Facing the mystery. Reflection for married couples. Mark 9:14-29

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Mark

Mark 9:14-29

As Jesus came down from the mountain with Peter, James, John

and approached the other disciples,

they saw a large crowd around them and scribes arguing with them.

Immediately on seeing him,

the whole crowd was utterly amazed.

They ran up to him and greeted him.

He asked them, “What are you arguing about with them?”

Someone from the crowd answered him,

“Teacher, I have brought to you my son possessed by a mute spirit.

Wherever it seizes him, it throws him down;

he foams at the mouth, grinds his teeth, and becomes rigid.

I asked your disciples to drive it out, but they were unable to do so.”

He said to them in reply,

“O faithless generation, how long will I be with you?

How long will I endure you? Bring him to me.”

They brought the boy to him.

And when he saw him,

the spirit immediately threw the boy into convulsions.

As he fell to the ground, he began to roll around

and foam at the mouth.

Then he questioned his father,

“How long has this been happening to him?”

He replied, “Since childhood.

It has often thrown him into fire and into water to kill him.

But if you can do anything, have compassion on us and help us.”

Jesus said to him,

“‘If you can!’ Everything is possible to one who has faith.”

Then the boy’s father cried out, “I do believe, help my unbelief!”

Jesus, on seeing a crowd rapidly gathering,

rebuked the unclean spirit and said to it,

“Mute and deaf spirit, I command you:

come out of him and never enter him again!”

Shouting and throwing the boy into convulsions, it came out.

He became like a corpse, which caused many to say, “He is dead!”

But Jesus took him by the hand, raised him, and he stood up.

When he entered the house, his disciples asked him in private,

“Why could we not drive the spirit out?”

He said to them, “This kind can only come out through prayer.”

The word of the Lord

 

Facing the mystery

There are moments in life when everyone face the mystery. Why is this? A question without an answer. But why do I need to understand the why of God’s plan? Perhaps because I don’t believe He loves me? Perhaps because I don’t believe in His power? Why is this? Answer: Does it really matter if I understand it or not? This situation is still in my Father’s control. This is the correct answer. He loves me, He is very great, and He is always under control. So… relax. Feel how your Mother embraces you and tells you in your ear: relax, relax… And so, I will live this situation with faith: I believe, Lord, but help my lack of faith.

 

Applied to married life:

Lucia: The Lord calls me to this path. I see it clearly.

Paco: (Praying to the Lord) Lord, I don’t understand this path. I don’t see it at all. Why do you make me go through this situation? I don’t understand what is this about; you haven’t finished uniting us in a conjugal spirituality that allows us to live our faith together. So, what is this about? (A few days later…)

Lucia: What do you think about what I told you the other day about that path the Lord is calling me to?

Paco: I think that if you see it clearly, then go ahead. I will try to be with you with all my heart. (And so this husband jumped into the void out of love for his wife without understanding anything, with his trust placed in God).

 

Mother,

We believe, but help our faith. Sacred Heart of Jesus, in You we trust.

No place for me. Reflection for married couples. Luke 6:27-38

Gospel

‘Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.’
Luke 6:27-38

At that time: Jesus said to his disciples, ‘I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also; and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either. Give to everyone who begs from you; and from one who takes away your goods, do not demand them back. And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.
  ‘If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.
  ‘Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful. Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.’

The Gospel of the Lord

No Place for Me

The Lord asks us to love—even when it feels utterly unjust—so that we may be like the Father, who is good to the wicked and ungrateful. And thank God for that, because if He weren’t, I would have no place in His Heart.
He never asks me for anything that He doesn’t already do for me. So, if loving those who treat me unfairly feels painful, I must remember that I need Him to love me in the same way. It’s not a luxury—it’s a necessity.

Applied to Married Life:

Andrew: Our faith is incredibly demanding. Don’t you think so, Michelle? Loving those who hate me seems too much. I could understand “Don’t hate those who are unjust to you,” but actually loving them? That’s another level.
Michelle: Do you remember how much we hurt each other yesterday? We treated each other like enemies, didn’t we, Andrew?
Andrew: True. We were both really harsh.
Michelle: And all that harshness—we were throwing it directly at the Heart of Jesus, because He is present in our marriage. And how did He respond?
Andrew: We went to confession, and He forgave everything instantly—without a single complaint or reproach.
Michelle: He wrapped us in His merciful love and restored our peace, even though we had betrayed Him in our Sacrament.
Andrew: That’s true.
Michelle: So, shouldn’t we do the same when the other judges unfairly, criticises, or disregards us?
Andrew: We should, yes.
Michelle: Exactly.
Andrew: Thank you, Michelle. Let’s give each other the love we receive from Him.

Mother,

Because sin exists, so does God’s mercy. May we love each other with that same mercy. Praise be to the Lord, who loves us even when we make ourselves His enemies.

