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Finally! Reflection for marriages. John 20:1-9

Gospel

He had to rise from the dead.

From the Gospel according to John. Jn 20:1-9.

On the first day of the week, Mary of Magdala came to the tomb early in the morning, while it was still dark, and saw the stone removed from the tomb. So she ran and went to Simon Peter and to the other disciple whom Jesus loved, and told them, “They have taken the Lord from the tomb, and we don’t know where they put him.” So Peter and the other disciple went out and came to the tomb. They both ran, but the other disciple ran faster than Peter and arrived at the tomb first; he bent down and saw the burial cloths there, but did not go in. When Simon Peter arrived after him, he went into the tomb and saw the burial cloths there, and the cloth that had covered his head, not with the burial cloths but rolled up in a separate place. Then the other disciple also went in, the one who had arrived at the tomb first, and he saw and believed. For they did not yet understand the Scripture that he had to rise from the dead.

The Gospel of the Lord.

Finally!

The Lord has risen! Glory to God! He has brought us God’s Forgiveness, making it possible for us to forgive one another. Marriage becomes possible again because we can now restore it after every fall, through the Forgiveness that God has brought us. It is our new path of love, the path of Forgiveness. Hallelujah!

Applied to married life:

Becky: Phil, I forgive you.

Phil: Excuse me Becky, I don’t think I heard you correctly. What did you say?

Becky: I forgive you truly. Sincerely. You are released from all the pain you have caused me. And I free myself from my pain and from my temptation to keep you subdued by bringing up those offenses when it suited me, using them to hinder any attempt of yours to ask for something or even to act normally or make love.

Phil: Really, Becky? Isn’t it just a whim you’re having today because it’s Easter Sunday?

Becky: No, Phil. I have realized that if I don’t forgive you, it’s because I want to have control over you. I have realized all that the Lord went through to bring us Forgiveness, and I cannot deny you that right because of my pride.

Phil: That’s incredible! Thank you, my God. Thank you for setting me free. (He embraces Backy) Thank you, my love. I thought I would never be able to shake off that guilt. Now I see that you truly love me, because through you, I receive God’s Mercy.

Becky: I love you, Phil. Thank you, Lord, for saving us. Praise be to you forever.

Mother,

Finally, the triumph over evil and over death. Finally, redeemed of all our sins. We are joyful, we are rejoicing, it is a wonderful gift from God. Now we understand how much the cross is worth. Now everything makes sense. Let the choirs of angels exult… Glory to God…

Insuperable. Reflection for marriages. Mark 16, 1-7

Gospel (to be read for Easter Vigil, not before)

Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen!

From the Gospe according to Mark. Mk 16, 1-7.

When the Sabbath was over, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices so that they might go to anoint Jesus’ body. Very early on the first day of the week, just after sunrise, they were on their way to the tomb and they asked each other, “Who will roll the stone away from the entrance of the tomb?”

But when they looked up, they saw that the stone, which was very large, had been rolled away. As they entered the tomb, they saw a young man dressed in a white robe sitting on the right side, and they were alarmed.

“Don’t be alarmed,” he said. “You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen! He is not here. See the place where they laid him. But go, tell his disciples and Peter, ‘He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.’”

The Gospel of the Lord

Insuperable.

Certainly these days we must have experienced the desire to assist Jesus, seeing him vilified, humiliated, and exhausted by the severity of the punishment he received for me. He seems sunk, dejected, bowed, defeated. But the surprise is that he rises powerful, glorious, triumphant. The Father glorifies him, the angels escort him. The surprise is that he continues to pull from me, rescuing me, glorifying me.

Applied to married life:

John: Such is the supernatural power of God that surpasses the limits of our human nature. It surpasses our love, our fragility, our death, our wisdom… Once again, I am amazed by the Greatness of God, also amazed by His Abundant Mercy.

Nuria: He sets the right path for us. Truly, it is necessary to give our lifes away to be glorified with Him. Now I experience an inner joy that overwhelms me. I have no words.

John: I have no words either. Praise be to the Lord.

Nuria: Let the choirs of angels exult.

Mother,

Glory to God, glory and praises to Him forever. Glory to God.

