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Being Attractive. Reflection for married couples. Jn 6:41-51

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to John

Jn 6:41-51

The Jews murmured about Jesus because he said,

“I am the bread that came down from heaven, “

and they said,

“Is this not Jesus, the son of Joseph?

Do we not know his father and mother?

Then how can he say,

‘I have come down from heaven’?”

Jesus answered and said to them,

“Stop murmuring among yourselves.

No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draw him,

and I will raise him on the last day.

It is written in the prophets:

They shall all be taught by God.

Everyone who listens to my Father and learns from him comes to me.

Not that anyone has seen the Father

except the one who is from God;

he has seen the Father.

Amen, amen, I say to you,

whoever believes has eternal life.

I am the bread of life.

Your ancestors ate the manna in the desert, but they died;

this is the bread that comes down from heaven

so that one may eat it and not die.

I am the living bread that came down from heaven;

whoever eats this bread will live forever;

and the bread that I will give is my flesh for the life of the world.”

The gospel of the Lord.

Being Attractive

We are an indivisible union of body and soul. Today, there’s a lot of focus on the body, but how does our soul look? Personally, I’m much more attracted to the state of the soul than the state of the body. Those who focus on their bodies seek to draw attention to themselves, while those who focus on nourishing their souls draw others toward God. So, who do I want to be attractive for?

Body diets vary according to the desired outcome: some are more energizing, others healthier, others more indulgent. But when it comes to nourishing the soul, there is only one menu: Christ. Nothing else fills the soul, only Him. The nourishment of the body determines earthly life, and the nourishment of the soul determines eternal life.

As Saint John Paul II said, we discover that the invisible determines us more than the visible. Marriage is a relationship of love, and as such, it is more conditioned by the state of the soul than by the body, even though it is common to focus more on the body in relationships between men and women. But marriage is much more conditioned by the soul than by the body, and the best nourishment for marriage is the Eucharist.

Spouses, strengthen your souls, and you will see how your marital relationship improves.

Applied to married life:

Andrés: Many people ask me what we did to fix our marriage and why we are now living it as something new.

Marga: What do you tell them?

Andrés: It’s clear that we had to make an effort, but what truly changed our marriage was introducing the Grace of God into it. When we started living the Eucharist daily, that is how our transformation stated.

Marga: Our marriage went from being something almost exclusively physical and earthly to a plane where the most important element was introduced: the spiritual. Our mere attraction was transformed into the strength of the Holy Spirit, who is the only one who can make us one. Since we have had the Lord present in our marriage, everything human has been enveloped in a Divine halo, which elevates it, beautifies it, and makes it stronger than death.

Mother,

What a gift from God to be able to receive Christ in the Eucharist. He transforms us and makes all things new. Through Christ, with Him, and in Him, to you, Almighty Father, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, all honour and glory, forever and ever. Amen.

Stingily? Reflection for married couples. JN 12:24-26

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to John

JN 12:24-26

Jesus said to his disciples:

“Amen, amen, I say to you,

unless a grain of wheat falls to the ground and dies,

it remains just a grain of wheat;

but if it dies, it produces much fruit.

Whoever loves his life loses it,

and whoever hates his life in this world

will preserve it for eternal life.

Whoever serves me must follow me,

and where I am, there also will my servant be.

The Father will honour whoever serves me.”

The gospel of the Lord.

Stingily?

There is a phrase from Saint Paul to the Corinthians that relates to this Gospel and that I think is excellent for marriage: “Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.” That’s how conjugal love works: Do you give or do you give yourself? To the point that if I don’t give myself, I won’t bear fruit, and if I do give myself, I will bear much fruit.

But Saint Paul’s phrase doesn’t end there; it continues, and it’s great: “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, God loves a cheerful giver.” Because we’ve all experienced giving “under compulsion,” while inwardly resisting, and that sooner or later takes a toll on the relationship. Don’t find joy in giving? That’s because I haven’t discovered the beauty and greatness of marriage. Do I want to live a beautiful and great marriage? Then I have to give myself with joy.