Can You Imagine Not Having Her?. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 16:13-19

Gospel

‘You are Peter, and I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven.’
Matthew 16:13-19

At that time: When Jesus came into the district of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, ‘Who do people say that the Son of Man is?’ And they said, ‘Some say John the Baptist, others say Elijah, and others Jeremiah or one of the prophets.’ He said to them, ‘But who do you say that I am?’ Simon Peter replied, ‘You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.’ And Jesus answered him, ‘Blessed are you, Simon Bar-Jonah! For flesh and blood has not revealed this to you, but my Father who is in heaven. And I tell you, you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my Church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Can You Imagine Not Having Her?

Today in Spain, we celebrate the Feast of the Chair of Saint Peter. It is awe-inspiring to think that God entrusts men with the governance of the Church and the interpretation of the Gospel through the person of the Pope. At the same time, we recognise the Pope as the shepherd of the Church to whom we owe our fidelity.
How essential it is to have the Church’s doctrine as our guiding reference, ensuring we do not stray from the right path.

Applied to Married Life:

Jonathan: It’s not about what you think or what I think—it’s about what the Church’s doctrine teaches.
Stephanie: How wonderful it is to be united in truth and in God’s will. That way, no division can come between us.
Jonathan: What a blessing it is to have the Holy Mother Church. Can you imagine not having it? We would be at the mercy of different interpretations, constantly swayed by opinions. Let’s pray for the Pope, who carries God’s mandate to lead and guide the Church toward Him.
Stephanie: Wow… What an incredible gift—and what an immense responsibility. We must pray for him a lot.

Mother,

Thank You for being the Mother of the Church. We submit ourselves to her. Blessed Mother Church!

The Weeble-Wobble Monster. Reflection for married couples. Mark 8:34-9:1

Gospel

‘Whoever loses his life for my sake and for the gospel will save it.’
Mark 8:34-9:1

At that time: Calling the crowd to him with his disciples, Jesus said to them, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it. For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul? For what can a man give in return for his soul? For whoever is ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, of him will the Son of Man also be ashamed when he comes in the glory of his Father with the holy angels.’ And he said to them, ‘Truly, I say to you, there are some standing here who will not taste death until they see the kingdom of God after it has come with power.’

The Gospel of the Lord

The Weeble-Wobble Monster

The undefeated champion? Self-love.
Denying ourselves is one of the hardest things to do. Sometimes, it feels like we’re making progress by God’s grace, but then—out of nowhere—it rises again, reclaiming its throne.
Self-love is like a weeble-wobble monster—it may seem to fall, but it always bounces back.
The only way to defeat it is through love. Only with God’s love can it be conquered. When I love God and my spouse more than myself, I will be a true disciple, because I will be able to give myself for them on the cross—out of love—and follow the Lord.
Do you want to conquer your self-love? Love the Lord more. Love your spouse more.

Applied to Married Life:

Nathalie: Colin, do you love me more than you love yourself?
Colin: I’d like to say yes, but the truth is, there are still times when I put myself first. There are moments when I think of myself more than I think of you. And there are still times when I hurt you in order to defend myself, Nathalie.
Nathalie: I feel the same. Sometimes, I manage to put my self-love aside, but when I get really annoyed… well. So, what do you think we should do?
Colin: I think we need to stay faithful in prayer every day and practice small acts of self-giving to deepen our love for each other.
Nathalie: Alright. Count me in!

Mother,

We want to be disciples of Your Son. Please, help us to follow Him. We love Him, but we want to love Him more. We love each other, but we want to love each other more. Thank you, Blessed Mother.

Alright, But I Don’t Understand. Reflection for married couples. Mark 8:27-33

Gospel

‘You are the Christ.
Mark 8:27-33

The Son of Man must suffer many things.’
At that time: Jesus went on with his disciples to the villages of Caesarea Philippi. And on the way he asked his disciples, ‘Who do people say that I am?’ And they told him, ‘John the Baptist; and others say, Elijah; and others, one of the prophets.’ And he asked them, ‘But who do you say that I am?’ Peter answered him, ‘You are the Christ.’ And he strictly charged them to tell no one about him.
  And he began to teach them that the Son of Man must suffer many things, and be rejected by the elders and the chief priests and the scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again. And he said this plainly. And Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. But turning and seeing his disciples, he rebuked Peter and said, ‘Get behind me, Satan! For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Alright, But I Don’t Understand

Sometimes, we believe that loving our spouse or children means finding ways to ease their suffering or take it away entirely. But what if that suffering is a cross willed by God for their own redemption—or even for the redemption of others?
We must be careful when faced with the suffering of our loved ones. Instead of following our own human instincts, we should seek God’s purpose in it. Otherwise, we may unknowingly become part of a temptation that leads them away from the Lord’s path.

 

Applied to Married Life:

Catherine: The Lord is asking me to fast from self-love by not defending myself.
Luke: I get that, but what my sister said to you was completely unfair. They’re going to think you’re avoiding them on purpose.
Catherine: Let them think whatever they want.
Luke: Well, I’ll speak to them then.
Catherine: No, my love. Please respect God’s will. He wants me to fast from self-love by not defending myself, and this is the path He has given me. Please, don’t be the one to tempt me away from it.
Luke: Alright, alright… but I don’t understand.

 

Mother,

Help us to accept the crosses God permits for us and for our loved ones, as a path to following Christ. He is the Lord.