Stay with us.Reflection for marriages Luke 24:13-35

From the Gospel according to Luke 24:13-35

That very day, the first day of the week,two of Jesus’ disciples were goingto a village seven miles from Jerusalem called Emmaus,and they were conversing about all the things that had occurred.And it happened that while they were conversing and debating,Jesus himself drew near and walked with them,but their eyes were prevented from recognizing him.He asked them,“What are you discussing as you walk along?”They stopped, looking downcast.One of them, named Cleopas, said to him in reply,“Are you the only visitor to Jerusalemwho does not know of the thingsthat have taken place there in these days?”And he replied to them, “What sort of things?”They said to him,“The things that happened to Jesus the Nazarene,who was a prophet mighty in deed and wordbefore God and all the people,how our chief priests and rulers both handed him overto a sentence of death and crucified him.But we were hoping that he would be the one to redeem Israel;and besides all this,it is now the third day since this took place.Some women from our group, however, have astounded us:they were at the tomb early in the morningand did not find his Body;they came back and reportedthat they had indeed seen a vision of angelswho announced that he was alive.Then some of those with us went to the tomband found things just as the women had described,but him they did not see.”And he said to them, “Oh, how foolish you are!How slow of heart to believe all that the prophets spoke!Was it not necessary that the Christ should suffer these thingsand enter into his glory?”Then beginning with Moses and all the prophets,he interpreted to them what referred to himin all the Scriptures.As they approached the village to which they were going,he gave the impression that he was going on farther.But they urged him, “Stay with us,for it is nearly evening and the day is almost over.”So he went in to stay with them.And it happened that, while he was with them at table,he took bread, said the blessing,broke it, and gave it to them.With that their eyes were opened and they recognized him,but he vanished from their sight.Then they said to each other,“Were not our hearts burning within uswhile he spoke to us on the way and opened the Scriptures to us?”So they set out at once and returned to Jerusalemwhere they found gathered togetherthe Eleven and those with them who were saying,“The Lord has truly been raised and has appeared to Simon!”Then the two recounted what had taken place on the wayand how he was made known to them in the breaking of the bread.

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The two disciples on the road to Emmaus could easily be seen as a portrait of a married couple—two spouses walking through life together amid conversations, expectations, joys, and disappointments… and, most striking of all, Jesus walking with them. It is in our everyday lives that He draws near and asks, “What are you discussing?” He takes the initiative because He cares about what concerns us, because He wants to share our lives with us.
He also listens to our hearts when we say, “We had hoped…,” because so often our plans do not match His. The cross was not part of our plans, and when it comes, it unsettles us—we reject it and want to run away because it is hard to interpret it with faith. But Jesus does not leave; He stays. And when our eyes are opened in faith, that is when we recognize Him.
Jesus disappears from our sight not because He has gone away, but because He has already shown us where to find Him: in the Word and in the Eucharist. And when we find Him, from the depths of our hearts we say: Stay with us!

Applied to married life:

James: Natalie, I’ve counted seven churches on my way from home to the office.
Natalie: Seven? Since when do you go around counting churches? Weren’t you using your commute to catch up on the news?
James: Not since Monday. On Sunday, at the Easter Mass, I realized again that Jesus is truly alive among us—the same Jesus who walked through Galilee, the same one who worked miracles… He is in the tabernacle! Isn’t that amazing? As I passed each church, I became aware of this, and my heart burned as I prayed, “Stay with me, Lord ”
Natalie: How foolish and slow we can be sometimes. Jesus has chosen to stay with us, and we… What do you think about going together to Mass this afternoon?
James: I think it’s the best thing we could do…

Mother,
when we recognize Jesus, the heart moves from sadness to gratitude. Always lead us along this path. Blessed be the Lord, alive and present among us!

