Monthly Archives: February 2024

Stubbornness of heart. Reflection for marriages Mark 8:14-21

GOSPEL

“Watch out, guard against the leaven of the Pharisees and the leaven of Herod.”

From the Gospel according to Mark 8:14-21

The disciples had forgotten to bring bread, and they had only one loaf with them in the boat. Jesus enjoined them, “Watch out, guard against the leaven of the Pharisees and the leaven of Herod.” They concluded among themselves that it was because they had no bread. When he became aware of this he said to them, “Why do you conclude that it is because you have no bread? Do you not yet understand or comprehend? Are your hearts hardened? Do you have eyes and not see, ears and not hear? And do you not remember, when I broke the five loaves for the five thousand, how many wicker baskets full of fragments you picked up?” They answered him, “Twelve.” “When I broke the seven loaves for the four thousand,
how many full baskets of fragments did you pick up?” They answered him, “Seven.” He said to them, “Do you still not understand?”

The Gospel of the Lord,

Stubbornness of heart.

The heart resembles a slippery fish that you attempt to grasp but keeps slipping through your fingers repeatedly. You try to tie it to the Lord, but as soon as you let your guard down, it has already wandered off and is restless with so many things. Subsequently,  it come the worries, the anxieties, the complaints, the judgments among us. You stand before the Blessed Sacrament and shout to your heart: “You are with the Lord!” But when you go out, you realize it has slipped away from God’s hands again, and the works of the flesh return in marriage.

We implore the Lord to remove this stubbornness from our hearts and give us a spousal heart that beats in Him at His rhythm, at the rhythm of the Trinitarian God. With this aspiration, we enter Lent tomorrow.

Applied to Married Life:

Henry: You know when you attempt to lay a towel on the sandy beach, and the moment you turn away, it’s already covered in sand? That´s the same as my self-love. Like the sand, it always ends up on top. And when there’s a bit of wind, don’t even get me started.

Eleanor: I don’t even want to tell you… And of course, when we’re not in the Heart of Christ, everything gets disorganized, and disordered passions shoot up and wreak havoc between us. In the end, it all boils down to that – are you in Him or not?

Henry: Exactly. That’s it! Being in Him. That’s the key. Because being in Him, the soul rests. It was created for that.

Eleanor: To rest in Him.

 

Mother,

Take away this stubbornness from our hearts so that,  we are always in the Lord, at all times. Praise be to Him, glory be to Him forever.

Love, Not Signs. Reflection for marriages. Mark 8:11-13

GOSPEL

Why does this generation seek a sign?

From the Gospel according to Mark 8:11-13

The Pharisees came forward and began to argue with Jesus, seeking from him a sign from heaven to test him. He sighed from the depth of his spirit and said, “Why does this generation seek a sign? Amen, I say to you, no sign will be given to this generation.” Then he left them, got into the boat again, and went off to the other shore.

The Gospel of the Lord,

Love, Not Signs.

Some may pay more attention to extraordinary signs than to the love of God. These signs, defy the laws of physics and can impress us like a magician’s trick. Others may simply pursue relief from suffering.

But we are saved by faith, not by witnessing impressive miracles or by ceasing to suffer. The Apostle James says that faith fosters patience. In other words, the one who has faith considers above all the love of God, and waits on Him and His will without demanding that He act according to one’s own desires or motivations.

Applied in Married Life:

Jack Darling, does the situation with our daughter-in-law bother you less now?

Katie: The situation is painful and it will never truly goes away. Why do you ask?

Jack: Well, because lately it seems like you complain less and accept the situation more peacefully.

Katie: It’s not about that; it’s about realizing that my strength comes from faith. God loves me, and God loves her. I trust that He will untangle this situation when He deems it right. That’s why I endure this with patience, a patience rooted in faith in Him

 

Mother,

May our faith in the love of God sustain us. Praise Him forever.

 

Opposite Worlds. Reflection for marriages. Mark 1:40:45

GOSPEL 
The leprosy left him immediately, and he was made clean.From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 1:40-45

A leper came to Jesus and kneeling down begged him and said, “If you wish, you can make me clean.”
Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand, touched him, and said to him, “I do will it. Be made clean.”
The leprosy left him immediately, and he was made clean.
Then, warning him sternly, he dismissed him at once. He said to him, “See that you tell no one anything, but go, show yourself to the priest and offer for your cleansing what Moses prescribed; that will be proof for them.”

The man went away and began to publicize the whole matter. He spread the report abroad so that it was impossible for Jesus to enter a town openly.
He remained outside in deserted places, and people kept coming to him from everywhere.

The Gospel of the Lord.

Opposite Worlds.

An unclean heart in the times of Jesus was confused with leprosy. The leper makes a direct call to the Heart of Jesus when he says, “If you wish…”. That “if you wish” could perfectly be replaced by “if you love me…”.

So, in the face of this plea for love, Jesus is moved and touches the leper. At that moment, two opposite worlds come into contact: the world of impurity and the world of purity. Leprosy in contact with human flesh overcomes human nature. In contrast, in contact with divinity, it is inexorably defeated.

