Renewed Relationship. Reflection for marriages. Mark 7:31-37

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He makes the deaf hear and the mute speak.
From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 7:31-37

Jesus left the district of Tyre and went by way of Sidon to the Sea of Galilee, into the district of the Decapolis. And people brought to him a deaf man who had a speech impediment and begged him to lay his hand on him. He took him off by himself away from the crowd. He put his finger into the man’s ears and, spitting, touched his tongue; then he looked up to heaven and groaned, and said to him, “Ephphatha!” (that is, “Be opened!”) And immediately the man’s ears were opened, his speech impediment was removed, and he spoke plainly. He ordered them not to tell anyone. But the more he ordered them not to, the more they proclaimed it.
They were exceedingly astonished and they said, “He has done all things well. He makes the deaf hear and the mute speak.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

Renewed Relationship.

In the time of Jesus, a deaf-mute person couldn’t have a relationship with anyone, not even with God, because they couldn’t hear God’s law.

The fact that Jesus opened his ears and loosened his tongue was like opening him up to life. It was like making him be born again.

That’s what happens in our relationship with the Lord. It makes us new. Yes, new.

 

Applied to Married Life:

Nick: We’ve been having problems in our relationship for a long time, and we can’t find a way to break out of the cycle we’re in.

Louise: The only solution is to look to the Lord and let Him heal our relationship.

Nick: And how do we do that?

Louise: Through marital prayer, of course, but also, since we are particularly wounded by our pride, what do you think if we only talk about God for a week?

Nick: I think it’s wonderful because it will heal our bond and reactivate our Sacrament. We attend confession, receive communion, and start anew. Does that sound good to you?

Alicia: I love it.

 

Mother,

The Lord creates us again, every time. Praise be to Him forever.

Against the Demons. Reflection for marriages. Mark 7:24-30

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The dogs under the table eat the children’s scraps.From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 7:24-30

Jesus went to the district of Tyre. He entered a house and wanted no one to know about it, but he could not escape notice. Soon a woman whose daughter had an unclean spirit heard about him. She came and fell at his feet. The woman was a Greek, a Syrophoenician by birth, and she begged him to drive the demon out of her daughter.
He said to her, “Let the children be fed first. For it is not right to take the food of the children and throw it to the dogs.”
She replied and said to him, “Lord, even the dogs under the table eat the children’s scraps.”
Then he said to her, “For saying this, you may go. The demon has gone out of your daughter.”

When the woman went home, she found the child lying in bed and the demon gone.

The Gospel of the Lord.

Against the Demons.

The Lord says, “Because of what you have said, the demon has left your daughter.” The question is, how did she speak to deserve such a reward? Well, with humility and faith. Those are the two keys that made Jesus cast out the demons from within us: Humility and faith. If I cultivate these two attitudes, my marriage can change drastically.

Notice that what Jesus says to the pagan woman is harsh. I could react by saying it seems unfair, or that God doesn’t act like that because He doesn’t make distinctions between people… But that woman accepts Jesus’ conditions with humility, and the result is that she saves her daughter.

Applied to marriged life:

John: My wife is insane. She overreacts and loses control saying outrageous things. She lies just to make me look bad and takes unwarranted reprisals against us.

Mentor marriage: I understand, John. It must be really tough.

John: The problem is, she doesn’t want to change. She thinks the problem is not her but everyone else around her. She has been subjected to many dissatisfactions in life, and now she has exploded in this uncontrollable way.

Mentors: Well, hang in there, John. You have a tough but great task ahead: You just need humility and faith. Humility to accept the humiliations and contempt, and faith to believe that by offering these humiliations for her in union with Christ, He will save her. Make her feel understood, feel that you are by her side. She has been alone for many years, and now it’s your turn to suffer for her salvation. One day the Lord will resurrect your marriage, and you will have been an artisan of God’s love in her, a witness to God’s love in her. You have this great mission, John. May the Holy Spirit always be with you.

(John took this mission seriously. He understood that the fight is not against his wife but against the demons that had her dominated and blinded. He said yes, with faith and humility, and the Lord cast those demons out of her heart).

Mother,

Sometimes, we don’t realize that we are subjected to our sins. Demons play with us, with our feelings, with our reasoning, with our pride… and take over our will. Let’s not forget that we are the adequate help for each other, especially on the path to heaven. Praise the Lord, who wants to free us from all evil. Amen.

Actually, I love you. Reflection for marriages. Mark 7:14-23

GOSPEL
What comes out of the man, that is what defiles him.

From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 7:14-23

Jesus summoned the crowd again and said to them, “Hear me, all of you, and understand. Nothing that enters one from outside can defile that person; but the things that come out from within are what defile.”

When he got home away from the crowd his disciples questioned him about the parable.
He said to them, “Are even you likewise without understanding? Do you not realize that everything that goes into a person from outside cannot defile, since it enters not the heart but the stomach and passes out into the latrine?” (Thus he declared all foods clean.) “But what comes out of the man, that is what defiles him. From within the man, from his heart, come evil thoughts, unchastity, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, licentiousness, envy, blasphemy, arrogance, folly. All these evils come from within and they defile.”