Does it resemble? Reflection for marriages John 18:1-19:42

Gospel

From the Gospel according to John. Jn 18:1—19:42

Jesus went out with his disciples across the Kidron valley to where there was a garden, into which he and his disciples entered.
Judas his betrayer also knew the place, because Jesus had often met there with his disciples. So Judas got a band of soldiers and guards from the chief priests and the Pharisees and went there with lanterns, torches, and weapons.
Jesus, knowing everything that was going to happen to him, went out and said to them, “Whom are you looking for?”
They answered him, “Jesus the Nazorean.”
He said to them, “I AM.”
Judas his betrayer was also with them.
When he said to them, “I AM“, they turned away and fell to the ground. So he again asked them, “Whom are you looking for?”
They said, “Jesus the Nazorean.”
Jesus answered, “I told you that I AM. So if you are looking for me, let these men go.”
This was to fulfill what he had said, “I have not lost any of those you gave me.”
Then Simon Peter, who had a sword, drew it, struck the high priest’s slave, and cut off his right ear. The slave’s name was Malchus.
Jesus said to Peter, “Put your sword into its scabbard. Shall I not drink the cup that the Father gave me?”

So the band of soldiers, the tribune, and the Jewish guards seized Jesus, bound him, and brought him to Annas first. He was the father-in-law of Caiaphas, who was high priest that year. It was Caiaphas who had counseled the Jews that it was better that one man should die rather than the people.

Simon Peter and another disciple followed Jesus. Now the other disciple was known to the high priest, and he entered the courtyard of the high priest with Jesus. But Peter stood at the gate outside. So the other disciple, the acquaintance of the high priest, went out and spoke to the gatekeeper and brought Peter in. Then the maid who was the gatekeeper said to Peter, “You are not one of this man’s disciples, are you?”
He said, “I am not.”
Now the slaves and the guards were standing around a charcoal fire that they had made, because it was cold, and were warming themselves. Peter was also standing there keeping warm.

The high priest questioned Jesus about his disciples and about his doctrine.
Jesus answered him, “I have spoken publicly to the world. I have always taught in a synagogue or in the temple area where all the Jews gather, and in secret I have said nothing. Why ask me? Ask those who heard me what I said to them. They know what I said.”
When he had said this, one of the temple guards standing there struck Jesus and said, “Is this the way you answer the high priest?”
Jesus answered him, “If I have spoken wrongly, testify to the wrong; but if I have spoken rightly, why do you strike me?”
Then Annas sent him bound to Caiaphas the high priest.

Now Simon Peter was standing there keeping warm. And they said to him, “You are not one of his disciples, are you?”
He denied it and said, “I am not.”
One of the slaves of the high priest, a relative of the one whose ear Peter had cut off, said, “Didn’t I see you in the garden with him?”
Again Peter denied it. And immediately the cock crowed.

Then they brought Jesus from Caiaphas to the praetorium. It was morning.
And they themselves did not enter the praetorium, in order not to be defiled so that they could eat the Passover. So Pilate came out to them and said, “What charge do you bring against this man?”
They answered and said to him, “If he were not a criminal, we would not have handed him over to you.”
At this, Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves, and judge him according to your law.”
The Jews answered him, “We do not have the right to execute anyone, “in order that the word of Jesus might be fulfilled that he said indicating the kind of death he would die.
So Pilate went back into the praetorium and summoned Jesus and said to him, “Are you the King of the Jews?”
Jesus answered, “Do you say this on your own or have others told you about me?”
Pilate answered, “I am not a Jew, am I? Your own nation and the chief priests handed you over to me. What have you done?”
Jesus answered, “My kingdom does not belong to this world. If my kingdom did belong to this world, my attendants would be fighting to keep me from being handed over to the Jews. But as it is, my kingdom is not here.”
So Pilate said to him, “Then you are a king?”
Jesus answered, “You say I am a king. For this I was born and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to my voice.”
Pilate said to him, “What is truth?” When he had said this, he again went out to the Jews and said to them, “I find no guilt in him. But you have a custom that I release one prisoner to you at Passover. Do you want me to release to you the King of the Jews?”
They cried out again, “Not this one but Barabbas!”
Now Barabbas was a revolutionary. 

Then Pilate took Jesus and had him scourged. And the soldiers wove a crown out of thorns and placed it on his head, and clothed him in a purple cloak,
and they came to him and said, “Hail, King of the Jews!” And they struck him repeatedly.
Once more Pilate went out and said to them, “Look, I am bringing him out to you, so that you may know that I find no guilt in him.”
So Jesus came out, wearing the crown of thorns and the purple cloak. And he said to them, “Behold, the man!”
When the chief priests and the guards saw him they cried out, “Crucify him, crucify him!”
Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves and crucify him. I find no guilt in him.”
The Jews answered, “We have a law, and according to that law he ought to die, because he made himself the Son of God.”
Now when Pilate heard this statement, he became even more afraid, and went back into the praetorium and said to Jesus,
“Where are you from?” Jesus did not answer him.
So Pilate said to him, “Do you not speak to me? Do you not know that I have power to release you and I have power to crucify you?”
Jesus answered him, “You would have no power over me if it had not been given to you from above. For this reason the one who handed me over to you has the greater sin.”
Consequently, Pilate tried to release him; but the Jews cried out, “If you release him, you are not a Friend of Caesar. Everyone who makes himself a king opposes Caesar.”

