Daily Archives: 21 June, 2024

Bad experiences? Reflection for Marriages. Mt 6:19-23


From the Gospel according to Matthew

Mt 6:19-23

Jesus said to his disciples:

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth,

where moth and decay destroy, and thieves break in and steal.

But store up treasures in heaven,

where neither moth nor decay destroys, nor thieves break in and steal.

For where your treasure is, there also will your heart be.

“The lamp of the body is the eye.

If your eye is sound, your whole body will be filled with light;

but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be in darkness.

And if the light in you is darkness, how great will the darkness be.”

The gospel of the Lord

Bad experiences?

The Lord teaches me that if I see darkness, it is because there is darkness in me.

How important it is to make a good interpretation of the elements, the situations we experience, rational behind it, limitations and conditions of the people who cause them. Thus, the experiences we live will always be experiences of God. They will remain stored as such in our memory and therefore our emotions will be organized.

Landed to Married life:

Miguel: I realise that, every time there is a bad experience between us, I keep it for myself and it charges my feelings for you with negativity, distancing me from you. This is terrible!

Laura: The same thing happens to me, and we are entering into bad periods between us that impact negatively our relationship and become very difficult to purify.

Miguel: But the problem is at the origin, at that moment when I keep that experience by attaching one or more feelings against you. God does not do this, because he never has anything against us.

Laura: I hear you. The solution is, before it happens, we should see all our experiences with the eyes of Lord, how the Lord will see it. For example, yesterday when you were clearly worried and you were not kind to me, I was left with the fact that your limitation was that worry and that God was putting me in that situation to offer myself as a sacrifice for your sanctification. So I did, and I lived that opportunity with joy. Obviously, there is no resentment afterwards, but rather an experience of surrender and union with you.

Miguel: Exactly. That is the point. Thanks for the example, it’s perfect. And thank you for your understanding.


This is how Your spirit rejoiced in God in any circumstance. Praise the Lord who allows us to be in Him. Amen