As Jesus was going up to Jerusalem,
he took the Twelve disciples aside by themselves,
and said to them on the way,
“Behold, we are going up to Jerusalem,
and the Son of Man will be handed over to the chief priests
and the scribes,
and they will condemn him to death,
and hand him over to the Gentiles
to be mocked and scourged and crucified,
and he will be raised on the third day.”

Then the mother of the sons of Zebedee approached Jesus with her sons
and did him homage, wishing to ask him for something.
He said to her, “What do you wish?”
She answered him,
“Command that these two sons of mine sit,
one at your right and the other at your left, in your kingdom.”
Jesus said in reply,
“You do not know what you are asking.
Can you drink the chalice that I am going to drink?”
They said to him, “We can.”
He replied,
“My chalice you will indeed drink,
but to sit at my right and at my left,
this is not mine to give
but is for those for whom it has been prepared by my Father.”
When the ten heard this,
they became indignant at the two brothers.
But Jesus summoned them and said,
“You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them,
and the great ones make their authority over them felt.
But it shall not be so among you.
Rather, whoever wishes to be great among you shall be your servant;
whoever wishes to be first among you shall be your slave.
Just so, the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve
and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

My good Jesus, this Gospel hurts. You come to give your life for us. And when you are telling your friends about it, instead of being concerned for you, they are concerned only with themselves.
You might have thought: I have just told them that I am going to be tortured and killed, and they are thinking only of their own matters. And I am going to do it for them, I will pay for their sin so that they may be saved.
But no. You look into their hearts and see that they are dull, that they cannot see. In silence, you excuse them before your Father, you pray for them, and you give yourself. You do not accuse them. You lower yourself to their level, to what they are capable of understanding, and you love them in their weakness.
Lord, how alone you were. How alone you are. How alone we leave you. As you said, “This Heart which has so loved men and receives only ingratitude.” We do not understand. You love us infinitely. You have given everything for us, to the very last drop of your blood. You have paid the debt of our sin. And we remain absorbed in ourselves, whether my spouse does this or fails to do that, whether it is fair or unfair…
Lord, help me to recognise my sin. To recognise that I do not see. That the problem lies in my own heart, not in my spouse. That I do not know how to love.
Teach me to excuse, not to focus on receiving but on giving. To love in every circumstance.
Thank you, Lord.

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Peter: Martha, this Gospel moves me deeply. I truly want to thank the Lord for all his love for us, to console him for so much ingratitude. And I know that what pleases him most is that I give myself to you without conditions.
Martha: Yes, he is so good. I too want to console him by giving myself to you without asking for anything in return. Not thinking about myself, but focusing on you. I want to be aware that every time I do so, he smiles.
Peter: And I have not known how to love you in your weakness. I want to change that. I know the only way is to walk with real determination in a life of prayer and the sacraments.
Martha: Yes, and through self-denial. I am going to make good use of Lent to practise more acts of self-denial. I know it is my attachments that prevent me from loving you as God desires.
Peter: Without self-denial, that “denying myself” the Lord speaks about is impossible. I am not capable of loving as I wish. But by denying myself, my heart will be filled with God’s love, and he will accomplish it.
Martha: Then let us begin. Let us help one another to walk this path with determination. For Jesus, who is so good!

Mother,

Please help us to live this Lent focused on pleasing your Son by giving ourselves to our spouse.
Blessed and praised be God.

What a beautiful Gospel we are given today, in which the Lord teaches us what truly matters: humility. At times we allow ourselves to be carried away by vanity, by the desire to stand out, by our “I”. It can even happen in our marriage, when we do things so that our spouse will notice us, serving in order to be praised. How mistaken we are.
It is beautiful to move forward along the path Jesus shows us, where we discover that it is precisely the opposite: to recognise ourselves as sinners before Him and before our spouse, to give thanks for our littleness, to accept our poverty, and to take the lowest place, with the sole desire of offering everything to the Lord and seeking only to please Him.
Gradually renouncing my own criteria, placing Jesus where He truly belongs in my heart, and allowing myself to be conformed to Him, this is what enables me to love my spouse not from above, but from the place of one who knows they are humble. And then, I shall be lifted up.

Brought Down to Married Life

(James and Alice, on their way home after their catechesis group meeting)

James: My love, I need to confess something… Tonight, when it was our turn to present this month’s catechesis, I let myself be carried away by vanity. I loved seeing how the other couples were looking at me, appreciating how much work I had put into it, how well it was going—especially the little experience you had organised. And do you know what? At one point I realised I was not letting you speak. I had left you sitting there in silence. And the catechesis was about dying to oneself in order to build a love of communion. How awful…
Alice: To be honest, James, your attitude at the beginning did surprise me a little. But it was beautiful when you realised what was happening, asked my forgiveness in front of everyone, gave me a kiss, and we were able to finish presenting it together. It is such a gift to see how the Lord is gradually working in your heart. A few months ago, you would have presented the catechesis on your own.
James: That is true, Alice. Thank you for your patience, for always being there and praying for me… What wonders the Lord works when we give Him the place He deserves in our hearts.

Mother,

Teach us to become small and humble, so that we may see the Lord as our only God.
Blessed and praised be He for ever.

From the Gospel according to Matthew 17:1-9

Jesus took Peter, James, and John his brother,
and led them up a high mountain by themselves.
And he was transfigured before them;
his face shone like the sun
and his clothes became white as light.
And behold, Moses and Elijah appeared to them,
conversing with him.
Then Peter said to Jesus in reply,
“Lord, it is good that we are here.
If you wish, I will make three tents here,
one for you, one for Moses, and one for Elijah.”
While he was still speaking, behold,
a bright cloud cast a shadow over them,
then from the cloud came a voice that said,
“This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased;
listen to him.”
When the disciples heard this, they fell prostrate
and were very much afraid.
But Jesus came and touched them, saying,
“Rise, and do not be afraid.”
And when the disciples raised their eyes,
they saw no one else but Jesus alone.

As they were coming down from the mountain,
Jesus charged them,
“Do not tell the vision to anyone
until the Son of Man has been raised from the dead.”

Heaven Within You

An astonishing scene: they long to remain there, and in the very next moment they tremble with fear. In a single instant, joy and awe. At times I feel You near; at others, Your greatness fills me with wonder. You can fill me with joy or make me tremble before Your mystery.
I discover that happiness is not a place, but You, my Jesus. In You I rest. You come to meet me through my spouse. In our love, You desire to fill me even here on earth, until the day when together we behold You in heaven.

Brought Down to Married Life

Benjamin: I used to focus on your lights and shadows, especially your shadows. Today I understand that God is in you and that, through our life together, He is shaping my heart. You are a gift. I delight so much in being with you; and even in what I find difficult, I see an opportunity to choose Him and allow Him to act within me.
Judith: I was searching for God, but at times I saw you as an obstacle. Your faults wounded me. Now I recognise that you are a channel of His love. What once unsettled me has become a path to encounter Him. For me, loving God and loving you are one and the same.
Benjamin: What a blessing it is to share life with you.
Judith: It is so good to be home.

Mother,

Show us Your Son.
Blessed and praised be He for ever,
He who redeemed us by His Blood.