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Looking as Christ looks. Reflection for marriages Saint Luke 13:10–17.

Gospel of the Day

Reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Luke 13:10–17
Jesus was teaching in a synagogue on the sabbath.
And a woman was there who for eighteen years
had been crippled by a spirit;
she was bent over, completely incapable of standing erect.
When Jesus saw her, he called to her and said,
“Woman, you are set free of your infirmity.”
He laid his hands on her,
and she at once stood up straight and glorified God.
But the leader of the synagogue,
indignant that Jesus had cured on the sabbath,
said to the crowd in reply,
“There are six days when work should be done.
Come on those days to be cured, not on the sabbath day.”
The Lord said to him in reply, “Hypocrites!
Does not each one of you on the sabbath
untie his ox or his ass from the manger
and lead it out for watering?
This daughter of Abraham,
whom Satan has bound for eighteen years now,
ought she not to have been set free on the sabbath day
from this bondage?”
When he said this, all his adversaries were humiliated;
and the whole crowd rejoiced at all the splendid deeds done by him

Looking as Christ looks
The first thing that stands out in this Gospel is that it is Jesus who sees the bent-over woman, calls her, and sets her free.
This attentive and compassionate gaze is a key for married life: conjugal love is renewed when we are attentive to one another and look at our spouse with the gaze with which God looks at them.
There are times when a husband or wife may be “bent over” by daily burdens, resentments, fears, or silences, and it is precisely then that God asks us to go out to meet them and, with the help of the Holy Spirit, heal and free them.
This merciful gaze toward the other must be constant. We should not wait for the “right” moment to act — even if it is the “Sabbath”, we must do it. We are called to be quick in love, always alert, and whenever we see our spouse starting to “bend over”, we must, following Jesus’ example, look with compassion, draw near, reach out with tenderness, and help them rise again.
Jesus shows that charity — true love — is above the law. The law only makes sense if it leads us to Him. Therefore, in marriage, spouses are called to seek communion above their own reasoning or criteria. In that communion, spouses are not bound by what “should be done”, nor do they settle for a mediocre love, but rather love as Jesus loves: with freedom, tenderness, and truth. And that way of loving heals, straightens, and lifts up.
Applied to Married Life
(Martha and John discuss the Gospel)
Martha: What hope this Gospel gives! Eighteen years of illness — and she is healed.
John: Yes, Jesus sees her and doesn’t wait for her to ask for anything. He simply looks at her, calls her, and frees her. I wish we could always have that same look between us. So often, we get caught up in our own things and fail to notice how the other is doing.
Martha: It’s true that sometimes the other person doesn’t make it easy — bent over by work, the house, the children… they don’t even realise it. But look how beautiful this is: Jesus touches her and makes her stand up straight. His touch straightens her. Maybe in marriage that means touching the other’s heart with tenderness, not with reproach.
John: And what a difference between Jesus and the synagogue leader. The synagogue leader gets angry because He healed her on the Sabbath. How many times do we also have our own “Sabbaths”: “They don’t deserve it right now”, “I’m tired”, “I don’t have time”, “We’ll talk tomorrow”…
Martha: It’s true — how often we postpone love, forgiveness, or a kind word, because we expect the other person to take the first step. Jesus doesn’t wait for the perfect moment; He loves and frees as soon as He encounters a need.
John: How great is the Lord!
Martha: What do you think about us going to Mass during the week too — to let ourselves be looked at by Christ and healed of our own “bentness”?
John: Wonderful idea, my love. What would I do without you?

Mother,
Teach us to love above the rules,
to prefer communion over being right,
and always to make your charity
the measure of our words and actions.
Blessed be God who teaches us so much.

Love That Goes Beyond Reason. Reflection for marriages Luke 18:9-14.

