always be there waiting for us with open arms, desiring only what is best for us.

We must always remain open to conversion. The Lord gives us the means through the sacraments. What a wonder — the celebration in heaven every time someone embraces the faith and is converted! And the same rejoicing happens every time we come out of the confession, our souls cleansed, grace restored — having recognised our sin, repented, and received forgiveness, renewing the friendship with God that sin had broken.

Through our own sacrament, as married couples, we too are given the grace to be converted again and again — every time we welcome our spouse as they are, ask forgiveness and forgive, accept them fully as the gift they are to us, and make small sacrifices of love and self-denial. In doing so, we prepare our souls for the ultimate encounter with God.

 

Brought into Married Life

Leo: Mary, have you realised the power of our sacrament? Through our mutual self-giving, we can see how we grow — and how those around us are transformed too.

Mary: Yes, it’s amazing. I love imagining the celebration in heaven every time the Lord, through the grace we receive, changes the world even just a little through us.

Leo: And imagine the joy each time a couple discovers the greatness of their vocation and their whole life is transformed.

Mary: Thanks be to God, there are more and more marriages like that — couples who, trusting in the grace they’ve received and aware of what they’ve been given, are unknowingly sharing in a little bit of heaven here on earth.

 

Mother,

We are weak and fall so easily.

Show us the grace of never tiring of conversion,

and let us share together the joy of heaven here on earth.

Blessed be the Lord for His infinite love that always rescues us.