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A Treasure for a Handful of Coins- Reflection for married couples – Matthew 6:1-6, 16-18

From the Gospel according to Matthew 6:1-6, 16-18

Jesus said to his disciples:
“Take care not to perform righteous deeds
in order that people may see them;
otherwise, you will have no recompense from your heavenly Father.
When you give alms, do not blow a trumpet before you,
as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets to win the praise of others.
Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward.
But when you give alms,
do not let your left hand know what your right is doing, so that your almsgiving may be secret.
And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.

“When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites,
who love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on street corners
so that others may see them.
Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward.
But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door,
and pray to your Father in secret.
And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.

“When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites.
They neglect their appearance,
so that they may appear to others to be fasting.
Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward.
But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face,
so that you may not appear to others to be fasting,
except to your Father who is hidden.
And your Father who sees what is hidden will repay you.”

A Treasure for a Handful of Coins

The Lord knows us very well. He knows that our hearts are disordered, inclined towards vanity, recognition, and the desire for applause. How subtle self-love can be! How skilfully it disguises itself, hiding even behind the holiest of actions. Outwardly, everything may appear right and proper, yet the heart can still revolve around itself.

But Jesus does not stop at pointing out our weakness. Like a good physician, He first reveals the wound and then leads us to the remedy. That is why today He directs our gaze towards the Father:

“Your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”

The Father sees what no one else sees. What comfort there is in that truth! In daily life, we make countless quiet sacrifices, hidden acts of love and service that go unnoticed by everyone around us. Yet God sees them all. Nothing is lost. No act of love is ever forgotten.

The Father’s gaze also speaks to us of a different kind of reward. So often we find ourselves begging for a word of appreciation, a gesture of admiration, a sign that our efforts have been noticed, when God wishes to give us something infinitely greater.

Jesus repeats this promise no fewer than six times:

“Your Father will reward you.”

It is as though He wants to engrave those words upon our hearts. One senses His sadness when He sees us exchange an eternal reward for a fleeting applause, a priceless treasure for a handful of coins, settling for so little when the Father longs to give us everything.

Brought into Married Life

Stephen had the afternoon free. He used the time to take the car in for servicing, collect some medication from the chemist, and on the way to pick up the children from school, he also did the weekly shop.

By the time Louise arrived home, dinner was ready and the children were already tucked up in bed. She ate quickly and went straight upstairs, as she had an early start the following morning.

Stephen gave her a gentle kiss and, after taking the rubbish out, he too went to bed.

Louise had not noticed any of what he had done.

Not a single word of thanks.

Not a comment.

Nothing.

Before falling asleep, Stephen prayed quietly in his heart:

“Lord, thank You because today I was able to love in secret. It is enough for me that You have seen it. Keep this small act of love within Your Heart. Thank You because You saw everything. How beautiful it is to love with You. Thank You, Jesus.”

Mother,

Help us never to exchange the treasures of Heaven for the applause of the world. Keep our small acts of love safe within your Immaculate Heart.

Blessed are you, Mother!

Humility for Rest. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 11:25–30

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Matthew 11:25–30
At that time Jesus exclaimed:
“I bless you, Father, Lord of heaven and of earth,
for hiding these things from the learned and the clever
and revealing them to mere children.
Yes, Father, for that is what it pleased you to do.
Everything has been entrusted to me by my Father;
and no one knows the Son except the Father,
just as no one knows the Father except the Son
and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.
“Come to me, all you who labour and are overburdened,
and I will give you rest.
Shoulder my yoke and learn from me,
for I am gentle and humble in heart,
and you will find rest for your souls.
Yes, my yoke is easy and my burden light.”
The Gospel of the Lord.

Humility for Rest
Jesus reveals that the most important things of God are not understood through intelligence or superiority, but through littleness — by allowing Him to enter within us. Acting from pride and self-love exhausts us because we were not created for that. We were created as children of God, to act in His image and likeness: to act from love, with love, and for love. And this is only possible if we become small enough for God to enter.
So often in our daily lives we think our tiredness comes only from external difficulties, but much of that exhaustion comes from wanting to be right according to my own judgement, from wanting to control situations, from wanting to be above my spouse, or from expecting the other person to change. In reality, it is our pride that places a heavy yoke upon us.
That is why the Lord calls those who are weary and burdened, so that we may learn from His “gentle and humble” Heart. He invites us to become little, to live with humility, recognising our need for Him — because it is precisely there that we find peace and rest.

