The Fear´s Fear. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 8:23-27


Then he got up, rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was great calm.
From the Gospel according to Matthew. MT 8:23-27.
As Jesus got into a boat, his disciples followed him. Suddenly a violent storm came up on the sea so that the boat was being swamped by waves; but he was asleep.
They came and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We are perishing!”
He said to them, “Why are you terrified, O you of little faith?”
Then he got up, rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was great calm.
The men were amazed and said, “What sort of man is this, whom even the winds and the sea obey?”
The Gospel of the Lord.

The Fear´s Fear

In the Bible, there are 365 references to fear, one for each day of the year. We can be afraid of today’s life and tomorrow’s death, of saying yes and of saying no… Yet, fear fears only one thing against which it cannot endure, and that is faith. The Lord wants us to have faith and to stop being afraid. There is only fear when love is absent. Those who have not experienced unconditional love live to “earn” acceptance; they believe they must fight to gain the affection of others. However, those who have experienced God’s Love are not afraid because they know they are infinitely loved.

Applied to Married Life:

Monica: Andrew, do you love me? 
Andrew: Indeed. 
Monica: Yes, but why do you love me? 
Andrew: I don’t know, there is no why. Simply, you are very important to me, and you deserve me to give you my life. 
Monica: Then, if I am so important, why don’t you value my work and my skills? 
Andrew: I do value them, but you are more important than your skills. You might lose your skills one day, and I will still love you. If my love depended on your achievements, it would not come from God, because He loves us for who we are, not for our successes, which, moreover, we always owe to Him.


How much fear we have when we lack charity, and charity is united with faith. Praise be to the Lord for instilling the theological virtues in us .

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