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A Unique Testimony. Reflection for marriages. John 13:1-15

From the Gospel according to John, Jn 13:1-15

Before the feast of Passover, Jesus knew that his hour had come to pass from this world to the Father. He loved his own in the world and he loved them to the end. The devil had already induced Judas, son of Simon the Iscariot, to hand him over. So, during supper, fully aware that the Father had put everything into his power and that he had come from God and was returning to God, he rose from supper and took off his outer garments. He took a towel and tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and dry them with the towel around his waist. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Master, are you going to wash my feet? Jesus answered and said to him, “What I am doing, you do not understand now, but you will understand later.” Peter said to him, “You will never wash my feet.” Jesus answered him, “Unless I wash you, you will have no inheritance with me.” Simon Peter said to him, “Master, then not only my feet, but my hands and head as well.” Jesus said to him, “Whoever has bathed has no need except to have his feet washed, for he is clean all over; so you are clean, but not all.” For he knew who would betray him; for this reason, he said, “Not all of you are clean.”

So when he had washed their feet and put his garments back on and reclined at table again, he said to them, “Do you realize what I have done for you? You call me ‘teacher’ and ‘master,’ and rightly so, for indeed I am. If I, therefore, the master and teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash one another’s feet. I have given you a model to follow, so that as I have done for you, you should also do.”

The Gospel of the Lord

A Unique Testimony

Christ invites us to mutual submission, to become slaves to one another just as He became a slave to us. It’s worth noting that among those whose feet Jesus washed was also Judas… He washed his feet too. This submission must be very important, since for John, the foot washing represents the Eucharist.

It is the only way to be a true Christian witness for other married couples. 

Applied to Married Life:

Tessa: Forgive me, this morning I spoke harshly to you, and yet you were kind to me the whole time. I saw how the greater I made myself, the smaller you made yourself.
Jacob: Tessa, I asked the Holy Spirit for help and He helped me. Above all, I wanted to love you. How could I not love you?
Tessa: I know, but I feel awful for how I acted with you.
Jacob: Let yourself be loved, my darling. That’s what our relationship is about—serving each other. Look at what Jesus says in today’s Gospel: If I do not wash you, you have no part with me. There’s no relationship without that. Sometimes you need me, and other times I need to admit that I need you—so that there is true relationship. And in every act of giving and receiving, Christ is made present through our Sacrament and makes our love grow, transforming it into Marital Charity. Isn’t that amazing?
Tessa: I can’t wait to be the one who welcomes and serves you next time.

 

Mother,

We want to follow the Lord on this path of service. Lord, you are our Master and yet you gird yourself and become our servant. Lord, I want to kneel before my husband and wash his feet. You have placed him in my hands, and me in his.

Worse Than Nothing. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 26:14-25

From the Gospel according to Matthew. Mt; 26:14-25

One of the Twelve, who was called Judas Iscariot, went to the chief priests and said, “What are you willing to give me if I hand him over to you?”
They paid him thirty pieces of silver, and from that time on he looked for an opportunity to hand him over.
On the first day of the Feast of Unleavened Bread, the disciples approached Jesus and said, “Where do you want us to prepare for you to eat the Passover?” He said, “Go into the city to a certain man and tell him, ‘The teacher says, “My appointed time draws near; in your house I shall celebrate the Passover with my disciples.””‘ The disciples then did as Jesus had ordered, and prepared the Passover.
When it was evening, he reclined at table with the Twelve. And while they were eating, he said, “Amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.”
Deeply distressed at this, they began to say to him one after another, “Surely it is not I, Lord?” He said in reply, “He who has dipped his hand into the dish with me is the one who will betray me. The Son of Man indeed goes, as it is written of him, but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed. It would be better for that man if he had never been born.” Then Judas, his betrayer, said in reply, “Surely it is not I, Rabbi?” He answered, “You have said so.”
The Gospel of the Lord

Worse Than Nothing

If my Creator were to regret having created me, that would be an issue—terrible issue, in fact. What dignity would remain to me then? I would be better off having never existed. My goodness—what a sentence.
Judas betrayed the covenant with Jesus. He also betrayed His love and His trust.
When we married, there was a covenant; there was a love that united us, and a trust between us, for we entrusted our lives to one another, each and every day. There was also a covenant with Christ—His love united us, and He placed His trust in us. The question I ask myself is: how many times have I betrayed that covenant? I had better remain faithful to my love from now on, so I never have to hear those dreadful words from the lips of my Lord: “It would have been better for you not to have been born.”