From the Gospel according to Luke 18:9-14

Jesus addressed this parable
to those who were convinced of their own righteousness
and despised everyone else.
“Two people went up to the temple area to pray;
one was a Pharisee and the other was a tax collector.
The Pharisee took up his position and spoke this prayer to himself,
‘O God, I thank you that I am not like the rest of humanity —
greedy, dishonest, adulterous — or even like this tax collector.
I fast twice a week, and I pay tithes on my whole income.’
But the tax collector stood off at a distance
and would not even raise his eyes to heaven
but beat his breast and prayed,
‘O God, be merciful to me a sinner.’
I tell you, the latter went home justified, not the former;
for whoever exalts himself will be humbled,
and the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

The Gospel of the Lord

Love That Goes Beyond Reason

The Pharisee compares himself to others and “thanks God for how good he is,” stepping into a world of duties and achievements — where everything has a price… and every one else, his contempt.
The tax collector, on the other hand, looks within and trusts in God’s goodness — the doorway to a life of gift and grace.
And we, couples of Proyecto Amor Conyugal — what about us? Are we Pharisees, grateful because we’re “doing well” and have “already arrived”? Or do we still long for more?


Applied to married life :

Luis: Today, during prayer, God stirred something very deep in my heart.
Moira: Really? What happened?
Luis: When we did the Proyecto Amor Conyugal retreat, we began a journey that truly rescued us. But I feel Christ is asking for something more. We live a good, responsible faith… but maybe one that’s become too reasonable. We seek our own good, and that’s fine. But…
Moira: But what?
Luis: What about His heart? I realize I’ve been focused on our well-being. But how is His heart?
Moira: God is amazing… you’ve just confirmed something that’s been on my mind, and I asked Him for a sign. You just gave it to me.
Luis: Really?
Moira: Yes. Being so focused on our spiritual journey has made us a bit self-centered. Sometimes, without meaning to, we even judge those who don’t live like we do.
Luis: Without realizing it, we’ve been living our marriage according to our own plans. We need to make room for Him — to step out of our logic, stay more attuned to Him, and respond to what He asks of us.
Moira: Let’s pray then, so He can show us the “next steps.”
Luis: (laughs) Sounds like you just came out of a work meeting.

Mother,

teach us to “desire more,” for our hearts long for the infinite, and only your Son can fulfill that longing.
Blessed and praised forever be Jesus, who redeemed us with His Blood.

The Lord’s Patience. Reflection for marriages Luke 13:1-9

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Luke13:1-9

Some people told Jesus about the Galileanswhose blood Pilate had mingled with the blood of their sacrifices.He said to them in reply,“Do you think that because these Galileans suffered in this waythey were greater sinners than all other Galileans?By no means!But I tell you, if you do not repent,you will all perish as they did!Or those eighteen people who were killedwhen the tower at Siloam fell on them—do you think they were more guiltythan everyone else who lived in Jerusalem?By no means!But I tell you, if you do not repent,you will all perish as they did!”
And he told them this parable:“There once was a person who had a fig tree planted in his orchard,and when he came in search of fruit on it but found none,he said to the gardener,‘For three years now I have come in search of fruit on this fig treebut have found none.So cut it down.Why should it exhaust the soil?’He said to him in reply,‘Sir, leave it for this year also,and I shall cultivate the ground around it and fertilize it;it may bear fruit in the future.If not you can cut it down.’”

The Gospel of the Lord

The Lord’s Patience

In this Gospel, we see some people coming to tell Jesus what others, in their opinion, have done wrong. It’s quite likely that, deep in their hearts, they’ve already judged and condemned them. This scene might feel familiar to us. How many times have I gone to Jesus —almost in an accusatory tone— to tell Him about the pain I feel because of something my spouse has done? To point out what, in my view, they’ve done wrong?

But Jesus doesn’t linger on the accusation. Instead, He uses the moment to challenge us with a powerful question: Do you think your spouse is more sinful than you? Do you believe you’re better simply because you haven’t fallen into the same sin? And then He tells us: You are not —so repent, or you too will perish.