Applied to married life:

Alberto: I got married and started focusing on making my wife happy and on raising and educating my children well. I discovered how much it cost me. I discovered my selfishness. I continue to struggle every day to give myself completely and to stop being self-centred.

Susana: I married an austere husband. He made sure that no food was wasted and that we didn’t buy unnecessary things. At first, it bothered me that he complained, but then I realised that I was being frivolous and wasn’t able to appreciate what I had. So, I started letting myself be guided by him, learning to make the most of the blessings God gives us. Now, I don’t need as much as I used to, and little by little, I’m becoming freer.

Alberto: I have a strong temper, and I always need to be right. I realised that my wife suffered a lot because of this, as I often got angry. I started making an effort not to hurt her. I’m gradually gaining more control over my impulses, I’m mastering my actions, and being with her is making me gentler, giving me much more peace.

Susana: I had a very spiritualised faith. I loved being with the Lord, but then I’d come home and couldn’t tolerate my husband’s flaws. I realised that I wasn’t really following Christ but was seeking my own comfort in faith. So, I began asking for mercy and made an effort to love like Christ. Little by little, the Lord is freeing me from my spiritual pride.

Both: We thank God for our marriage because it constantly allows us to step out of ourselves and into the other, making us increasingly free to give ourselves to each other. Only by falling to the ground and dying can we bear fruit. Truly, marriage is a path to holiness.

Mother,

Today I become more aware that only by giving myself to my spouse will I bear fruit. The Lord wants from us a love like His: Incarnated. Praise be to the Lord.

Spouses of the Heart. Reflection for married couples. MT 16:24-28

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

 

From the Gospel according to Matthew

MT 16:24-28

 

Jesus said to his disciples,

“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself,

take up his cross, and follow me.

For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it,

but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.

What profit would there be for one to gain the whole world

and forfeit his life?

Or what can one give in exchange for his life?

For the Son of Man will come with his angels in his Father’s glory,

and then he will repay each according to his conduct.

Amen, I say to you, there are some standing here

who will not taste death

until they see the Son of Man coming in his Kingdom.”

 

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

Spouses of the Heart

 

We can compare oil to the Holy Spirit, who is the Love of God. The one whose heart is always ready to receive the Husband, who doesn’t get distracted by other worldly attractions, can rest in the Lord because they will be ready when He comes to wed them.

But the conversion of the heart is not something that can happen overnight. It requires a path of purification, of cleansing bad habits, detaching from worldly things, seeking God in everything and everyone, and doing everything with the motivation of glorifying God. Our Mother was the Mother of God in her heart before she was in her womb. We must become spouses of the Husband in our hearts before the day of our death, the day when we will definitively become one with Him.

 

Applied to married life:

 

Alicia: If you could have anything right now, what would you ask for? I need to go away, to be alone with God. To fill myself with God’s Love.

Alexander: I would ask to become aware of everything I have. To keep living my day-to-day life, in the same circumstances, with the same people, with the same difficulties, but to understand that all these circumstances are means to help me detach. What bothers me, bothers me precisely because of my concupiscence, and I need to allow it to stay, bothering me, until my heart is purified out of love for you and for God.

Alicia: I think both things are complementary, and both purify our hearts. We need asceticism and mysticism…from the purifying suffering and redeeming grace.

Alexander: Then let’s help each other to achieve it. Does that sound good?

Alicia: It sounds good. I love you and want the best for you.

Alexander: And I for you.

 

Mother,

 

Help us purifying our hearts and prepare them through our marriage, for when the great moment of union with Christ comes. We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

 

The Other Stone. Reflection for Married Couples. Mt 16:13-23

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Matthew

Mt 16:13-23

Jesus went into the region of Caesarea Philippi

and he asked his disciples,

“Who do people say that the Son of Man is?”

They replied, “Some say John the Baptist, others Elijah,

still others Jeremiah or one of the prophets.”

He said to them, “But who do you say that I am?”

Simon Peter said in reply,

“You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.”

Jesus said to him in reply, “Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah.

For flesh and blood has not revealed this to you, but my heavenly Father.

And so I say to you, you are Peter,

and upon this rock I will build my Church,

and the gates of the netherworld shall not prevail against it.

