Christ, the Model for Spouses. Reflection for married couples. Mark 2:18-22

Gospel

‘The bridegroom is with them.’
Mark 2:18-22

At that time: John’s disciples and the Pharisees were fasting. And people came and said to Jesus, ‘Why do John’s disciples and the disciples of the Pharisees fast, but your disciples do not fast?’ And Jesus said to them, ‘Can the wedding guests fast while the bridegroom is with them? As long as they have the bridegroom with them, they cannot fast. The days will come when the bridegroom is taken away from them, and then they will fast in that day. No one sews a piece of unshrunken cloth on an old garment. If he does, the patch tears away from it, the new from the old, and a worse tear is made. And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. If he does, the wine will burst the skins — and the wine is destroyed, and so are the skins. But new wine is for fresh wineskins.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Christ, the Model for Spouses

In today’s Gospel, Jesus presents Himself as the Bridegroom. This image is not merely symbolic: it reveals the way God relates to us and, very concretely, it sheds light on our conjugal vocation. Where the Bridegroom is present, there is joy, communion, and shared life.
When Jesus is asked why His disciples do not fast, He replies from the logic of love: when spouses are together, love is not lived through absence or deprivation, but through presence and celebration. Fasting makes sense when there is distance; love flourishes when there is encounter. In married life, this reminds us that the relationship cannot be sustained solely by sacrifice or rules, but by a change of perspective—learning to look at one another as God looks at us, and to rediscover the beauty of our marriage.
Jesus also warns that the days will come when the Bridegroom is taken away. This speaks of moments of crisis, silence, wounds, or routine that may appear in marriage. In those times, love is purified and expressed as fidelity, waiting, and self-gift, rather than immediate emotion. Fasting then becomes learning to love even when the closeness of the other is not “felt”.
This Gospel invites spouses to ask themselves: Do we celebrate one another’s presence as a gift? Do we know how to pass through times of absence without ceasing to love? Are we willing to renew ourselves so that love may remain new wine?
Christ, the faithful Bridegroom, walks with married couples so that their love does not wear out, but is transformed each day into a deeper and more fruitful covenant.

Applied to Married Life

Alice: Did you notice something in today’s Gospel? Jesus says that while the bridegroom is present, there is no fasting.
Luke: So it’s officially confirmed: when I’m at home, there’s no diet.
Alice: Don’t get too excited… Jesus was talking about something much deeper.
Luke: I know, I know… but let me enjoy the literal interpretation for five seconds.
Alice: It made me realise that marriage can’t be just sacrifice and effort. It’s also meant to be enjoyed.
Luke: Thank goodness. Because if this were only about penance, we’d have grown wings by now from all the suffering.
Alice: But then He says that the day will come when the bridegroom is taken away.
Luke: Does that count when you’re cross with me and don’t speak to me all afternoon?
Alice: Exactly. That’s when you fast… from conversation.
Luke: And I do penance in silence, waiting for reconciliation.
Alice: The bit about patching new cloth onto an old garment really struck me. You can’t fix everything with “we’ve always done it this way”.
Luke: Of course. Trying to solve today’s problems with arguments from twenty years ago is like putting new wine into a plastic bottle.
Alice: Or pretending we can function with the same energy we had before children and bills.
Luke: Exactly—and remembering to keep a sense of humour.
Alice: Amen to that. Because without humour, even new wine won’t last.
Luke: And without love, not even the best wineskin will do.

Mother,

teach us to look at one another as you do: without judgement, with patience and tenderness—slow to judge and quick to forgive. Praised be you for ever.