At first, His words may sound harsh. Yet the Lord invites us to conversion with infinite patience. Even though He knows that, because of our lukewarmness, our comfort, or our selfishness —for whatever reason— we may have gone a long time without bearing the fruit He expects, He never gives up on us. He always wants to give us another chance, just like the fig tree in the parable.

His hope is placed in us; He never counts us as lost. That’s why Jesus asks the Father to grant our marriage another opportunity. If He hasn’t given up on my marriage or on my spouse, how could I? No, Lord. I want to work with You so that our marriage may bear abundant fruit.

Applied to Marriaged Life :

Victor: Why does everything have to be so difficult, Martha?
Martha: What do you mean, Victor?
Victor: I mean, even though we go to Mass almost every day now, and we pray together regularly, life doesn’t seem any easier. In fact, it feels like things keep getting harder. Now the kids complain that we spend less time with them.
Martha: Well, Jesus never said life would be easier —at least not from a human perspective. Remember, He said He didn’t come to bring peace but division. And He told us we’d only be worthy of Him if we carried our daily cross.
Victor:Yes, that’s true… but still, wouldn’t it help if external things went a little smoother?
Martha: Are you sure about that? During my prayer today, something struck me in the parable of the barren fig tree. The Lord says that to see if it will bear fruit, He’ll dig around it and spread  fertilizer-not flowers or something beautiful, but fertilizer.
Victor: And? I’m not sure what you’re getting at.
Martha: Think about it —to make the tree bear fruit, He doesn’t put flowers or pretty decorations around it. He uses fertilizer—something that smells bad, something unpleasant, but rich in nutrients. It made me realize that, in our marriage, the “fertilizer” God gives us often comes in the form of trials and difficulties. Because it’s through them that our love grows stronger. We don’t grow when everything’s easy; we grow when we face challenges together and overcome them side by side.
Victor: I see now —the fertilizer represents all the things we dislike, but that the Lord allows so we can strengthen our marriage.
Martha: Exactly.
Victoe: Thank you, Martha, for helping me see how much the Lord loves us —even when He sends us trials. I love you.
Martha: Thanks be to God, who helps us grow in love. I love you even more.

Mother,

teach us to recognize God’s will even in our difficulties. Help us trust that He is a loving Father who always sends what is best for us —even when we don’t understand it. And like you, may we always say “yes” to His will.

Blessed and glorious are you, Mother! Praised be the Lord forever!

Will It Rain This Weekend? Reflection for marriages Luke 12:54-59

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Luke12:54-59

Jesus said to the crowds,”When you see a cloud rising in the westyou say immediately that it is going to rain–and so it does;and when you notice that the wind is blowing from the southyou say that it is going to be hot–and so it is.You hypocrites!You know how to interpret the appearance of the earth and the sky;why do you not know how to interpret the present time?
“Why do you not judge for yourselves what is right?If you are to go with your opponent before a magistrate,make an effort to settle the matter on the way;otherwise your opponent will turn you over to the judge,and the judge hand you over to the constable,and the constable throw you into prison.I say to you, you will not be releaseduntil you have paid the last penny.”

The Gospel of the Lord

Will It Rain This Weekend?

These days we rely more and more on weather forecasts that can tell us, at least a week ahead, whether it’ll rain or not — and usually, they’re right. That makes it easy to plan our weekends. We no longer have to look to the west or check which way the wind is blowing. Everything’s served to us on a silver platter, so we barely need to think anymore.

But maybe that’s part of the problem. It’s also becoming harder to tell what’s truly right or wrong, and we end up just going along with whatever society or the tv says is best for us. What a terrible mistake! The Lord reminds us that we won’t leave there until we’ve paid the very last penny.

Husbands and wives, how much do we still owe for not living the Gospel with integrity?