 
Applied to Married Life:

Albert: What gives me dignity is being made in the image of God—being a child of God. If I betray Him by breaking the covenant through which He united me to you, what remains of my dignity?
Lucy: I understand that if our covenant is a sign of Trinitarian Love and shares in Christ’s Love, then by betraying it, we are betraying our very essence.
Albert: It’s true that marriage is something profoundly great and sacred—and for that very reason, to trample upon it is gravely serious.
Lucy: Then the only option left to us is being like Peter: deeply repentant, asking for forgiveness.

 
Mother,

May we respond faithfully to the covenant we have entered into. Through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Where Will You Go? Reflection for marriages. John 13:21-33,36-38

From the Gospel according to John 13:21-33, 36-38

Reclining at table with his disciples, Jesus was deeply troubled and testified, “Amen, amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.” The disciples looked at one another, at a loss as to whom he meant. One of his disciples, the one whom Jesus loved,
was reclining at Jesus’ side. So Simon Peter nodded to him to find out whom he meant. He leaned back against Jesus’ chest and said to him, “Master, who is it?” Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I hand the morsel after I have dipped it.” So he dipped the morsel and took it and handed it to Judas, son of Simon the Iscariot. After Judas took the morsel, Satan entered him. So Jesus said to him, “What you are going to do, do quickly.” Now none of those reclining at table realized why he said this to him. Some thought that since Judas kept the money bag, Jesus had told him, “Buy what we need for the feast,” or to give something to the poor. So Judas took the morsel and left at once. And it was night.
When he had left, Jesus said, “Now is the Son of Man glorified, and God is glorified in him. If God is glorified in him, God will also glorify him in himself, and he will glorify him at once. My children, I will be with you only a little while longer. You will look for me, and as I told the Jews, ‘Where I go you cannot come,’ so now I say it to you.”
Simon Peter said to him, “Master, where are you going?” Jesus answered him, “Where I am going, you cannot follow me now,
though you will follow later.” Peter said to him, “Master, why can I not follow you now? I will lay down my life for you.” Jesus answered, “Will you lay down your life for me? Amen, amen, I say to you, the cock will not crow before you deny me three times.”

The Gospel of the Lord

Where Will You Go?

Peter believes he can follow Jesus and lay down his life for Him, relying on his own strength. But Jesus shows him that this is not the way. There is a somewhat ironic tone in Jesus’ reply to Peter: “Will you lay down your life for Me?” As if to say, “Where will you go without Me?” He allows Peter to undergo the humbling experience of acting on his own strength—an experience that leads him to deny Jesus not once, not twice, but three times—so that he might understand clearly that without Him, he can do nothing.

Applied to Married Life:

Patricia: We are a fragile couple. We face temptations and falls. This Sacrament of Marriage is truly a work of God. We must learn to see it with the humility of those who know they are incapable of reaching the heights of Love on their own. Only God is capable, without His help—where shall we go? The one who becomes small, who understands that everything is a gift from God, is the one who comes to live the Sacrament as God intended. So often we try to take the lead in God’s work and demand of the other what only God can give. Forgive me for expecting from you what God has not yet granted you, and for thinking of myself as better than you.
Ray: Forgive me, too! I promised to give my life for you, and lately I’ve been giving it to my work instead. I will strive to do better—but above all, I ask the Lord to do it in me, for you.
Patricia: I, too, have been trying hard to please others and not you. I will strive to do better. How great is the Lord, who promises to make living out our marriage possible—because He is with us.
Ray: Yes. All our efforts must lead us to become smaller, so that He may become greater in us and in our marriage. That is the secret of a love that is being transformed into His Love.

Mother,

You are full of grace. Hear my cry: “I have only You, Mother, only have You, Lord.” Praised be Your name, for I know You never abandon me.