The call. Reflection for married couples. Mark 2:13-17

Gospel of the day

From the Gospel according to Mark 2:13-17

Jesus went out along the sea.
All the crowd came to him and he taught them.
As he passed by, he saw Levi, son of Alphaeus,
sitting at the customs post.
Jesus said to him, “Follow me.”
And he got up and followed Jesus.
While he was at table in his house,
many tax collectors and sinners sat with Jesus and his disciples;
for there were many who followed him.
Some scribes who were Pharisees saw that Jesus was eating with sinners
and tax collectors and said to his disciples,
“Why does he eat with tax collectors and sinners?”
Jesus heard this and said to them,
“Those who are well do not need a physician, but the sick do.
I did not come to call the righteous but sinners.”

The call.

Today we see Jesus’ call to Matthew, just as a few days ago the Gospel showed us the call of Peter and Andrew, and of James and John, while they were busy with their daily tasks: some casting their nets into the sea, others mending their nets, Matthew seated at the customs post. The Lord chooses all of them. He takes the initiative, prepares the way, goes out to meet them and invites them to follow Him, not frightened by the state in which they are, because He has come to heal the sick and to save us.

The Lord has chosen each one of us, and He comes out to meet us in the reality of our everyday lives. He does not look at how we are now, but at what we are called to become. It is up to us to be attentive and open to the call He makes to us, and to respond either by leaving our attachments behind and following Him immediately, like the disciples, or by placing conditions, like those who said to Him: “let me first go and bury my father”, or “let me first say farewell to my family”. They clung to their attachments and were unable to follow Jesus.

Spouses, are we attentive enough to recognise God’s call, and willing to follow Him, to let go of our attachments? For in order to truly follow the Lord in our marital vocation, we must be genuinely ready to leave everything behind so as to give ourselves completely to God, by giving ourselves body and soul to the person He has placed at our side, and to the fulfilment of our mission: to represent the Love of the Triune God in this world and to collaborate in the salvation of our spouse. Is there anything more beautiful? Is there any better plan? Then let us be attentive to His call — and to the mission!

Brought into Married Life

Frank: Hi, Peter has called me and told me they already have a date for the next retreat and that they are looking for a team. He asked whether we could go. What do you think?
Laura: Us again?… Frank, we were already at the last one just four months ago. Remember it was a bit of a challenge… organising the children for the whole weekend, my parents… and besides, now that you and I are doing so well, maybe it would be better to plan something as a family.
Frank: Yes, that would be lovely, Laura, and we can do that another weekend. But they’ve called us for this retreat… after everything that we’ve received, I think now it’s our turn to help, rather than to get comfortable.
Laura: Yes, it’s true that we should help, but… us again?
Frank: And remember how much good it did us. We realised things we hadn’t seen during our own retreat… and the joy of seeing other couples discovering the beauty of their sacrament…
Laura: Oh Frank… it’s just that I feel a bit reluctant to go out… we’re so comfortable right now.
Frank: You know the saying… if you snooze, you lose.
Laura: Ha, ha, ha… you’re right. If we get comfortable, we go backwards.
Frank: That’s what they told us: whoever is not building, is destroying.
Laura: I thank God for you, for pulling me along and drawing me out of my comfort zone. I love you.

Mother,

teach us always to be attentive to God’s call, as You were, and willing to follow Him and to fulfil His will. Blessed and glorious are You, Mother! Praised be the Lord for ever!

Through faith. Reflection for married couples. Mark 2:1-12

Gospel of the day

From the Gospel according to Mark 2:1-12

When Jesus returned to Capernaum after some days,
it became known that he was at home.
Many gathered together so that there was no longer room for them,
not even around the door,
and he preached the word to them.
They came bringing to him a paralytic carried by four men.
Unable to get near Jesus because of the crowd,
they opened up the roof above him.
After they had broken through,
they let down the mat on which the paralytic was lying.
When Jesus saw their faith, he said to him,
“Child, your sins are forgiven.”
Now some of the scribes were sitting there asking themselves,
“Why does this man speak that way? He is blaspheming.
Who but God alone can forgive sins?”
Jesus immediately knew in his mind what
they were thinking to themselves,
so he said, “Why are you thinking such things in your hearts?
Which is easier, to say to the paralytic,
‘Your sins are forgiven,’
or to say, ‘Rise, pick up your mat and walk’?
But that you may know
that the Son of Man has authority to forgive sins on earth”
–he said to the paralytic,
“I say to you, rise, pick up your mat, and go home.”
He rose, picked up his mat at once,
and went away in the sight of everyone.
They were all astounded
and glorified God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this.”