The Gospel of the Lotd.

Actually, I love you.

If I don’t experience love towards my spouse in any situation, it is not my spouse´s fault, no matter how badly he or she may be doing. It is my fault and it arises from my heart. It is called sin because I have been created to love.

Applied to married life:

Tessa: James, I have to admit that I’ve been blaming you for my sins for a while. For instance, the other day, I felt offended when you told me I am too emotional, and I accused you of having a hardened heart. That is called revenge, and I apologize.

James: Tessa, I did run away from you when I saw your attitude, and that is called lack of charity, a sin that came from my heart, and I apologize. I didn’t give you what you needed from me then, because I considered it useless, and that is called pusillanimity, and it’s a sin that came from my heart, and I apologize.

Tessa: It’s also true that I started lecturing you with arrogance, and arrogance is a sin that came from my heart. I also apologize for that. You can’t imagine the mess I created in a second… But you should know that I let my passions take over. The truth is that I love you.

James: I love you too, Tessa, and I’m sorry for hurting you with my sins because sin always mistreats. Is there any way I can make it up to you?

Mother,

May each of us be attentive to our own hearts instead of focusing on the speck in someone else’s eye. Praised be God, who always looks at us with mercy.

Confes-Suction. Reflection for marriages. Mark 7:1-13

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From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 7:1-13

When the Pharisees with some scribes who had come from Jerusalem gathered around Jesus, they observed that some of his disciples ate their meals with unclean, that is, unwashed, hands. (For the Pharisees and, in fact, all Jews, do not eat without carefully washing their hands, keeping the tradition of the elders. And on coming from the marketplace they do not eat without purifying themselves. And there are many other things that they have traditionally observed, the purification of cups and jugs and kettles and beds.)

So the Pharisees and scribes questioned him, “Why do your disciples not follow the tradition of the elders but instead eat a meal with unclean hands?”

He responded, “Well did Isaiah prophesy about you hypocrites, as it is written: This people honors me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me; In vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines human precepts. You disregard God’s commandment but cling to human tradition.”
He went on to say, “How well you have set aside the commandment of God in order to uphold your tradition! For Moses said, Honor your father and your mother, and Whoever curses father or mother shall die. Yet you say, ‘If someone says to father or mother, “Any support you might have had from me is qorban”‘ (meaning, dedicated to God), you allow him to do nothing more for his father or mother. You nullify the word of God in favor of your tradition that you have handed on. And you do many such things.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

“Confes-Suction”.

Jesus seeks to teach where true purity is attained. The key lies in the heart and it is the purity of intention. The opposite of purity is hypocrisy, that is, caring for the outside appearances while neglecting what comes from the heart. Human laws focus on the outside matters, but they forget about the inner truth.

Applied to marriaged life:

John: Tonight, I came up with an idea for a new business.

Gemma: What is it about?

John: Let’s start a cosmetic clinic.

Gemma: Well, you’re certainly not very original. There are already more cosmetic clinics than banks.

John: True, but those focus on outside appearances. I’m talking about a clinic for inner purity.

Gemma: Now, that is original. And how do you achieve that?

John: Easy. I’ll advertise on social media, and the location will be the sanctuary of the parish. Haha! Just imagine the surprise when they come for liposuction and find themselves in attending “confes-suction” at the confessional. We’ll tell them it’s a new system, and that’s it.

Gemma: Haha, I can imagine. Come on, get up; it’s already 7:30, and we have to go to work.

Mother,

Let us not neglect what is inside while focusing on appearances. Praised be the Lord.

They wouldn’t believe it. Mark 6:53-56

GOSPEL

As many as touched it were heal
From the Gospel according to Mark. MK 6:53-56

After making the crossing to the other side of the sea, Jesus and his disciples came to land at Gennesaret and tied up there.
As they were leaving the boat, people immediately recognized him.
They scurried about the surrounding country and began to bring in the sick on mats to wherever they heard he was. Whatever villages or towns or countryside he entered, they laid the sick in the marketplaces and begged him that they might touch only the tassel on his cloak; and as many as touched it were healed.

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

They wouldn’t believe it.

We have been created so that God may dwell in us, and He is already within us and will continue to be dewll in us for all eternity, when He will fill us with His glory.

In the times of Jesus, people longed to touch the hem of His garment. Now, on the contrary, He is within me. How am I going to make the most of that?

 

Applied to Married Life:

Ray: I am amazed by God’s behavior towards me, by how much He loves me. It’s great that He wants to be close to me, but inside?

Rose: It’s a mystery of His overflowing love. But, would you believe that love can truly exist if it’s not in this manner?

Ray: Only if it’s spousal, correct?. I carry you deep within me, and even when we live our marital embrace, I enter inside you. In marital prayer, I enter in your intimacy, which is the most precious part of you.

Rose: Exactly. Christ espouses us with spousal love. He doesn’t want a halfway love. He desires a love of total surrender. It’s impressive.

Ray: It’s overwhelming.

 

Mother,

 

If those ancestors from the Old Testament were to come now, they wouldn’t believe the immense fortune we have. God in us. Blessed be The Lord.”