When Pilate heard these words he brought Jesus out and seated him on the judge’s bench in the place called Stone Pavement, in Hebrew, Gabbatha. It was preparation day for Passover, and it was about noon.
And he said to the Jews, “Behold, your king!”
They cried out, “Take him away, take him away! Crucify him!”
Pilate said to them, “Shall I crucify your king?”
The chief priests answered, “We have no king but Caesar.”
Then he handed him over to them to be crucified. So they took Jesus, and, carrying the cross himself, he went out to what is called the Place of the Skull, in Hebrew, Golgotha. There they crucified him, and with him two others, one on either side, with Jesus in the middle. Pilate also had an inscription written and put on the cross. It read, “Jesus the Nazorean, the King of the Jews.”
Now many of the Jews read this inscription, because the place where Jesus was crucified was near the city; and it was written in Hebrew, Latin, and Greek. So the chief priests of the Jews said to Pilate, “Do not write ‘The King of the Jews,’ but that he said, ‘I am the King of the Jews’.”
Pilate answered, “What I have written, I have written.”

When the soldiers had crucified Jesus, they took his clothes and divided them into four shares, a share for each soldier. They also took his tunic, but the tunic was seamless, woven in one piece from the top down. So they said to one another, “Let’s not tear it, but cast lots for it to see whose it will be, “
in order that the passage of Scripture might be fulfilled that says: They divided my garments among them, and for my vesture they cast lots. This is what the soldiers did.
Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary of Magdala. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son.” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother.” And from that hour the disciple took her into his home.

After this, aware that everything was now finished, in order that the Scripture might be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I thirst.” There was a vessel filled with common wine. So they put a sponge soaked in wine on a sprig of hyssop and put it up to his mouth. When Jesus had taken the wine, he said, “It is finished.” And bowing his head, he handed over the spirit. 

Now since it was preparation day, in order that the bodies might not remain on the cross on the sabbath, for the sabbath day of that week was a solemn one, the Jews asked Pilate that their legs be broken and that they be taken down. So the soldiers came and broke the legs of the first and then of the other one who was crucified with Jesus. But when they came to Jesus and saw that he was already dead, they did not break his legs, but one soldier thrust his lance into his side, and immediately blood and water flowed out. An eyewitness has testified, and his testimony is true; he knows that he is speaking the truth, so that you also may come to believe. For this happened so that the Scripture passage might be fulfilled: Not a bone of it will be broken. And again another passage says: They will look upon him whom they have pierced.

After this, Joseph of Arimathea, secretly a disciple of Jesus for fear of the Jews, asked Pilate if he could remove the body of Jesus. And Pilate permitted it. So he came and took his body. Nicodemus, the one who had first come to him at night, also came bringing a mixture of myrrh and aloes weighing about one hundred pounds. They took the body of Jesus and bound it with burial cloths along with the spices, according to the Jewish burial custom. Now in the place where he had been crucified there was a garden, and in the garden a new tomb, in which no one had yet been buried. So they laid Jesus there because of the Jewish preparation day; for the tomb was close by.

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

Does it resemble?

We contemplate Jesus, the Spouse, and the way he loves. Saint John Paul II said that a marriage cannot be called Christian if it does not resemble Christ the Bridegroom who gives himself for his Bride, the Church, on the Cross. Therefore, I contemplate how much my way of loving resembles that of Christ.

 

Applied to married life:

Martha: I no longer believe in my marriage. Who believes it’s possible to live a communion between spouses as God intended?

Rob: Don’t say that. Do you think God would have made us spouses if marriage weren’t possible?

Martha: Despite my husband’s sin? Despite mine? You say that because you’re not in my situation and you don’t know what I’m going through. Do you know anyone who’s enduring what I’ve endured and still fighting for their marriage?

Rob: Yes. I know a marriage. One of the spouses was taken to court, suffered abuse, contempt, unjust judgments, crushed by pride, vanity, envy, and countless sins of their spouse…

Martha: Right, and now you’ll tell me they’re still together, won’t you?

Rob: Yes, with bonds stronger than death.

Martha: Oh, come on! Who is this person so I can praise him?

Rob: Christ. And He promises you by His Blood that if you follow Him, you will achieve what you seek in your marriage.

 

Mother,

The agony you endured in the Passion of Our Lord, which we live again in these days, must have been unbearable. But all your pain was also for our salvation. Thank you, Mother, thank you. Thank you, Lord, praised be You forever. No one has loved me as much as You have.

