Quantity, or quality? Reflection for married couples. Mark 12:38-44

Gospel

‘This poor widow has put in more than everyone.’
Mark 12:38-44

At that time: In his teaching Jesus said to the crowd, ‘Beware of the scribes, who like to walk around in long robes and like greetings in the market-places, and have the best seats in the synagogues, and the places of honour at feasts, who devour widows’ houses, and, for a pretence, make long prayers. They will receive the greater condemnation.’
  And he sat down opposite the treasury and watched the people putting money into the offering box. Many rich people put in large sums. And a poor widow came and put in two small copper coins, which make a penny. And he called his disciples to him and said to them, ‘Truly, I say to you, this poor widow has put in more than all those who are contributing to the offering box. For they all contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in everything she had, all she had to live on.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Quantity, or quality?

In this Gospel, Jesus contrasts two attitudes of the heart: the appearance of the scribes, who seek recognition, prestige and the approval of others, and the quiet self-giving of the poor widow, who offers all that she has. In this way, He invites us to examine how we live out our love and self-giving. Because we too can fall into the temptation of doing things in the hope that our spouse, our family or others will recognise our efforts, when what truly matters is not what appears important in human eyes, but the love we put into it, the intention of the heart.
In married life, this means giving ourselves to our spouse not only when it is easy or convenient, but especially in the small things of everyday life. The Lord does not ask us for great acts of heroism or extraordinary demonstrations of love, but for a total gift of the heart. True communion is built through the willingness to give oneself completely to the other each day. Sometimes what we offer may seem little: time, patient listening, forgiveness, service, giving up our own way, seeking the good of the other… But when it comes from a heart that gives itself without reserve, it has infinite value before God. Love in a matrimony grows when each spouse chooses to give themselves entirely, trusting that God sustains and multiplies that self-giving. Only through a total gift of ourselves to our spouse will we be truly happy.

Applied to Married Life:

Jessica: Praying with this Gospel has touched me deeply. I can see that Jesus does not look at the amount the widow gives, but at the love and trust with which she offers her few coins.
Martin: Well, it makes me think about our marriage. I wonder whether I really only give what is comfortable for me. Because sometimes I focus on doing big things, but forget to give you my time, my attention and my heart.
Jessica: It’s true, Martin. Sometimes we forget that marriage consists in a total gift of self. And when I look at my daily life, I realise that at times I offer time, affection or service only when I have energy left over.
Martin: The widow gives everything she had to live on. She gives everything, Jessica! I feel that the Lord is asking me to give you my heart, to trust more and not keep parts of myself in reserve.
Jessica: And He invites me to offer myself joyfully, without keeping score, and to make every small sacrifice for you an offering of love and an opportunity to grow in communion.
Martin: May our love be a sincere offering to God in every ordinary detail of life.
Jessica: Amen.

Mother,

teach us to give ourselves completely, in silence, without keeping score, as You did here on earth, and as You continue to do. Blessed and glorious are You, Mother! Praised be the Lord for ever!

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