I will give you the keys to the Kingdom of heaven.

Whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven;

and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.”

Then he strictly ordered his disciples

to tell no one that he was the Christ.

From that time on, Jesus began to show his disciples

that he must go to Jerusalem and suffer greatly

from the elders, the chief priests, and the scribes,

and be killed and on the third day be raised.

Then Peter took Jesus aside and began to rebuke him,

“God forbid, Lord! No such thing shall ever happen to you.”

He turned and said to Peter,

“Get behind me, Satan! You are an obstacle to me.

You are thinking not as God does, but as human beings do.”

The word of the Lord

The Other Stone.

We are very clear that Christ gave His life on the cross out of Love for us. He taught us to love to the extreme in His own flesh. But it is very difficult for us to accept that we have to do the same.

When situations arise in our daily lives that require giving, renouncing, and/or sacrificing, the devil whispers in our ear: He was God, you don’t have to put up with this… “Get away from me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me…”

The same stone (Peter) that a few minutes before was the support of the Church, suddenly becomes a stumbling block for the Lord. Unfortunately, many followers of Jesus could be stumbling blocks for married couples with issues as to avoid suffering in their marital relationship, can advise not to suffer any longer and to separate or seek an annulment.

Whether we like it or not, we were created to give our lives, and the sooner we accept and discover the greatness of the person who does so, the sooner we will begin to live a full life. Then you will hear the Lord say to you: Blessed are you, because that was revealed to you by my Father who is in heaven and you have accepted it.

Applied to Married Life:

Lorenzo: What has conversion meant for you?

Ana: For me, it has meant a total transformation. What I used to see as a drag, like prayer, now excites me; it’s a whole experience. On the other hand, what used to excite me, like knowing I was attractive to others, now I don’t understand how I ever needed it so much to feel secure about myself.

And for you, what has conversion meant?

Lorenzo: Just like you, a radical change in my life and my desires. I’ll give you an example: I didn’t like when you used to tell me what I had to do, but now I highly value mutual obedience. I believe our salvation depends on it, just as the salvation of the world depended precisely on the obedience of Jesus. These are difficult things, but later you discover their true value.

Ana: Certainly, they are not easy to understand. You have to live it to recognise it.

Lorenzo: The Lord shows us this in the Gospel.

Mother,

It is very difficult for us to stop thinking like men and start thinking like God. You know we are full of weaknesses, quirks, and whims. You know we seek immediate results… Mother, protect and guide us so that we build a holy marriage; this is our only desire. Through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

You make me fall in love with you. Reflection for married couples. MT 15:21-28

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Matthew

MT 15:21-28

At that time Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon.

And behold, a Canaanite woman of that district came and called out,

“Have pity on me, Lord, Son of David!

My daughter is tormented by a demon.”

But he did not say a word in answer to her.

His disciples came and asked him,

“Send her away, for she keeps calling out after us.”

He said in reply,

“I was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.”

But the woman came and did him homage, saying, “Lord, help me.”

He said in reply,

“It is not right to take the food of the children

and throw it to the dogs.”

She said, “Please, Lord, for even the dogs eat the scraps

that fall from the table of their masters.”

Then Jesus said to her in reply,

“O woman, great is your faith!

Let it be done for you as you wish.”

And her daughter was healed from that hour

The gospel of the Lord

You make me fall in love with you.

When I hear this Gospel, I have in my mind: I wish I could say that phrase so that Jesus would tell me: “Great is your faith.” What a compliment coming from Jesus! But that compliment comes after that faith has been tested by the path of humiliation.

Applied to Married Life:

Juan: One of the things that makes me fall in love with you even more is your faith.

Cristina: I love when you say that to me. There’s no greater compliment. In what situations do you notice my faith?

Juan: Especially when you live with peace and joy in a situation where someone humiliates you, and right after, you thank God for having experienced it with you.

Cristina: It’s true. I don’t really live through those situations myself. It’s the Lord who lives them for me.

Juan: Great is your faith.

Mother,

Model and Teacher of faith, give us more faith to live through humiliations in Your Immaculate Heart.