In secret. Reflection for marriages Matthew 6:1-6,16-18

GOSPEL

” Your Father who sees what is hidden will repay you.”

From the Gospel according to Matthew 6:1-6, 16-18

Jesus said to his disciples:”Take care not to perform righteous deeds
in order that people may see them; otherwise, you will have no recompense from your heavenly Father. When you give alms, do not blow a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets to win the praise of others. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give alms, do not let your left hand know what your right is doing, so that your almsgiving may be secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.

“When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, who love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on street corners so that others may see them. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door, and pray to your Father in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you. “When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites. They neglect their appearance, so that they may appear to others to be fasting. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, so that you may not appear to be fasting, except to your Father who is hidden. And your Father who sees what is hidden will repay you.”

The Gospel of the Lord,

 

In secret

In secret, in the depths, in the most intimate place. There is God. He sees everything, scrutinizes everything, knows everything in me. Everything. Including my unspoken thoughts and the motives behind every action. Everything! Consequently, any aspect of my life not dedicated to Him, that which is lived merely for public visibility, is putting myself ahead of Him instead of seeking to make Him known: “Let your light shine before men, so that they may see your good works and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”

So, what am I? A son or a thief of my Father’s things? The Father who remains in me is the one who performs the works, says Jesus. And the one who ceases to be a son to become a thief loses what would have been rightfully his as a son.

I surrender my intimate self as a child, living in accordance with it, and in return, He bestows upon me His own essence. This gift includes regeneration and life, enabling me to exist beyond my own self.

Applied to Married Life:

Eduard: Forgive me, Lord, for overshadowing you. Every time I make excuses, every time I complain, every time I do not submit, every time I demand, every time I boast, every time I apply my own justice… I am like that annoying child who stands in front of the screen and doesn’t let others see. In all of this, I do not let you be seen, Lord, not by my wife, not by my children, not by many others.

Vanessa: Forgive me, Lord, because I forget that I carry you inside, that you are in me, that all my good deeds are yours. And I, in my own way, cast a shadow on you. You so great, and I so small, yet I enlarge my shadow by appropriating Your light.

Eduard: But we love you, Lord. We don’t want to overshadow you; we want everyone to know you. Do in us what you need to do so that only you shine. We know it involves humility. So go ahead, Lord.

Vanessa: Go ahead, Lord. Even if it hurts.

Mother,

Only by seeing how great you are and how little you appear in Sacred Scripture, we get an idea of what our role should be. To appear even less. The important one is the Lord. May everyone see Him, Mother. Praise Him forever.

Stubbornness of heart. Reflection for marriages Mark 8:14-21

GOSPEL

“Watch out, guard against the leaven of the Pharisees and the leaven of Herod.”

From the Gospel according to Mark 8:14-21

The disciples had forgotten to bring bread, and they had only one loaf with them in the boat. Jesus enjoined them, “Watch out, guard against the leaven of the Pharisees and the leaven of Herod.” They concluded among themselves that it was because they had no bread. When he became aware of this he said to them, “Why do you conclude that it is because you have no bread? Do you not yet understand or comprehend? Are your hearts hardened? Do you have eyes and not see, ears and not hear? And do you not remember, when I broke the five loaves for the five thousand, how many wicker baskets full of fragments you picked up?” They answered him, “Twelve.” “When I broke the seven loaves for the four thousand,
how many full baskets of fragments did you pick up?” They answered him, “Seven.” He said to them, “Do you still not understand?”

The Gospel of the Lord,

Stubbornness of heart.

The heart resembles a slippery fish that you attempt to grasp but keeps slipping through your fingers repeatedly. You try to tie it to the Lord, but as soon as you let your guard down, it has already wandered off and is restless with so many things. Subsequently,  it come the worries, the anxieties, the complaints, the judgments among us. You stand before the Blessed Sacrament and shout to your heart: “You are with the Lord!” But when you go out, you realize it has slipped away from God’s hands again, and the works of the flesh return in marriage.

We implore the Lord to remove this stubbornness from our hearts and give us a spousal heart that beats in Him at His rhythm, at the rhythm of the Trinitarian God. With this aspiration, we enter Lent tomorrow.

Applied to Married Life:

Henry: You know when you attempt to lay a towel on the sandy beach, and the moment you turn away, it’s already covered in sand? That´s the same as my self-love. Like the sand, it always ends up on top. And when there’s a bit of wind, don’t even get me started.

Eleanor: I don’t even want to tell you… And of course, when we’re not in the Heart of Christ, everything gets disorganized, and disordered passions shoot up and wreak havoc between us. In the end, it all boils down to that – are you in Him or not?

Henry: Exactly. That’s it! Being in Him. That’s the key. Because being in Him, the soul rests. It was created for that.

Eleanor: To rest in Him.

 

Mother,

Take away this stubbornness from our hearts so that,  we are always in the Lord, at all times. Praise be to Him, glory be to Him forever.

Love, Not Signs. Reflection for marriages. Mark 8:11-13

GOSPEL

Why does this generation seek a sign?

From the Gospel according to Mark 8:11-13

The Pharisees came forward and began to argue with Jesus, seeking from him a sign from heaven to test him. He sighed from the depth of his spirit and said, “Why does this generation seek a sign? Amen, I say to you, no sign will be given to this generation.” Then he left them, got into the boat again, and went off to the other shore.

The Gospel of the Lord,

Love, Not Signs.