Through Faith

The Lord heals the paralysed man of both his physical and spiritual infirmity through the faith of the four people who carried him. Would we be capable of doing the same for a marriage that is paralysed? Faith is very important here. The Lord Himself tells us in another passage of the Gospel that if we had faith the size of a mustard seed, we could move mountains. All we need to do is trust in Him and offer our small part, so that He may accomplish His great work — in us, and in the many marriages and families around us who are in difficulty.
Lord, increase our faith!

Brought into Married Life

Peter: Oh Lucy, the people responsible for the Charity office of our Diocese have contacted me to ask whether we would accompany a marriage that needs mentors.
Lucy: And what did you say?
Peter: That I needed to speak with you first and that we would respond after praying about it. They insisted a little, saying that we have received so much, that we have been preparing for some time now at the Nazareth School with solid formation; and that they trust that, with God’s help, we will be able to do it.
Lucy: Well, let’s place it in prayer. To be honest, it feels a bit overwhelming.
(After praying together as a couple)
Lucy: The Lord has shown me everything He has done in our marriage through the Marital Love Project. It is a joy to contemplate how we have grown over these years since we attended the retreat and, above all, since we began our formation through the catecheses of Saint John Paul II. I see the answer clearly.
Peter: He has shown me too how much good we can do by sharing this treasure. So… shall we take the step?
Lucy: Let’s go forward! Let us trust in the Lord, who with our little help will accomplish great works.

Mother,

You are our model and our guide in faith. Do not turn Your gaze away from us, and lead us by the hand into His presence. Blessed and praised be the Lord!

Be made clean. Reflection for married couples. Mark 1:40-45

Gospel of the day

From the Gospel according to Mark 1:40-45A leper came to him and kneeling down begged him and said,
“If you wish, you can make me clean.”
Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand,
touched the leper, and said to him,
“I do will it. Be made clean.”
The leprosy left him immediately, and he was made clean.
Then, warning him sternly, he dismissed him at once.
Then he said to him, “See that you tell no one anything,
but go, show yourself to the priest
and offer for your cleansing what Moses prescribed;
that will be proof for them.”
The man went away and began to publicize the whole matter.
He spread the report abroad
so that it was impossible for Jesus to enter a town openly.
He remained outside in deserted places,
and people kept coming to him from everywhere.

Be made cleanAmong the Jewish people, lepers were completely abandoned: no one wanted them, and they were excluded from everything. Yet Jesus welcomes them, is moved with compassion, and makes them clean. Let us ask the Lord with the same faith as the leper: that if He wills it, He may cleanse us. You and I alike—whatever our situation may be—God is always waiting for us, ready to welcome us and, in His eternal mercy, to have compassion on us.

There is no need to reach our breaking point before turning to Him. Let us not wait for difficulty in order to remember His mercy. He loves us so much, and we should approach Him with trust, asking Him for what we need—He knows it better than we do. The Lord wishes to cleanse my marriage, and through the grace of the sacrament He makes known to me what my spouse needs. And whenever my spouse asks, I must be ready to give, for we are called to give ourselves completely, renouncing our own criteria and welcoming our spouse in his or her need.

Let us not miss the opportunity to give ourselves to our spouse in everything he or she asks of us, thus making God’s love present between us.

