With Your Motives. Reflection for marriages. John 15:9-17

Gospel

‘Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.’
John 15:9-17

At that time: Jesus said to his disciples, ‘As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.
  ‘This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. These things I command you, so that you will love one another.’

The Gospel of the Lord

With Your Motives

That phrase, “Love one another as I have loved you”, reminds me that I must live my life in You—not build my relationships outside of You, but within You. I need to place myself in situations as You would, experiencing what I am living as You did, interpreting it as You would, and acting with Your motivations. How? By loving as You love.

Applied to Married Life:

James: (Thinks: I can’t believe it. Just when we’re having our moment, the phone rings and my wife picks it up. Does everyone else always come first? Even now, in our time together, it seems like other things take priority over me.)
(Prays, asking for help)
Lord, I can’t take it. This thought torments me—I don’t understand. I’m getting anxious… How can I love in this situation? I can’t help feeling angry at her. On top of that, she’s being so cheerful on the phone… I’m sitting right here, waiting for her to finish, and she doesn’t seem to care. She’s in no rush at all. Lord, help me to love her in this situation.
The Lord: I understand. Because I, too, often wait for you while you’re caught up with other things. You’ve noticed that, haven’t you? Yet, I always bear your faults and impatience. So, put this situation in My hands. I will be the one to judge it fairly. Leave it to Me and find rest in Me. Right now, focus on loving her—that is your mission. Look at her with tenderness, despite her shortcomings. Be merciful as the Father is merciful. Pour all your efforts into that, and My joy will dwell in you.

Mother,

We constantly struggle between pride and love, between comfort and service. This battle is exhausting, Mother, and at times it overwhelms me. I stray from Your Heart and lose my joy. Help me in those moments, Mother. I need Your maternal embrace.
Lord, have mercy on me and on my family.
Amen.

Inevitably Drawn. Reflection for married couples. John 10:22-30

Gospel

‘I and the Father are one.’
John 10:22-30

At that time the Feast of Dedication took place at Jerusalem. It was winter, and Jesus was walking in the Temple, in the colonnade of Solomon. So the Jews gathered around him and said to him, ‘How long will you keep us in suspense? If you are the Christ, tell us plainly.’ Jesus answered them, ‘I told you, and you do not believe. The works that I do in my Father’s name bear witness about me, but you do not believe because you are not among my sheep. My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand. I and the Father are one.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Inevitably Drawn

Father, the time when we lived through the Passion of Your Son is still so recent. As we contemplate the price He paid for our redemption, how could You now allow anyone to snatch us from Your mighty hand?
There is a force that pulls us towards You in an inevitable way, and that force is Your Own Love.
Today we celebrate the Feast of Our Lady of Fatima. She crushes the serpent’s head and leads us under Her maternal mantle to the open arms of Jesus.

Applied to Married Life:

Richard: Sarah, there are so many temptations bombarding us every day. Sometimes I feel like this path to holiness is completely out of reach for me.
Sarah: And it is out of reach for you, Richard, but if you truly desire it, it becomes inevitable for God.
Richard: Really, who could possibly stand against the Love of God, who gave His Son for us? You’re right, Sarah. I don’t know how I let doubt creep in. No one will ever take me from Your divine arms.

Mother,

Happy feast day to You, which means so much to us. Praise be to God and our Blessed Mother.

Green Pastures. Reflection for married couples. John 10:1-10

Gospel

‘I am the door of the sheep.’
John 10:1-10

At that time: Jesus said, ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, he who does not enter the sheepfold by the door but climbs in by another way, that man is a thief and a robber. But he who enters by the door is the shepherd of the sheep. To him the gatekeeper opens. The sheep hear his voice, and he calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes before them, and the sheep follow him, for they know his voice. A stranger they will not follow, but they will flee from him, for they do not know the voice of strangers.’ This figure of speech Jesus used with them, but they did not understand what he was saying to them.
  So Jesus again said to them, ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, I am the door of the sheep. All who came before me are thieves and robbers, but the sheep did not listen to them. I am the door. If anyone enters by me, he will be saved and will go in and out and find pasture. The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Green Pastures

The only way to lead our small flock to green pastures is to enter through the Gate that is Christ. He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. If I enter through Him, our sheep will not be scattered.

