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In intimacy with Christ. Reflection for marriages Saint Matthew 5:1-12

Gospel of the Day

From the Gospel according to Saint Matthew 5:1-12
When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain, and after he had sat down, his disciples came to him. He began to teach them, saying:
“Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are they who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the land.
Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be satisfied.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the clean of heart,
for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness,
for theirs is the Kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are you when they insult you and persecute you
and utter every kind of evil against you falsely because of me.
Rejoice and be glad,
for your reward will be great in heaven.
Thus they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”

In intimacy with Christ
In this Gospel, we see how Jesus, upon seeing the crowd, withdrew and went up the mountain. He does not seek the recognition of the masses, but silence and communion with the Father. From that intimacy the Beatitudes spring forth, from the heart of God. In our married life, this attitude of Christ invites spouses to also climb His “mountain”: the place of encounter with God where love is purified and becomes authentic. In this world we live in, full of noise and appearances, Christian marriage does not rely on human effort but on the grace that arises from shared silence before God, growing together in that intimacy in Him. When the spouses pray together and gather in Him, our relationship transforms: we stop living to be seen and begin to love from the depths, taking part in the Trinitarian communion that gives life to the sacrament of marriage. When the spouses live from prayer and mercy, our love becomes fruitful and bears fruit; our happiness no longer depends on circumstances, but on the presence of God dwelling among us. Thus, we become a living testimony of the Beatitudes: a silent, merciful and deeply God-filled love.

Applied to Married Life
Louisa: Today at Mass, when Father Charles read “Blessed are the merciful”, I thought of us. Yesterday I got angry with you for leaving everything lying around after dinner… and this morning when I got up I was still upset.
Paul: Louisa, I noticed… and I felt bad. It’s true I sometimes come home tired and I forget to help. But exactly that made me think: isn’t being merciful also forgiving each other in the small things?
Louisa: Yes, I believe so. Sometimes I imagine that holiness is found in great things, and it turns out it begins in this: not staying stuck in the anger, looking at you tenderly even though you didn’t do what I expected.
Paul: Louisa — and in my case, asking you for forgiveness without pride, recognising that I failed you. Maybe being holy together is just that: having patience, forgiving quickly and continuing to walk together.
Louisa: Yes… when I manage to forgive you from the heart, I feel peace. It’s as if God tells me: “That is to love as I love”. Then I understand that holiness is not far away; it is in how we treat one another every day.
Paul: So today, our way of living the Beatitudes is like this: you forgive me, I learn, and together we let God unite us a little more.
Louisa: Exactly darling, being holy for us begins here, among the unwashed dishes and sincere forgiveness.

Mother,

you who were poor in spirit and always trusted in God, teach us to live with humility, hope and purity of heart. Praised and blessed be the Lord for ever!

Grace, Grace. Reflection for marriages Saint Luke 14:1-6

Gospel of the Day

From the Gospel according to Saint Luke 14:1-6
On a sabbath Jesus went to dine at the home of one of the leading Pharisees, and the people there were observing him carefully.
In front of him there was a man suffering from dropsy.
Jesus spoke to the scholars of the law and Pharisees in reply, asking, “Is it lawful to cure on the sabbath or not?”
But they kept silent; so he took the man and, after he had healed him, dismissed him.
Then he said to them, “Who among you, if your son or ox falls into a cistern, would not immediately pull him out on the sabbath day?”
But they were unable to answer his question.

Grace, Grace
Today we see the Lord curing on the sabbath, because His Mercy wants to reach us at every moment. He says that He is ready to heal us and save us.
Therefore — why don’t we let Him? Why do we resist Grace? The Lord is longing for us to welcome it. In prayer, in the sacraments, and especially, He wants to heal us in the sacrament of confession.
In the sacrament of marriage we have the grace to recognise our sin when “I look badly at my husband”. When I’m seeing that my husband “does everything wrong”, the Lord tells us: “The lamp of the body is the eye”, so then, let us go to confession to heal our interior, let us reconcile with God and then with our husband.
Thank you Lord for giving us the sacraments! Thank you for marriage!