Applied to Married Life
Candelaria: Juan Carlos, resting again? You’re always the same. The moment I turn around, you stop helping. You never get involved with things at home.
Juan Carlos: What do you mean “always the same”? You’re the one who always does the same thing — always wanting everything done your way!
Candelaria: Look, I’m exhausted. The house, work, the children… I can’t cope anymore!
Juan Carlos: Candelaria, I think we should pray for a while. We both really need it.
Candelaria: Yes… you’re right.
(After some time in prayer)
Juan Carlos: You know what? I want to ask your forgiveness. When you get upset with me, I close myself off even more, and instead of helping you, I end up hurting you more.
Candelaria: And I’ve realised that I’m not only exhausted because of everything we have to do, but because of my need to do everything my own way.
Juan Carlos: I think this is what we’re missing — turning more often to the Lord and letting Him help both of us. After praying, I always feel that our burdens don’t disappear, but they become much lighter.
Candelaria: You’re absolutely right! Let’s make a commitment to pray every day so we can count on Him in our daily lives.
Juan Carlos: Perfect!

Mother,

teach us to be humble. Praise be to the Lord.

I Have Been Given So Much. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 10:7–13

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Matthew 10:7–13
 “As you go, proclaim the good news, ‘The kingdom of heaven has come near.’
Cure the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those with leprosy, cast out demons.
You received without payment; give without payment.
Take no gold, or silver, or copper in your belts, no bag for your journey, or two tunics, or sandals, or a staff; for labourers deserve their food.
Whatever town or village you enter, find out who in it is worthy, and stay there until you leave.
As you enter the house, greet it.
If the house is worthy, let your peace come upon it; but if it is not worthy, let your peace return to you.”
I Have Been Given So Much…
God sends us to give freely what we ourselves have freely received. The challenge is that I have received so much… and therefore, I have so much to give.
In marriage, spouses give themselves completely and freely to one another — especially the love we have received from God. In this way, we share His peace. And if that peace is not welcomed, may I not lose my peace, but allow it to return to me. After all, I can only give what I have first received freely.

Applied to Married Life
Andrew: Darling, I’d like to invite you to start going to the Eucharist daily.
Marisa: Andrew, here we go again… Why are you always trying to make me do the same things you do? Honestly, it feels excessive. It’s not necessary to go that far.
Andrew: No, Marisa, I’m saying this because I want what is best for you.
Marisa: If it’s really for my good, then help more with the housework instead of disappearing to Mass every evening.
Andrew: Fair enough. I’ll go to the 7 a.m. Mass with the sisters instead. Then in the afternoon I can pick you up from work, and if you’d like, I’ll take you to Mass while I go home and take care of everything — the ironing, dinner, bathing the children…
Marisa: You would really do that for me? You’ll end up exhausted.
Andrew: For you — and so that you may receive the graces God wants to give you — I would do whatever is needed.
Marisa: Now I truly believe you’re inviting me to the Eucharist out of love. Forgive me for judging you unfairly. I love you, Andrew.
Mother,
It is true that deep down, many of the corrections we make towards our spouse are often mixed with some benefit for ourselves — and eventually, our selfishness becomes obvious. Now I understand why true love must be freely given. Praised be the Lord.

Listening to You Always. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 5:17–19

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Matthew 5:17–19
Jesus said to his disciples:
“Do not imagine that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets.
I have come not to abolish but to complete them.
I tell you solemnly, till heaven and earth disappear, not one dot, not one little stroke, shall disappear from the Law until its purpose is achieved.
Therefore, the man who infringes even one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be considered the least in the kingdom of heaven; but the man who keeps them and teaches them will be considered great in the kingdom of heaven.”

