Be Awake. Reflection for married couples. Luke 21:34-36

Gospel

‘Stay awake that you may have strength to escape all these things that are going to take place.’
Luke 21:34-36

At that time: Jesus said to his disciples, ‘Watch yourselves lest your hearts be weighed down with dissipation and drunkenness and cares of this life, and that day come upon you suddenly like a trap. For it will come upon all who dwell on the face of the whole earth. But stay awake at all times, praying that you may have strength to escape all these things that are going to take place, and to stand before the Son of Man.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Be Awake

In today’s Gospel, the Lord urges us to “be on our guard,” to stay attentive to the greatest enemy of all—often the one hidden within our own heart. For us as spouses, this vigilance means treating one another with tenderness and loving each other with the very Love of Christ.
Saint John Paul II teaches that the heart is the place where we decide whether our spouse will be welcomed as a gift or reduced to an object. This is why the heart must be carefully guarded, lest routine, stress or fatigue slowly extinguish the loving gaze we should have for our husband or wife.
Jesus also mentions dissipation and drunkenness—signs of a heart led by disordered desires. Something similar happens in marriage when communion is damaged by attitudes that block true unity: using the other, or escaping into screens, addictions, or excessive work. These attachments quietly take the central place of the heart and erode the gratuity of love.
Vigilance, then, means remembering that before being managers of a household, we are spouses — called to give ourselves.
Finally, Jesus invites us to watch and pray. In marriage, praying together is a way of guarding our interior gaze: letting God purify our affections, renewing each day our capacity to see our spouse as a gift. Only then can we “stand firm” in the midst of trials and live our love joyfully and generously.

Applied to Married Life

Charles: Again? All this… like this? I honestly can’t cope with the chaos. I get home after a whole day’s work and seeing the house like this… I just feel like turning around and walking back out.
Beth: Charles, I’ve been on my own with the children: homework, baths, dinner… And that’s the first thing you choose to say to me? Besides, you get home when they’re already in bed.
Charles: Beth… I’m sorry. I’ve come back carrying so many worries, tensions and fears. And instead of rejoicing to see you, I let all that spill over onto you. I let myself be led by my “self”, by that egoism that hides in my heart and hurts us so much.
Beth: I want to say sorry too, Charles. The tiredness and pressure of the day made me defensive instead of welcoming you with affection after the long day you’ve had.
Charles: Beth, it’s so easy to let ourselves be carried away, isn’t it? Sometimes it’s not the mess, or the children, or the work. It’s what we are carrying inside our hearts — that becomes our real enemy.
Beth: Charles, the words of Jesus come to my mind: “Watch and pray.” I think that’s exactly what we need—watch over our hearts before speaking or wounding each other… and pray together.
Charles: Beth, shall we pray our conjugal prayer now?
Beth: Of course, Charles. Yes—let’s do it.

Mother,

guide us to safeguard our hearts, to order our desires, so that nothing may extinguish our love and so that prayer may always sustain us. Glory and praise to You, Lord, for ever.

Fruitful. Reflection for married couples. Luke 21:29-33

Gospel

‘When you see these things taking place, you know that the kingdom of God is near.’
Luke 21:29-33

At that time: Jesus told his disciples a parable: ‘Look at the fig tree, and all the trees. As soon as they come out in leaf, you see for yourselves and know that the summer is already near. So also, when you see these things taking place, you know that the kingdom of God is near. Truly, I say to you, this generation will not pass away until all has taken place. Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will not pass away.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Fruitful

Today the Lord teaches us that we recognise His Kingdom among us by its fruits. And He desires that His Kingdom be lived here and now—in our marriage and in our family.
That is why it is so important to look honestly at what is happening around me: Are there fruits of the Good Spirit?
As Saint Paul says in Galatians 5, these spiritual fruits are: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, humility…
So I need to pause and examine myself in the light of God:
– Am I in communion with my spouse?
– Do my words towards my spouse reflect charity?
– Do I live humility rather than pride?
– And each time my spouse falls, do I see it as an opportunity for me to grow in the opposing virtue?
When I truly see in my spouse the one God has chosen so that we may reach Heaven together—and live a foretaste of Heaven here on earth—then our marriage and family will bear fruits of eternal life.