The Most Despised Members. Reflection for marriages John 12:1-11

Gospel

From the Gospel according to John. Jn 12:1-11

Six days before Passover Jesus came to Bethany, where Lazarus was, whom Jesus had raised from the dead.
They gave a dinner for him there, and Martha served, while Lazarus was one of those reclining at table with him.
Mary took a liter of costly perfumed oil made from genuine aromatic nard and anointed the feet of Jesus and dried them with her hair; the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil.
Then Judas the Iscariot, one of his disciples, and the one who would betray him, said, “Why was this oil not sold for three hundred days’ wages and given to the poor?”
He said this not because he cared about the poor but because he was a thief and held the money bag and used to steal the contributions.
So Jesus said, “Leave her alone. Let her keep this for the day of my burial. You always have the poor with you, but you do not always have me.”
The large crowd of the Jews found out that he was there and came, not only because of him, but also to see Lazarus, whom he had raised from the dead. And the chief priests plotted to kill Lazarus too, because many of the Jews were turning away and believing in Jesus because of him.

The Gospel of the Lord.

 
The Most Despised Members

Mary anointed the feet of Jesus with perfume. It is indeed curious that she poured the costly perfume on His feet rather than on His head or chest… Who would think to anoint someone’s feet?
Saint Paul says in 1 Corinthians 12:23, “The parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor.” He speaks of the members of the Mystical Body of Christ, which is the Church, stating that “God has arranged the parts of the body, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it,” so that, ultimately, all might receive equal dignity in how they are treated.
What if we applied this divine principle to our spouse when he has fallen into the indignity of sin? Would he not then deserve an even greater effort on our part to treat him with greater honor?

Applied to Married Life:

Jack: I really appreciate how you’ve been treating me with greater respect and dignity lately, especially now that I’ve fallen into sin.
Tess: Oh? You noticed?
Jack: Yes, absolutely. And it’s been incredibly helpful.
Tess: I was simply trying to follow the guidelines given by Saint Paul. But why has it helped you?
Jack: Because when you treat me with more respect, I tend to respond in a more respectful way myself. That, in turn, helps me rise out of the state of indignity in which I found myself. So, thank you.
Tess: You’re welcome. Thanks be to God.

Mother,

Jesus restores our dignity by treating us with dignity, just as the father did with the prodigal son. In this, especially, we desire to follow Jesus. Praise be to Him.

This is what it’s about. Reflection for married couples. Lk 22:14—23:56

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Luke

Lk 22:14—23:56

When the hour came,

Jesus took his place at table with the apostles.

He said to them,

“I have eagerly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer,

for, I tell you, I shall not eat it again

until there is fulfillment in the kingdom of God.”

Then he took a cup, gave thanks, and said,

“Take this and share it among yourselves;

for I tell you that from this time on

I shall not drink of the fruit of the vine

until the kingdom of God comes.”

Then he took the bread, said the blessing,

broke it, and gave it to them, saying,

“This is my body, which will be given for you;

do this in memory of me.”

And likewise the cup after they had eaten, saying,

“This cup is the new covenant in my blood,

which will be shed for you.

 

“And yet behold, the hand of the one who is to betray me

is with me on the table;

for the Son of Man indeed goes as it has been determined;

but woe to that man by whom he is betrayed.”

And they began to debate among themselves

who among them would do such a deed.

 

Then an argument broke out among them

about which of them should be regarded as the greatest.

He said to them,

“The kings of the Gentiles lord it over them

and those in authority over them are addressed as ‘Benefactors’;

but among you it shall not be so.

Rather, let the greatest among you be as the youngest,

and the leader as the servant.

For who is greater:

the one seated at table or the one who serves?

Is it not the one seated at table?

I am among you as the one who serves.

It is you who have stood by me in my trials;

and I confer a kingdom on you,

just as my Father has conferred one on me,

that you may eat and drink at my table in my kingdom;

and you will sit on thrones

judging the twelve tribes of Israel.

 

“Simon, Simon, behold Satan has demanded

to sift all of you like wheat,

but I have prayed that your own faith may not fail;

and once you have turned back,

you must strengthen your brothers.”

He said to him,

“Lord, I am prepared to go to prison and to die with you.”

But he replied,

“I tell you, Peter, before the cock crows this day,

you will deny three times that you know me.”

 

He said to them,

“When I sent you forth without a money bag or a sack or sandals,

were you in need of anything?”

“No, nothing, ” they replied.

He said to them,

“But now one who has a money bag should take it,

and likewise a sack,

and one who does not have a sword

should sell his cloak and buy one.

For I tell you that this Scripture must be fulfilled in me,

namely, He was counted among the wicked;

and indeed what is written about me is coming to fulfillment.”

Then they said,

“Lord, look, there are two swords here.”

But he replied, “It is enough!”