Some may pay more attention to extraordinary signs than to the love of God. These signs, defy the laws of physics and can impress us like a magician’s trick. Others may simply pursue relief from suffering.

But we are saved by faith, not by witnessing impressive miracles or by ceasing to suffer. The Apostle James says that faith fosters patience. In other words, the one who has faith considers above all the love of God, and waits on Him and His will without demanding that He act according to one’s own desires or motivations.

Applied in Married Life:

Jack Darling, does the situation with our daughter-in-law bother you less now?

Katie: The situation is painful and it will never truly goes away. Why do you ask?

Jack: Well, because lately it seems like you complain less and accept the situation more peacefully.

Katie: It’s not about that; it’s about realizing that my strength comes from faith. God loves me, and God loves her. I trust that He will untangle this situation when He deems it right. That’s why I endure this with patience, a patience rooted in faith in Him

 

Mother,

May our faith in the love of God sustain us. Praise Him forever.

 

Opposite Worlds. Reflection for marriages. Mark 1:40:45

GOSPEL 
The leprosy left him immediately, and he was made clean.From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 1:40-45

A leper came to Jesus and kneeling down begged him and said, “If you wish, you can make me clean.”
Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand, touched him, and said to him, “I do will it. Be made clean.”
The leprosy left him immediately, and he was made clean.
Then, warning him sternly, he dismissed him at once. He said to him, “See that you tell no one anything, but go, show yourself to the priest and offer for your cleansing what Moses prescribed; that will be proof for them.”

The man went away and began to publicize the whole matter. He spread the report abroad so that it was impossible for Jesus to enter a town openly.
He remained outside in deserted places, and people kept coming to him from everywhere.

The Gospel of the Lord.

Opposite Worlds.

An unclean heart in the times of Jesus was confused with leprosy. The leper makes a direct call to the Heart of Jesus when he says, “If you wish…”. That “if you wish” could perfectly be replaced by “if you love me…”.

So, in the face of this plea for love, Jesus is moved and touches the leper. At that moment, two opposite worlds come into contact: the world of impurity and the world of purity. Leprosy in contact with human flesh overcomes human nature. In contrast, in contact with divinity, it is inexorably defeated.

Today, as a sinful spouse, I kneel and plead: Lord, if you wish, you can make me clean.

Applied to Married Life:

Matt: (With his head bowed before the Blessed Sacrament next to Lorraine, his wife) Lord, why have you entrusted me with this wife if I am not worthy of her? I don’t give her the understanding she needs; I don’t treat her with the delicacy befitting a Princess, the daughter of the King of Kings. But if you wish, you can cleanse me of my pride.

Lorraine: Lord, I can’t understand Matt’s ways. I can’t love him as he deserves because I don’t accept his roughness and what I sometimes judge as hardness of heart. But Lord, if you wish, you can cleanse me of my pride.

The Lord: Of course, I love you. Have you noticed a certain pain in your soul due to each other’s attitudes? Well, love that pain because it is what I send you to purify yourselves.

Mother,

If you love us, do not abandon us in this valley of tears, Mother of Mercy, our advocate.

Love The Humiliation. Reflection for marriages. Mark 8:1-10

GOSPEL

They ate and were satisfied.From the Gospel according to Mark. Mk 8:1-10

In those days when there again was a great crowd without anything to eat, Jesus summoned the disciples and said, “My heart is moved with pity for the crowd, because they have been with me now for three days and have nothing to eat. If I send them away hungry to their homes, they will collapse on the way, and some of them have come a great distance.” His disciples answered him, “Where can anyone get enough bread to satisfy them here in this deserted place?” Still he asked them, “How many loaves do you have?” They replied, “Seven.” He ordered the crowd to sit down on the ground. Then, taking the seven loaves he gave thanks, broke them, and gave them to his disciples to distribute, and they distributed them to the crowd. They also had a few fish. He said the blessing over them and ordered them distributed also. They ate and were satisfied. They picked up the fragments left over–seven baskets. There were about four thousand people. He dismissed the crowd and got into the boat with his disciples and came to the region of Dalmanutha.

The Gospel of the Lord.

Love The Humiliation.

We see how the Lord feels great compassion towards others and none towards Himself. He cares that others are well-fed, yet He sacrifices His life on the Cross.

Self-pity is a horror. It is a degenerative disease of marital love that leads to total destruction. It all comes from pride and being offended by everything the spouse does or doesn’t do. Therefore, pride must be exterminated. How? By making an effort every time one feels offended? Yes, but it’s not enough. It is necessary to love the despises I receive. Loving them will allow me to free myself from that “fake king”, my pride, and will allow the King of Love, Christ, to reign in my heart. Then I can begin to love as He loves.

Applied to married life:

Adele: Forgive me, dear, because I am insisting on changing you. I see your sins, and it feels like I am banging my head against a wall that doesn’t listen, and I have to shout for it to understand the harm it does to me and our children. But when I see how you suffer, I break down. It is compassion that helps me regain love for you.

Declan: Forgive me, Adele, because I feel attacked with each of your corrections, and I respond defending myself against you like an enemy. I know you want the best for me, and you want to help me become holy. But I don’t receive your corrections as good, probably because of my pride. But I know I have to overcome it. I want to love humiliations because they will defeat that pride and allow me to love you with God’s love.

Adele: I forgive you, Declan. Shall we be kind to each other again?

Declan: I´d love it. I forgive you too, Adele.

Mother,

Help us destroy our self-pity so that we do not worship golden calves that are not my God. To Him be glory and praise forever.”