Applied to Married Life

Isla: Peter, I think we really should go to Mass together.
Peter: I think so too, but Isla… it’s so difficult at the moment.
(Later that afternoon)
Isla: Peter, I’m going to Mass. You do as you wish, but I’m going.
Peter: I can’t today. Go on your own.
Isla: Well, suit yourself… but if you don’t come, that’s on you.
(On her return from Mass)
Isla: Hello, my love. You know, during Mass I was thinking about what we prayed in last week’s catechesis with our Marriage Project group: that the Lord died on the Cross, shed every drop of His Blood, and remains with us in the Eucharist to establish our sacrament. And by speaking to you so harshly… I was despising that gift and trampling upon it. Forgive me, Peter.
Peter: No… on the contrary, thank you, Isla, for reminding me how important the Eucharist is—and how going together always helps us live it better and deepens our communion.
Isla: Well, perhaps we can plan it out—maybe we could go together on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, since you work from home those days.
Peter: That sounds perfect, my love. I thank God for you—because you always help me refocus on what truly matters.

Mother,

Show us your Son, Jesus—blessed fruit of your womb. May His will be done here on earth, so that we may live His Kingdom now. Blessed and praised be the Lord forever!

Our Liberation. Reflection for married couples: Luke 21:20-28

Gospel

‘Jerusalem will be trampled underfoot by the Gentiles, until the times of the Gentiles are fulfilled.’
Luke 21:20-28

At that time: Jesus said to his disciples, ‘When you see Jerusalem surrounded by armies, then know that its desolation has come near. Then let those who are in Judea flee to the mountains, and let those who are inside the city depart, and let not those who are out in the country enter it, for these are days of vengeance, to fulfil all that is written. Alas for women who are pregnant and for those who are nursing infants in those days! For there will be great distress upon the earth and wrath against this people. They will fall by the edge of the sword and be led captive among all nations, and Jerusalem will be trampled underfoot by the Gentiles, until the times of the Gentiles are fulfilled.
  ‘And there will be signs in sun and moon and stars, and on the earth distress of nations in perplexity because of the roaring of the sea and the waves, people fainting with fear and with foreboding of what is coming on the world. For the powers of the heavens will be shaken. And then they will see the Son of Man coming in a cloud with power and great glory. Now when these things begin to take place, straighten up and raise your heads, because your redemption is drawing near.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Our Liberation

Today’s Gospel tells us that people will faint with fear and anxiety at what is coming upon the world. At the Second Coming of Jesus, the old man, clinging to worldly securities, will tremble as all those illusions collapse. But the new man, who lives by the Spirit, will lift his head, for he will be freed from the slavery of sin. Then we shall see God face to face.
The Kingdom of God is already here—in a heart living in grace, and in a marriage where Christ is allowed to dwell. But for Him to reign in us, our hearts must be purified; self-love must die so that we may welcome and give ourselves to our spouse.
We can choose to live in the joy of the Kingdom—the joy of the children of God—or to live in the fear that belongs to the children of the world.
Shall we choose the One who has already conquered?

Applied to Married Life

Claire: James, I’m really worried. Our son Andrew isn’t well; he’s started undergoing medical tests.
James: I understand you—I’m worried too. But you know something? Andrew is a beloved son of God. Jesus tells us that even the hairs of our head are counted. Nothing escapes Him. Everything—even suffering—becomes, with Him, a path to a greater good. When we carry the cross with Christ, we unite ourselves to Him.
Claire: Yes, I know the Lord never abandons us, and that to carry this cross I need to trust and surrender… but it’s hard.
James: Then let’s ask the Lord to give you the grace of holy abandonment. May He sustain us, and, if it is His will, restore Andrew’s health. From the depths of our hearts let us say: Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, I trust in You. In that trust, He frees us from fear.

Mother,

Through your fiat Jesus came into the world to save us, even amidst hardship. Teach us to trust as you did, to wait for Him with joy, free from fear, longing for the day we shall see Him in full. Blessed be our Saviour.

Listen and Persevere. Reflection for married couples.

Gospel

‘You will be hated by all for the sake of my name. But not a hair of your head will perish.’
Luke 21:12-19

At that time: Jesus said to his disciples, ‘They will lay their hands on you and persecute you, delivering you up to the synagogues and prisons, and you will be brought before kings and governors for my name’s sake. This will be your opportunity to bear witness. Settle it, therefore, in your minds, not to meditate beforehand how to answer, for I will give you a mouth and wisdom, which none of your adversaries will be able to withstand or contradict. You will be delivered up even by parents and brothers and sisters, and relatives and friends, and some of you they will put to death. You will be hated by all for my name’s sake. But not a hair of your head will perish. By your endurance you will gain your lives.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Listen and Persevere

My dear Lord, thank you for loving me so much and for giving me so much light.
Jesus, you warn us that suffering will come—and plenty of it. Yet you tell us not to be afraid, for you will give us the wisdom to face it and to bear witness to your love in every circumstance. With you, I have nothing to fear. I should not fear those who can harm my body, but those who can harm my soul. All I must do is persevere in following you and trust in you, even when I do not understand. You will take care of the rest.
Jesus, help me truly listen to you—every time. May I never seek my own will, but only yours. For there lies salvation: with you, who are Love, the Way, the Truth and the Life. Thank you, my good Jesus.