Applied to Married Life

Ed: Hey, Lucy! How was your day? What a downpour! And of course, I forgot my umbrella. I’m soaked!
Lucy: Oh, Ed! Go take a hot shower and get changed — you’ll catch a cold, and you’re getting everything wet.
Ed: Ah, that feels so much better now that I’m dry. Need a hand with dinner?
Lucy: Thanks, it’s almost ready. I was just sitting here thinking and thanking the Lord. Do you remember when I used to call you my weatherman? You were glued to the news and the weather reports, always checking your phone. We went out perfectly prepared for the rain or cold, but we never had time to pray or just sit and talk as a family.
Ed: Oh, I remember. We’ve changed so much since we went on the Project for conjugal love retreat and started praying together every day. And you’ve stopped watching all those gossip shows that were so toxic.
Lucy: Ugh, don’t remind me. Now when I visit my mom and she has them on, I can’t believe how much time I used to waste on that nonsense. You know, I even confessed for spending so many hours in front of the TV!
Ed: You’re amazing, you know that? You have such a beautiful soul. Let’s eat — I can’t wait to do our prayer together.

Mother

Thank you for everything. We know that you gently guide us, with a loving hand, into the presence of your Son, giving each of us what we need at every moment. We pray for all marriages and families going through dark times. Here we are, ready to help you lead them to Him.
Blessed and praised be He!

Burning With Love. Reflection for marriages Luke 12:49-53

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Luke. 12:49-53
Jesus said to his disciples:”I have come to set the earth on fire,and how I wish it were already blazing!There is a baptism with which I must be baptized,and how great is my anguish until it is accomplished!Do you think that I have come to establish peace on the earth?No, I tell you, but rather division.From now on a household of five will be divided,three against two and two against three;a father will be divided against his sonand a son against his father,a mother against her daughterand a daughter against her mother,a mother-in-law against her daughter-in-lawand a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.”
The Gospel of the Lord
Burning with Love
The words of Jesus, saying that He has come to “set the earth on fire,” may sound harsh at first, but that’s exactly what He came to do — to ignite the fire of His love. He longs for that fire to spread, for His love to reach every person in the world.
We see this in the flame of His Sacred Heart — the fire of His divine love — and how deeply He suffers when that fire sometimes divides and separates instead of uniting, which is His greatest desire.
Through the sacrament of marriage, we represent Christ on earth by spreading that same fire around us — through our love, which is meant to lead us into full communion with one another and to shine as a light for everyone around us.
Sometimes, that fire between us may cause division among those who see the change it brings in our lives and don’t understand it. But may they be able to say instead, “How that marriage burns with the love of Christ, and how it draws us closer to the love of God.”
Applied to Married Life
David: Alice, have you noticed how much Mary and Ian have changed since the last time we saw them?
Alice: Yes, it’s impossible not to notice — though don’t you think they might be overdoing it a bit?
David: Maybe, if you look at it objectively. But there’s something really beautiful about the way they treat each other.
Alice: True, but you and I are nowhere near that. Besides, they spend so much time on their marriage and on helping others. We don’t have that kind of time — our life is just too complicated.
David: You’re right, but seeing them makes me want to try to improve.
Alice: To get to where they are, we’d have to change so many things… I don’t think we’re ready for that. And honestly, just thinking about it makes me focus more on what separates us than on what unites us.
David: That’s true. But they make me realize what I need to change so I can grow closer to you each day — to be more united instead of drifting apart.
Alice: Would you really be willing to do that for me? Sometimes I think about what I could do to change too, but I just don’t know where to start.
David: Then why don’t we try together? I know we’ve got a long way to go, but if we’re both thinking the same thing, maybe we can make it happen.
Alice: Great idea! I’ll call María and Iñigo so we can meet up and they can tell us how to get started. We need to ask for help — we can’t do this alone.
David: Works for me.
Mother,
Help us enter into the fire of Your Son’s Sacred Heart, so that we may burn with His love and learn to love in peace and unity.
Praise be to the Lord.