Applied to Married Life
Carmen: Hello Charles! How are you? How’s your day been?
Charles: Fine.
Carmen: (thinking… here we go again — abrupt and cold, always comes home tired and thinking about his work problems…) And your day good?
Charles: Yes.
Carmen: (thinking… well, could you at least ask how my day was? I’ll go prepare dinner, let’s see if he helps.) Charles, I’m going to make dinner, what would you like?
Charles: I don’t mind, whatever you feel like.
Carmen: (thinking… but come on, this is the limit! He doesn’t even help me decide what to cook! He doesn’t even help with that… Lord help me, because I can’t. I’ll pray.)
And the Lord said to her: “The lamp of the body is the eye”.
Well, Lord, it’s true that I’m seeing only the bad, so I’ll be the one to clean my heart and my gaze.
I’ll go to confession. Thank you Lord!
Carmen: Charles, I’ve been to confession because I was seeing everything wrong in you, I’m going to prepare the dinner you like so we can enjoy it together, does that sound good?
Charles: Of course my love! What a blessing your Faith is and how persevering you are in it. What a wonder to have you, Carmen!
Mother,

you are example of humility and of receiving the Grace of God. Thank you for being our Mother and model to reach your Son, Our Lord.
Praised be the Lord for ever!

Unity is the Fruit. Reflection for marriages Saint Luke 13:31-35

Gospel of the Day

From the Gospel according to Saint Luke 13:31-35

Some Pharisees came to Jesus and said,
“Go away, leave this area because Herod wants to kill you.”
He replied,
“Go and tell that fox, ‘Behold, I cast out demons and I perform healings today and tomorrow, and on the third day I accomplish my purpose. Yet I must continue on my way today, tomorrow, and the following day, for it is impossible that a prophet should die outside of Jerusalem.’
“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how many times I yearned to gather your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, but you were unwilling! Behold, your house will be abandoned. But I tell you, you will not see me until the time comes when you say, Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.”

Unity is the Fruit
“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you!” What a terrible thing if the Lord said this to me as He said it to Jerusalem! We might think that we have done nothing of the sort: killed or stoned; but what if it turns out that I am doing it? How? By killing and stoning my husband when I do not receive him, do not love him, see him as a nuisance and even an impediment to “loving my God”.
God’s love always bears the fruit of unity. If something separates me from my husband, then it is not from God. It is the devil who sows division. God wants to gather us under His wings, as a hen gathers her brood and gives them warmth and protection.
Let us be clear: we will hardly see God if we do not discover Him in our husband, because he is the one sent in the name of the Lord to be our suitable help.
Applied to Married Life
Charles: Marta, that look of happiness — what’s it down to?
Marta: Darling, it’s incredible how grace has changed my view of you. Before, I saw you as a brake, as an impediment to growing in my relationship with God.
Charles: And now? What’s changed? Because it’s true I notice you’re different.
Marta: I’m so glad you’ve noticed. Simply that I’ve discovered you are a gift from God to me — that we are sent to each other to be a path towards Him. That you are the task and the help God gives me to grow in holiness, in union with Him, growing in love and unity with you to reach communion and Heaven.
Charles: What a wonder! I love it! I’m in on this task too. And I’ll try to make it easier for you, I know sometimes I make it complicated. Thank you, darling. You’re a blessing. I love you.
Marta: I love you too, and going together — this is going to be amazing!

Mother,

teach me to discover in my husband the gift of God for me.
Praised be the Lord for ever!

The Narrow Gate Sets Us Free. Reflection for marriages Saint Luke 13:22-30

Gospel of the Day

From the Gospel according to Saint Luke 13:22-30
Jesus passed through towns and villages, teaching as he went and making his way to Jerusalem.
Someone asked him, “Lord, will only a few people be saved?”
He answered them,
“Strive to enter through the narrow gate, for many, I tell you, will attempt to enter but will not be strong enough.
After the master of the house has arisen and locked the door, then will you stand outside knocking and saying, ‘Lord, open the door for us.’
He will say to you in reply, ‘I do not know where you are from.’
And you will say, ‘We ate and drank in your company and you taught in our streets.’
Then he will say to you, ‘I do not know where you are from. Depart from me, all you evildoers!’
And there will be wailing and grinding of teeth when you see Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, and all the prophets in the kingdom of God, and you yourselves cast out.
And people will come from the east and the west and from the north and the south and will recline at table in the Kingdom of God.
For behold, some are last who will be first, and some are first who will be last.”
The Narrow Gate Sets Us Free
Are only a few saved? Lord, I too could ask You that question, almost as if to say, “Do I really have to make such an effort?”
And You respond, “Strive to enter through the narrow gate… for many will attempt to enter but will not be strong enough.”
At that moment, I realise this is serious — I cannot play games with my eternal life.
I cannot keep settling for “just enough”, doing everything on my own terms and thinking that will suffice.
Lord, You love me madly. You proved it by giving Your life for me.
You tell me to trust You, to listen to You, and to do what You say.
That true happiness lies in remaining in Your Love — and that happens by listening to You and keeping Your commandments; by denying myself, taking up my cross daily, and following You; by loving as You love.
That is what it means to pass through the narrow gate — to be freed from self-love, from everything that enslaves me, and to be filled with Your Love.
Lord, how marvellous is Your narrow gate, which frees me from what enslaves me and fills me with true Love — so that even here on earth, I can begin to share in the happiness of Heaven!