Just yesterday. Reflection for marriages. Luke, 4:16-21

Gospel
God´s Spirit is upon me; because he anointed me.
From the Gospel according to Luke, 4:16-21.

He came to Nazareth where he had been raised. As he always did on the Sabbath, he went to the Synagoge. When he stood up to read, he was handed the scroll of the prophet Isaiah. Unrolling the scroll he found the place where it was written: “God´s Spirit is upon me; because he anointed me to preach the Message of good news to the poor, sent me to announce release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set the burdened and battered free, to announce: This is God´s time to shine.”
He rolled up the scroll, handed i back to the assistant and sat down. The eyes of all in the synagoge were fixed on him. Then he said: “Today´s scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing”.
The Gospel of the Lord.
 

Just yesterday.

700 years later, the prophecy of Isaiah is fulfilled. It is God’s timing. And we, being impatient, seek conversion and strive for holiness only after 20 or 30 years. What are 700 years compared to eternity? They are just, yesterday. Therefore, let us allow God to be God and let His plan unfold in His time, without too many demands from our part.

Applied to Married Life:

Ali: Peter, I was feeling distressed because I didn’t see sufficient progress in our Marriage, and reading today’s Gospel, I realized I’m a bit impatient. I often pray in the Lord’s Prayer for His will to be done, but then I hurry things along. 

Peter: Well, it’s normal to yearn for union with Him and communion with me. I think it’s good that we desire it, and perhaps what’s not so good is when we complain or become desperate because the process isn’t faster. 

Ali: It’s clear that God has chosen the process to be slow. I’m sorry for blaming you for it to be slow. Will you forgive me? 

Peter: I forgive you. I ask for your forgiveness too because sometimes impatience gets the better of me. But I love you just the way you are. 

Ali: I forgive you.

Mother,

The Lord has given us plenty. We should not demand more than what we have received, as Adam and Eve did in Paradise. We ask the Lord for His will to be fulfill when His Majesty determines. Amen.

You are so good… Reflection for marriages. Matthew 26:14-25

Gospel

The Son of Man indeed goes, as it is written of him,
but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed.

From the Gospel according to Matthew. Mt 26:14-25

One of the Twelve, who was called Judas Iscariot, went to the chief priests and said, “What are you willing to give me if I hand him over to you?”
They paid him thirty pieces of silver, and from that time on he looked for an opportunity to hand him over.

On the first day of the Feast of Unleavened Bread, the disciples approached Jesus and said, “Where do you want us to prepare for you to eat the Passover?”
He said, “Go into the city to a certain man and tell him, ‘The teacher says, “My appointed time draws near; in your house I shall celebrate the Passover with my disciples.”‘“
The disciples then did as Jesus had ordered, and prepared the Passover.

When it was evening, he reclined at table with the Twelve. And while they were eating, he said, “Amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.” Deeply distressed at this, they began to say to him one after another,
“Surely it is not I, Lord?”
He said in reply, “He who has dipped his hand into the dish with me is the one who will betray me. The Son of Man indeed goes, as it is written of him,
but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed. It would be better for that man if he had never been born.”
Then Judas, his betrayer, said in reply, “Surely it is not I, Rabbi?” He answered, “You have said so.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

You are so good…

Thank you Lord, because today you wanted to share with me the pain of having someone so dear to you betray your trust. It was very special, because in that pain there was no pride. It was all pain for not being able to remain united with that beloved disciple, and a pain for him, for seeing how he sank into a darkness of death for his soul.
It was a sharp, deep, bitter and heartbreaking pain, it was like a lance in the heart.
Today you have made me see that this same pain is what I cause you every time I betray your trust. You who have given me so much and I who turn my back on you. Tremendous tearing of Your Heart. You are so good… you don’t deserve this pain. Poor my Lord.
Applied to Married life:

Marcelo: Today I was thinking about the enthusiasm with which the Lord gave himself to give us the precious gift of our Sacrament of Marriage. Then I remembered how many times we have despised it, and I experienced the pain we caused the Holy Trinity by seeing us trample upon something so great and rich in experiences of supernatural love.

Laura: The more aware we become of the wonder of the gift of Marriage, the more conscious we can be of the gift we have received. I hope that, as Saint John Paul II says, we feel effectively called by this gift we have received from Christ’s redemption.

Marcelo: Well, yes. This alone should give us enough strength to not hurt each other again and not betray our marital union. May Our Mother help us.

Laura: Yes. May She help us.

Mother,

When will we come to value in its true measure the Love we have received from Your son? When will we come to value our Marriage according to its authentic worth? This we ask of you in these days of Passion. It is the price He paid to give it to us. Praised be Him forever.