Listening to You Always
My beloved Jesus, how grateful we are that You became man and speak to us so clearly!
You tell us that “the one who breaks even the least of these commandments…”. How many times have You told us that to enter Your Kingdom we must listen to Your Word and put it into practice, keeping Your commandments. Why do You give us the commandments? So that we may clearly know how to do Your Will, and not our own. Because my own will, my own judgement, is distorted by self-love, even when I do not realise it.
That is why You ask us to seek only Your Will. To listen to You constantly so that we may do only what You would do, and as You would do it.
I can deceive myself with a thousand excuses. I may not want to stop and listen to You. Or I may stand before You, but listen only to myself. A terrible solution. I will hurt myself and hurt others.
Lord, please help me to listen to You in every moment. May I place all my actions before Your Light. And those situations that wound me, may I sincerely place them before You, listening to You. So that You may teach me that precisely there, I must overcome my self-love, do Your Will, and love — only love. To love even when it hurts; to love where it hurts.
Thank You, Lord.

Applied to Married Life
María: “I do not understand why you are so stubborn! Everything always has to be done your way. Enough already! Can’t you see I cannot take anymore?”
Alberto: “María, you are being unfair. Don’t you realise how hard I am trying to do what you want?”
María: “Yes, sure. Well, it certainly does not show!”
Alberto: “Forgive me, María. I only want to help you. I love you very much.”
That evening, after María spent time in prayer…
María: “Alberto, forgive me. I have been so blind. For days I have been focused only on what I do, on all my problems. And even when I went to pray, I stayed focused on myself, telling the Lord everything happening to me, but without listening to Him. Each day I was suffering more and more. This afternoon, before the Lord, crying, I asked Him where He was. Then I became silent. And finally, I could hear Him. I realised the Lord was there all along, but I could not hear Him because I was focused only on myself. I saw that the Lord wants to speak to me through you. He wants me to see your efforts to please me, your loving silence when I become angry, all those times you give in and I do not even notice. Thank you so much, Alberto. Please help me to know Jesus more deeply. I love you so much!”
Alberto: “María, I love you dearly. Let us walk hand in hand towards holiness, shall we?”

Mother,
Please teach me to always listen to your Son. To flee from my own will and do only His. Blessed and praised be God!

Be Light. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 5:13–16

Gospel of the Day – Matthew 5:13–16

Jesus said to his disciples:
“You are the salt of the earth.
But if salt loses its taste, with what can it be seasoned?
It is no longer good for anything
but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.
You are the light of the world.
A city set on a mountain cannot be hidden.
Nor do they light a lamp and then put it under a bushel basket;
it is set on a lampstand,
where it gives light to all in the house.
Just so, your light must shine before others,
that they may see your good deeds
and glorify your heavenly Father.”

Be Light
Today we live in a world full of contradictions, where everyone wants to show outward beauty, yet we are ashamed to reveal the beauty within. We do not mind exposing our bodies, but we are often incapable of uncovering even a small part of our soul.
These words of Jesus invite us to do the exact opposite: to give glory to God by making His Love visible through our small gestures and ordinary daily actions, by being light… and what better way to be light than by showing the beauty and greatness of our marriage?
There is no need to do anything extraordinary. Through our simple daily witness and small signs of affection — walking hand in hand down the street, a loving glance, a hug, a kiss… speaking of “marriage” when there is a sacrament and not merely of a “partner” — all these little acts give glory to God because they gradually fill this world with light.

Applied to Married Life
(Antonio is shopping at the greengrocer’s.)
Antonio: Good morning! Would you be so kind as to give me a quarter of a kilo of strawberries? But please choose the very best and the most beautiful ones!
Greengrocer: Of course. I received a fresh delivery this morning and they look absolutely wonderful. Are they for today?
Antonio: Yes, I need to prepare a dessert for my wife, so they must be the very best. María Lourdes loves strawberries and I want to surprise her.
Greengrocer: It is lovely to see a husband care so much for his wife. Nowadays that is not very common.
Antonio: I try… My wife is a gift from the Lord, the greatest treasure I have, and that is why I take such good care of her!
Greengrocer: You have really made me think, and you are absolutely right. Tonight I will prepare something special for my husband as well. It has been a long time since I last had a thoughtful detail for him.

Mother,
May we be a witness of light in this world of darkness.
Glory be to the Lord!