Applied to Married Life
Matthew: Mary, thank you — thank you so much.
Mary: Oh? Why are you thanking me all of a sudden?
Matthew: Because I’ve discovered God’s love through you, and I’m beginning to taste happiness.
Before, I used to get upset when you asked me to pray, to go to Mass… And when you asked me to change my plans — plans that were all about me, though I didn’t see it then — I’d get even angrier.
Now I can see that none of that made me happy. Quite the opposite: I was becoming blinder, more self-centred, more frustrated with you.
Thanks to you — and to the Lord — I’m no longer enslaved by that. I love praying together, planning things together… I feel free and at peace. That “famous narrow gate” is truly amazing!
Mary: [laughs] It’s the same for me! That narrow gate is wonderful! It may seem hard to enter at first, but soon it fills us with God’s peace and love — love for you! And that’s what I want! How great is the Lord!
Mother,

thank you so much for showing us the truth, for teaching us to love.
May we allow ourselves to be guided by you towards your Son.
Praised be the Lord!

Pray, Choose, Heal. Reflection for marriages Saint Luke 6:12–19

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Luke 6:12–19
In those days, Jesus went out to the mountain to pray, and He spent the whole night in prayer to God.
When day came, He called His disciples and chose twelve of them, whom He also named apostles: Simon, whom He named Peter, and Andrew his brother; James, John, Philip, Bartholomew, Matthew, Thomas, James son of Alphaeus, Simon called the Zealot, Judas son of James, and Judas Iscariot, who became the traitor.
He came down with them and stood on a level place. A large crowd of His disciples was there and a great multitude of people from all Judea, Jerusalem, and the coastal region around Tyre and Sidon, who had come to hear Him and to be healed of their diseases. Those troubled by impure spirits were cured, and the whole crowd sought to touch Him, because power came out from Him and healed them all.
Pray, Choose, Heal
First pray, then choose, and finally heal. This is also what we must do…
First, pray: only through prayer can spouses discover the will of the Lord in each moment of their lives and discern what God desires for their marriage.
Then, choose: on the one hand, we must recognise that the Lord has chosen us for this great vocation and that God will equip us for it. On the other hand, we must choose to love at all times. Let us not remain focused on our spouse’s faults and mistakes, but look beyond them, seeing who God wants them to become and helping them reach that.
Finally, heal: we must allow the Lord to heal us and, at the same time, become instruments of healing as we build up our marriage.
They say that “the family that prays together, stays together”; and so we must do the same — let us place God at the centre of our family and pray together.
Applied to Married Life
Paul: Rachel, I’ve been asked if we’d like to help with the next Proyecto Amor Conyugal retreat… Honestly, I’m not sure — we’re a bit of a mess. We’re far from perfect, and we’re not exactly overflowing with free time either.
Rachel: I understand what you mean, Paul… What if we bring it to prayer? Let’s keep this intention throughout the day and offer it at Holy Mass. I’m sure that when we pray with the Word of God tonight, things will become clearer.
(At the end of the day…)
Paul: Lord, thank You for this wife who constantly leads me to You! How beautiful to see that before making any decision, Jesus always spoke with the Father so that He could show Him the way.
Rachel: You see how simple it is — it’s not about being the “best” in human terms, but about being willing for the Lord to equip us. With much prayer, it won’t be us acting, but the Holy Spirit within us, making us a reflection of His love.
Paul: Sometimes I struggle to see that God is calling us to something greater and I stay stuck in what we are now. Let’s give thanks to the Lord and ask Him to help us persevere in prayer.

Mother,

How much we need you as an example to remain always in harmony with what God desires!
Praised be the Lord!