Applied to Married Life

Miriam: I’m really suffering with my sister. She just doesn’t understand what I’m doing; she criticises me in front of everyone… I don’t know what to do anymore.
Joseph: Miriam, you’re doing wonderfully. The Lord is guiding you—it’s so clear how close you are to Him. Think of how you used to react before: getting angry, arguing with her… Now the peace you’re giving as a witness to your family is remarkable.
Miriam: Thank you for saying that. The truth is that, although it hurts, I am at peace. It must be the peace of Jesus, because humanly it doesn’t make much sense. But I’m trying to act as He would. I don’t always know exactly what to do, but I know for sure that I shouldn’t fall into the trap of getting angry or attacking back. And when I don’t know what to say, I’ve learnt it’s better to stay silent, offer it to the Lord, and let Him take care of it.
Joseph: And He will, without a doubt. This path of prayer, sacraments and little sacrifices is extraordinary. We must say “yes” every day and persevere, but there’s nothing like letting the Lord take charge of our lives.
Miriam: Without clinging to Him, it’s impossible. But when we stay very, very close to Him… He does the work.

Mother,

Be the one who guides me. May I disappear so that you may lead me straight to your Son.
Praise be to God!

Fidelity and Trust. Reflection for married couples. Luke 21:5-11

Gospel

‘There will not be left here one stone upon another.’

Luke 21:5-11

At that time: While some were speaking of the Temple, how it was adorned with noble stones and offerings, Jesus said, ‘As for these things that you see, the days will come when there will not be left here one stone upon another that will not be thrown down.’ And they asked him, ‘Teacher, when will these things be, and what will be the sign when these things are about to take place?’ And he said, ‘See that you are not led astray. For many will come in my name, saying, “I am he!” and, “The time is at hand!” Do not go after them. And when you hear of wars and tumults, do not be terrified, for these things must first take place, but the end will not be at once.’
  Then he said to them, ‘Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be great earthquakes, and in various places famines and pestilences. And there will be terrors and great signs from heaven.’

The Gospel of the Lord

 

Fidelity and Trust

Through this Gospel, Jesus urges us to set our gaze on what truly matters: placing all our trust in Him, while remaining vigilant against temptations and the deceptions of false prophets.
Today, we want our children to learn several languages, to acquire endless professional skills, to study abroad… and all of that is good in itself. But we should ask ourselves: Are we educating them for the Kingdom of God—the only thing that is truly important?
And what about us, as spouses? Is our life adorned with many “precious stones and votive offerings”? Perhaps we place our confidence above all in our social circles, in keeping busy with endless plans, in material comforts, or in being seen as “the ones to follow”. But do these things really draw us closer to God, or do they simply inflate our vanity and tie us to earthly concerns?
We must remain faithful to our vocation: holiness within marriage. We must strive daily for it and help other couples discover the beauty of this call, so they do not settle for superficialities. Once we are clear about our goal, everything else will fall into its proper place.
Our goal is Heaven.
Applied to Married Life

Martha: Darling, have you noticed how stylish Lily always looks?
Albert: To be honest, I much prefer seeing how beautiful you are—inside, and yes, on the outside too. You have a beauty no treatment or make-up could ever produce. All those hours you give to the Lord, the love you pour into everything you do for Him… it radiates from you. It’s a light no one can manufacture by thinking only of themselves.
Martha: It’s true that since I’ve tried to do everything as Our Lady would—my work, the cooking, caring for the children, being with you—I’ve discovered a happiness that I know isn’t mine. It’s a gift from the Lord.
Albert: If I’m honest, there were times I wished you’d make a little more effort with your appearance… but the Lord is helping me to detach from material things and to see with His eyes, with a more supernatural gaze. It has turned out to be a real blessing; it’s helping me focus more on my interior life too.
Martha: I’ve told you more than once—I can really see how you’re changing since you’ve been taking your prayer life more seriously. The other day, Samuel told me he sees you differently: happier, calmer. Let’s ask the Lord to keep us faithful to what truly matters.

Mother,

We long to follow in your footsteps, to discern what really matters, and to remain firmly on the path of holiness. Glory to the Lord who makes it possible!