 

Then going out, he went, as was his custom, to the Mount of Olives,

and the disciples followed him.

When he arrived at the place he said to them,

“Pray that you may not undergo the test.”

After withdrawing about a stone’s throw from them and kneeling,

he prayed, saying, “Father, if you are willing,

take this cup away from me;

still, not my will but yours be done.”

And to strengthen him an angel from heaven appeared to him.

He was in such agony and he prayed so fervently

that his sweat became like drops of blood

falling on the ground.

When he rose from prayer and returned to his disciples,

he found them sleeping from grief.

He said to them, “Why are you sleeping?

Get up and pray that you may not undergo the test.”

 

While he was still speaking, a crowd approached

and in front was one of the Twelve, a man named Judas.

He went up to Jesus to kiss him.

Jesus said to him,

“Judas, are you betraying the Son of Man with a kiss?”

His disciples realized what was about to happen, and they asked,

“Lord, shall we strike with a sword?”

And one of them struck the high priest’s servant

and cut off his right ear.

But Jesus said in reply,

“Stop, no more of this!”

Then he touched the servant’s ear and healed him.

And Jesus said to the chief priests and temple guards

and elders who had come for him,

“Have you come out as against a robber, with swords and clubs?

Day after day I was with you in the temple area,

and you did not seize me;

but this is your hour, the time for the power of darkness.”

 

After arresting him they led him away

and took him into the house of the high priest;

Peter was following at a distance.

They lit a fire in the middle of the courtyard and sat around it,

and Peter sat down with them.

When a maid saw him seated in the light,

she looked intently at him and said,

“This man too was with him.”

But he denied it saying,

“Woman, I do not know him.”

A short while later someone else saw him and said,

“You too are one of them”;

but Peter answered, “My friend, I am not.”

About an hour later, still another insisted,

“Assuredly, this man too was with him,

for he also is a Galilean.”

But Peter said,

“My friend, I do not know what you are talking about.”

Just as he was saying this, the cock crowed,

and the Lord turned and looked at Peter;

and Peter remembered the word of the Lord,

how he had said to him,

“Before the cock crows today, you will deny me three times.”

He went out and began to weep bitterly.

The men who held Jesus in custody were ridiculing and beating him.

They blindfolded him and questioned him, saying,

“Prophesy! Who is it that struck you?”

And they reviled him in saying many other things against him.

 

When day came the council of elders of the people met,

both chief priests and scribes,

and they brought him before their Sanhedrin.

They said, “If you are the Christ, tell us, ”

but he replied to them, “If I tell you, you will not believe,

and if I question, you will not respond.

But from this time on the Son of Man will be seated

at the right hand of the power of God.”

They all asked, “Are you then the Son of God?”

He replied to them, “You say that I am.”

Then they said, “What further need have we for testimony?

We have heard it from his own mouth.”

 

Then the whole assembly of them arose and brought him before Pilate.

They brought charges against him, saying,

“We found this man misleading our people;

he opposes the payment of taxes to Caesar

and maintains that he is the Christ, a king.”

Pilate asked him, “Are you the king of the Jews?”

He said to him in reply, “You say so.”

Pilate then addressed the chief priests and the crowds,

“I find this man not guilty.”

But they were adamant and said,

“He is inciting the people with his teaching throughout all Judea,

from Galilee where he began even to here.”

 

On hearing this Pilate asked if the man was a Galilean;

and upon learning that he was under Herod’s jurisdiction,

he sent him to Herod who was in Jerusalem at that time.

Herod was very glad to see Jesus;

he had been wanting to see him for a long time,

for he had heard about him

and had been hoping to see him perform some sign.

He questioned him at length,

but he gave him no answer.

The chief priests and scribes, meanwhile,

stood by accusing him harshly.

Herod and his soldiers treated him contemptuously and mocked him,

and after clothing him in resplendent garb,

he sent him back to Pilate.

Herod and Pilate became friends that very day,

even though they had been enemies formerly.

Pilate then summoned the chief priests, the rulers, and the people

and said to them, “You brought this man to me

and accused him of inciting the people to revolt.

I have conducted my investigation in your presence

and have not found this man guilty

of the charges you have brought against him,

nor did Herod, for he sent him back to us.

So no capital crime has been committed by him.

Therefore I shall have him flogged and then release him.”

 

But all together they shouted out,

“Away with this man!

Release Barabbas to us.”