Applied to Married Life:James: Hello! I’m home.
Rachel: Hi James—how lovely. We were expecting you a bit later.
James: Yes, that’s why I came home earlier. Lately I’ve been staying out longer than necessary, and I know you need me to be home sooner so we can spend more time together, with the children too.
Rachel: I really appreciate it. The truth is, I need you at home mainly to spend more time with you, and I thank God for your effort.
James: Well, you rest now—I’ll prepare supper so that afterwards we can pray together more calmly.
Rachel: Don’t worry. The children and I started preparing it earlier for when you were due to arrive. There’s just a little left, as we weren’t expecting you so soon.
James: How wonderful you are, Rachel. You never miss a thing and you’re always attentive to what I need, even when I don’t always reciprocate.
Rachel: Don’t forget that I do it because I love you, and that I don’t need anything in return. Besides, you’ve also made an effort to come home earlier, thinking of me.
James: You’re right. It’s amazing to see how each of us gives something up with the other’s needs in mind. We are very fortunate.
Rachel: Indeed we are. We’ll continue giving thanks later during our spousal prayer. I’ll finish supper now and let you know.
James: Thank you!

Mother,

Teach us to have enough faith to ask your Son with confidence to cleanse our hearts, and the humility always to fulfil His will. Blessed be God.

In health and in sickness. Reflection for married couples. Mark 1:29-39

Gospel of the day

From the Gospel according to Mark 1:29-39

On leaving the synagogue
Jesus entered the house of Simon and Andrew with James and John.
Simon’s mother-in-law lay sick with a fever.
They immediately told him about her.
He approached, grasped her hand, and helped her up.
Then the fever left her and she waited on them.

When it was evening, after sunset,
they brought to him all who were ill or possessed by demons.
The whole town was gathered at the door.
He cured many who were sick with various diseases,
and he drove out many demons,
not permitting them to speak because they knew him.

Rising very early before dawn,
he left and went off to a deserted place, where he prayed.
Simon and those who were with him pursued him
and on finding him said, “Everyone is looking for you.”
He told them, “Let us go on to the nearby villages
that I may preach there also.
For this purpose have I come.”
So he went into their synagogues, preaching and driving out demons
throughout the whole of Galilee.
In health and in sickness

The Christmas season has come to an end and this week Ordinary Time has begun. Through the Church’s pedagogy at the start of this liturgical season, the Gospels lead us back to the very origin of Christian life. On Monday, we hear a call: Jesus invites us to follow Him. On Tuesday, we discover that Jesus teaches with authority and sets us free from evil. Today, and in the days that follow, we see how He enters our daily lives and heals us.

Christian life begins by allowing ourselves to be loved and healed by Jesus, and it continues when we spend that love we have received by loving and serving others. “The fever left her, and she began to serve them.” Health is given to us so that we may give it away, so that we may use it in the service of Christ and of our neighbour—beginning, in our case, with our spouse, our children… When we have been touched by the Lord, we learn that life is lived by giving oneself, not by holding back.

If what truly mattered were simply having good health, we would all be doomed to misfortune, because sooner or later health fades. But if what truly matters is to love and serve God, then health becomes something to be spent, and illness something to be offered at the foot of the Cross, for the salvation of souls. In this way, in health and in sickness, we can always give ourselves, and we can always love.

Applied to Married Life:

Rachel: Have you noticed how Mary and Luke are doing? Every time we speak with them it seems they understand each other less. They do nothing but reproach one another, listing what each does or fails to do. They don’t value each other anymore… We really need to pray for them; they’re growing further and further apart.
Paul: Yes—so much pain. I think that besides much prayer and sacrifice on our part, it would do them good if we went to see them, if we were simply with them, and listened to them… like Jesus in Peter’s house, who drew close to the one who was suffering and took him by the hand.
Rachel: Yes, to be close… although I confess that sometimes I don’t know what to say to them.
Paul: Come on—perhaps this closeness will help them more than a thousand words. On the way we can pray a rosary and place everything in Our Lady’s hands. She knows what to do.

Mother,

Our hearts are wounded, and we give thanks because in every Communion, Jesus draws near to touch us and to heal us. How much we need His closeness! Thank you for bringing Jesus to us. Blessed and praised be your name forever!