Today, as a sinful spouse, I kneel and plead: Lord, if you wish, you can make me clean.

Applied to Married Life:

Matt: (With his head bowed before the Blessed Sacrament next to Lorraine, his wife) Lord, why have you entrusted me with this wife if I am not worthy of her? I don’t give her the understanding she needs; I don’t treat her with the delicacy befitting a Princess, the daughter of the King of Kings. But if you wish, you can cleanse me of my pride.

Lorraine: Lord, I can’t understand Matt’s ways. I can’t love him as he deserves because I don’t accept his roughness and what I sometimes judge as hardness of heart. But Lord, if you wish, you can cleanse me of my pride.

The Lord: Of course, I love you. Have you noticed a certain pain in your soul due to each other’s attitudes? Well, love that pain because it is what I send you to purify yourselves.

Mother,

If you love us, do not abandon us in this valley of tears, Mother of Mercy, our advocate.

Love The Humiliation. Reflection for marriages. Mark 8:1-10

GOSPEL

They ate and were satisfied.From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 8:1-10

In those days when there again was a great crowd without anything to eat, Jesus summoned the disciples and said, “My heart is moved with pity for the crowd, because they have been with me now for three days and have nothing to eat. If I send them away hungry to their homes, they will collapse on the way, and some of them have come a great distance.” His disciples answered him, “Where can anyone get enough bread to satisfy them here in this deserted place?” Still he asked them, “How many loaves do you have?” They replied, “Seven.” He ordered the crowd to sit down on the ground. Then, taking the seven loaves he gave thanks, broke them, and gave them to his disciples to distribute, and they distributed them to the crowd. They also had a few fish. He said the blessing over them and ordered them distributed also. They ate and were satisfied. They picked up the fragments left over–seven baskets. There were about four thousand people. He dismissed the crowd and got into the boat with his disciples and came to the region of Dalmanutha.

The Gospel of the Lord.

Love The Humiliation.

We see how the Lord feels great compassion towards others and none towards Himself. He cares that others are well-fed, yet He sacrifices His life on the Cross.

Self-pity is a horror. It is a degenerative disease of marital love that leads to total destruction. It all comes from pride and being offended by everything the spouse does or doesn’t do. Therefore, pride must be exterminated. How? By making an effort every time one feels offended? Yes, but it’s not enough. It is necessary to love the despises I receive. Loving them will allow me to free myself from that “fake king”, my pride, and will allow the King of Love, Christ, to reign in my heart. Then I can begin to love as He loves.

Applied to married life:

Adele: Forgive me, dear, because I am insisting on changing you. I see your sins, and it feels like I am banging my head against a wall that doesn’t listen, and I have to shout for it to understand the harm it does to me and our children. But when I see how you suffer, I break down. It is compassion that helps me regain love for you.

Declan: Forgive me, Adele, because I feel attacked with each of your corrections, and I respond defending myself against you like an enemy. I know you want the best for me, and you want to help me become holy. But I don’t receive your corrections as good, probably because of my pride. But I know I have to overcome it. I want to love humiliations because they will defeat that pride and allow me to love you with God’s love.

Adele: I forgive you, Declan. Shall we be kind to each other again?

Declan: I´d love it. I forgive you too, Adele.

Mother,

Help us destroy our self-pity so that we do not worship golden calves that are not my God. To Him be glory and praise forever.”

Renewed Relationship. Reflection for marriages. Mark 7:31-37

GOSPEL

He makes the deaf hear and the mute speak.
From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 7:31-37

Jesus left the district of Tyre and went by way of Sidon to the Sea of Galilee, into the district of the Decapolis. And people brought to him a deaf man who had a speech impediment and begged him to lay his hand on him. He took him off by himself away from the crowd. He put his finger into the man’s ears and, spitting, touched his tongue; then he looked up to heaven and groaned, and said to him, “Ephphatha!” (that is, “Be opened!”) And immediately the man’s ears were opened, his speech impediment was removed, and he spoke plainly. He ordered them not to tell anyone. But the more he ordered them not to, the more they proclaimed it.
They were exceedingly astonished and they said, “He has done all things well. He makes the deaf hear and the mute speak.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

Renewed Relationship.

In the time of Jesus, a deaf-mute person couldn’t have a relationship with anyone, not even with God, because they couldn’t hear God’s law.

The fact that Jesus opened his ears and loosened his tongue was like opening him up to life. It was like making him be born again.

That’s what happens in our relationship with the Lord. It makes us new. Yes, new.

 

Applied to Married Life:

Nick: We’ve been having problems in our relationship for a long time, and we can’t find a way to break out of the cycle we’re in.

Louise: The only solution is to look to the Lord and let Him heal our relationship.

Nick: And how do we do that?

Louise: Through marital prayer, of course, but also, since we are particularly wounded by our pride, what do you think if we only talk about God for a week?

Nick: I think it’s wonderful because it will heal our bond and reactivate our Sacrament. We attend confession, receive communion, and start anew. Does that sound good to you?

Alicia: I love it.

 

Mother,

The Lord creates us again, every time. Praise be to Him forever.