— Now Barabbas had been imprisoned for a rebellion

that had taken place in the city and for murder. —

Again Pilate addressed them, still wishing to release Jesus,

but they continued their shouting,

“Crucify him! Crucify him!”

Pilate addressed them a third time,

“What evil has this man done?

I found him guilty of no capital crime.

Therefore I shall have him flogged and then release him.”

With loud shouts, however,

they persisted in calling for his crucifixion,

and their voices prevailed.

The verdict of Pilate was that their demand should be granted.

So he released the man who had been imprisoned

for rebellion and murder, for whom they asked,

and he handed Jesus over to them to deal with as they wished.

 

As they led him away

they took hold of a certain Simon, a Cyrenian,

who was coming in from the country;

and after laying the cross on him,

they made him carry it behind Jesus.

A large crowd of people followed Jesus,

including many women who mourned and lamented him.

Jesus turned to them and said,

“Daughters of Jerusalem, do not weep for me;

weep instead for yourselves and for your children

for indeed, the days are coming when people will say,

‘Blessed are the barren,

the wombs that never bore

and the breasts that never nursed.’

At that time people will say to the mountains,

‘Fall upon us!’

and to the hills, ‘Cover us!’

for if these things are done when the wood is green

what will happen when it is dry?”

Now two others, both criminals,

were led away with him to be executed.

 

When they came to the place called the Skull,

they crucified him and the criminals there,

one on his right, the other on his left.

Then Jesus said,

“Father, forgive them, they know not what they do.”

They divided his garments by casting lots.

The people stood by and watched;

the rulers, meanwhile, sneered at him and said,

“He saved others, let him save himself

if he is the chosen one, the Christ of God.”

Even the soldiers jeered at him.

As they approached to offer him wine they called out,

“If you are King of the Jews, save yourself.”

Above him there was an inscription that read,

“This is the King of the Jews.”

 

Now one of the criminals hanging there reviled Jesus, saying,

“Are you not the Christ?

Save yourself and us.”

The other, however, rebuking him, said in reply,

“Have you no fear of God,

for you are subject to the same condemnation?

And indeed, we have been condemned justly,

for the sentence we received corresponds to our crimes,

but this man has done nothing criminal.”

Then he said,

“Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.”

He replied to him,

“Amen, I say to you,

today you will be with me in Paradise.”

 

It was now about noon and darkness came over the whole land

until three in the afternoon

because of an eclipse of the sun.

Then the veil of the temple was torn down the middle.

Jesus cried out in a loud voice,

“Father, into your hands I commend my spirit”;

and when he had said this he breathed his last.

 

Here all kneel and pause for a short time.

 

The centurion who witnessed what had happened glorified God and said,

“This man was innocent beyond doubt.”

When all the people who had gathered for this spectacle saw what had happened,

they returned home beating their breasts;

but all his acquaintances stood at a distance,

including the women who had followed him from Galilee

and saw these events.

 

Now there was a virtuous and righteous man named Joseph who,

though he was a member of the council,

had not consented to their plan of action.

He came from the Jewish town of Arimathea

and was awaiting the kingdom of God.

He went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus.

After he had taken the body down,

he wrapped it in a linen cloth

and laid him in a rock-hewn tomb

in which no one had yet been buried.

It was the day of preparation,

and the sabbath was about to begin.

The women who had come from Galilee with him followed behind,

and when they had seen the tomb

and the way in which his body was laid in it,

they returned and prepared spices and perfumed oils.

Then they rested on the sabbath according to the commandment.

The word of the Lord

 

This is what it’s about

Moved after contemplating the Passion of the Lord, we ask ourselves: Do we love like this? Because this is what it means to be spouses. It’s about loving each other this way. So, let us finally decide to give ourselves as He did. Self-giving is hard, but the fruits for marriage are wonderful.

 

Applied to married life:

Francisco: I know why our marriage is not as good as it should be.

Teresa: Why?

Francisco: Because we haven’t fully given ourselves to one another. It’s true that taking that definitive step is difficult, but if we did…

Teresa: It would hurt a lot because of all the weaknesses and attachments we have. But it would be our salvation.

Francisco: Then let’s do it! But it’s not about silently suffering; it’s about giving ourselves out of love.

 

Mother,

You also desired that moment when God asked everything of you. A sword would pierce your immaculate heart. But you did not hesitate. Give me that desire to truly love, so that my marriage may work and bear much fruit. Through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.