Applied to Married Life:

Daniel: We’ve spent so many years raising our children with worldly values, and now that we’ve discovered the Lord and the Gospel—what can we do?
Melissa: First, we need to ask their forgiveness. And second, since they’re already adults, the only thing we can do now is to set an example through our lives as Christian spouses.
Daniel: That’s a great idea. Let’s love each other with the love of Christ, and He will take care of the rest. I also thought that as a Christmas gift, we could give them a retreat from the Project Marital Love—maybe it will touch them like it did us. What do you think?

Mother,

We want to remain in your Immaculate Heart, for it is the way to enter through the Heart of Christ.

The Ultimate Compliment. Reflection for married couples. John 10:27-30

Gospel
‘I give eternal life to my sheep.’

John 10:27-30

At that time: Jesus said, ‘My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand. I and the Father are one.’

The Gospel of the Lord

The Ultimate Compliment

Lord, You say: “What my Father has given me is greater than all things.” And among those the Father has given You are my spouse and me. To You, we are more important than anything else.
What a wonderful feeling it is to know that! Although I know You love us to the very end, I never really considered that we are the most important to You, and I love knowing it. Thank You, Lord, for that beautiful compliment.

Applied to Married Life:

Maggie: You know, just knowing that I am as important to you as I am to the Lord would be enough. I don’t need anything more.
Nathan: And that’s exactly how it is. Sometimes it might not seem that way because of my lack of sensitivity. But knowing how well you understand my clumsy ways, you’ll see that yes, you really are the most important person to me.
Maggie: I know you try to show it every day. It’s true that sometimes I don’t look at you with a clear and pure heart, and I let my feelings guide me, interpreting your actions through my own judgements. But thank you for reassuring me. From now on, I will make an effort to see it.
Nathan: And I will make an extra effort to make it more visible for you.
Maggie: I love you. Will you hug me?
Nathan: I love you too.

Mother,

You, who are the Mother of Conjugal Love, pray for us.

As a result of this. Reflection for marriages. John 6:60-69

From the Gospel according to John
John 6:60-69
Many of the disciples of Jesus who were listening said,
“This saying is hard; who can accept it?”
Since Jesus knew that his disciples were murmuring about this,
he said to them, “Does this shock you?
What if you were to see the Son of Man ascending to where he was before?
It is the Spirit that gives life, while the flesh is of no avail.
The words I have spoken to you are Spirit and life.
But there are some of you who do not believe.”
Jesus knew from the beginning the ones who would not believe
and the one who would betray him.
And he said, “For this reason I have told you that no one can come to me
unless it is granted him by my Father.”

As a result of this,
many of his disciples returned to their former way of life
and no longer walked with him.
Jesus then said to the Twelve, “Do you also want to leave?”
Simon Peter answered him, “Master, to whom shall we go?
You have the words of eternal life.
We have come to believe
and are convinced that you are the Holy One of God.”

Stumbling Stones?

Lord, sometimes my misery, my failures, or my lack of virtue may seem like obstacles on the path to You, and I live them as stumbling stones. They are stones that could discourage me. But today I have discovered that no, they are actually a help. The more I fall into the valley of personal humiliation, the more ready I am to love. The more open I am to embrace others, anyone, no matter how despicable they may seem—because I am also despicable. And what’s more, I discover that only You, only You can do it. I have only You. I have nothing else… and nothing less. Lord, You have the words of eternal life, and I know that You are the Holy One, and only You can lead me to holiness.

Grounded in married life:

Ramón: Tere, I think I’m not going to the marriage group anymore. We learn things, but then they don’t help us. We still argue often, you lose your temper, like yesterday, and become furious.
Tere: I know, Ramón, but we’re still on the journey. We’re moving forward little by little. We’re learning about the truth of marriage, and we’re making an effort, even though we should take it more seriously. We’re starting to recognize our mistakes, and there are seasons when we improve. But I’ll tell you one thing: if we stop learning about the truth of marriage, if we don’t sit down to talk about it at least once a month, if we don’t have a reference group, if we don’t commit to meeting once a month—where are we going to end up? The Spirit is in the Church, and we are part of it. That’s the path, Ramón.
Ramón: I understand—I’m being tempted. It’s true that leaving this path wouldn’t be a better alternative. On the contrary, it would lead me to ruin. Only perseverance in the path the Lord shows us will save us.