Only the one who dies truly lives. Reflection for marriages Matthew 28:8-15

From the Gospel according to Matthew 28:815
Mary Magdalene and the other Mary went away quickly from the tomb,fearful yet overjoyed,and ran to announce the news to his disciples.And behold, Jesus met them on their way and greeted them.They approached, embraced his feet, and did him homage.Then Jesus said to them, “Do not be afraid.Go tell my brothers to go to Galilee,and there they will see me.”
While they were going, some of the guard went into the cityand told the chief priests all that had happened.The chief priests assembled with the elders and took counsel;then they gave a large sum of money to the soldiers,telling them, “You are to say,‘His disciples came by night and stole him while we were asleep.’And if this gets to the ears of the governor,we will satisfy him and keep you out of trouble.”The soldiers took the money and did as they were instructed.And this story has circulated among the Jews to the present day
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Only the one who dies truly lives.
Only the one who weeps over the Passion of Christ with genuine sorrow can fully rejoice in His Resurrection. Only the one who follows Christ—as He Himself tells us—by denying oneself, taking up one’s cross, and dying with Him, can rise with Him to a new life and taste true joy.
I had always reflected on Mary’s joy upon seeing the risen Jesus. But today something deeper has moved me: the joy of Jesus in seeing Mary—the immense joy of Love that gives itself and is received. The joy of the Redeemer as His redemption is fulfilled in the one who allows herself to be redeemed.
Jesus sees her, as He sees all of us, in the truth of our hearts. In Mary, He does not see only tears: He sees a soul purified by love. He sees the one who left sin behind to follow Him, who remained at the foot of the cross, united to every wound, every step, every nail. Mary did not fear suffering with her Lord… because she loved. And that is why she finds Him: because she allowed herself to be transformed, because she sought Him when others fled, because she kept watch when others slept.
Christ longs to reveal Himself within us. For this, we must consent to the death of “self-love” so that “divine love” may live. Let us ask the Holy Spirit for light to understand how this dying will unfold within our marriage, leading us as spouses into a new life—one that will bring joy to the Heart of the Redeemer. Jesus invites us to die in order to live. Let us die with Christ so that we may rise with Him!
Applied to Married Life
Two mentors speaking about a couple they helped.
Lisa: Joe, how beautiful it is to see how Leslie and Ryan are doing. I still can’t believe it when I think about it. Do you remember how they were?
Joe: Of course I do—they almost didn’t make it to the retreat… their families wanted them to separate… actually, everyone they spoke to did. It was such a hard time. No one believed in their marriage. But God did—and we, His poor instruments, did too.
Lisa: I live in constant amazement seeing God’s work, which surpasses all human logic and reasoning. He makes all things new.
Joe: Did you know they’re going to start training as mentors?
Lisa: How great is the Lord! Glory to God!
Joe: Glory to God!

Mother,

Teach us to walk the Way of the Cross with Jesus, holding your hand. Teach us to trust when the cross feels too heavy. Lead us to Calvary, so that we may die with Christ and rise with Him. Praised be your trust!Blessed and praised be Jesus!

He saw and believed. Reflection for marriages. John 20:1-9

From the Gospel according to John 20:1-9

On the first day of the week, Mary of Magdala came to the tomb early in the morning, while it was still dark, and saw the stone removed from the tomb. So she ran and went to Simon Peter and to the other disciple whom Jesus loved, and told them, “They have taken the Lord from the tomb, and we don’t know where they put him.” So Peter and the other disciple went out and came to the tomb. They both ran, but the other disciple ran faster than Peter and arrived at the tomb first; he bent down and saw the burial cloths there, but did not go in. When Simon Peter arrived after him, he went into the tomb and saw the burial cloths there, and the cloth that had covered his head, not with the burial cloths but rolled up in a separate place. Then the other disciple also went in, the one who had arrived at the tomb first, and he saw and believed. For they did not yet understand the Scripture that he had to rise from the dead.

He saw and believed.

Today we celebrate the great day: Easter! the Lord’s passing through our lives, the reason for our faith, the Resurrection of our Savior! He who died for us has risen today! Dear spouses, He makes all things new: our life, our marriage, our family, our hearts because we too are called to the Resurrection. Let us believe like the disciple. Christ is risen! Happy Easter!

Applied to married life:

Helena: Luis, I think this year we are living Easter like never before.
Louis: Yes, Helena not only Easter, which is the culmination of all Holy Week, but also the Passion. God has granted us to live it deeply this year.
Helena: Yes, it’s true, it’s as if He prepared us throughout Lent and then this whole past week to experience the joy we feel today, Easter as if our understanding has awakened, and now we can truly understand.
Louis: Exactly, because in a way we too have risen with Christ. This year we’ve discovered the wonder our marriage can be; this has led our family to be more united, with more joy and peace. And even though we have gone through some crosses, we’ve seen that by living them with Him, we have found peace. And this is our Easter.
Helena: Yes, Christ has passed through our lives and has risen in us. Happy Easter, my dear husband!
Louis: Happy Easter, my wife!

Mother,

Thank you, dear Mother, for being with us every day. May we one day celebrate Easter with you in Heaven. Glory to God!

Rejoice, do not be afraid. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 28:1-10

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint Matthew 28:110

After the sabbath, as the first day of the week was dawning, Mary Magdalene and the other Mary went to see the tomb. And suddenly there was a great earthquake; for an angel of the Lord, descending from heaven, came and rolled back the stone and sat on it. His appearance was like lightning, and his clothing white as snow. For fear of him the guards shook and became like dead men. But the angel said to the women, ‘Do not be afraid; I know that you are looking for Jesus who was crucified. He is not here; for he has been raised, as he said. Come, see the place where he* lay. Then go quickly and tell his disciples, “He has been raised from the dead,* and indeed he is going ahead of you to Galilee; there you will see him.” This is my message for you.’ So they left the tomb quickly with fear and great joy, and ran to tell his disciples. Suddenly Jesus met them and said, ‘Greetings!’ And they came to him, took hold of his feet, and worshipped him. Then Jesus said to them, ‘Do not be afraid; go and tell my brothers to go to Galilee; there they will see me.’ 

 

Rejoice, do not be afraid.

Today, on this Holy Saturday, we accompany our Mother in the silence of the tomb, waiting for the light brought by Christ’s Resurrection. The earth trembles, the stone is moved, and an angel announces what seemed impossible: Jesus has risen!

So too in our married life, at times everything can seem still, heavy, even lifeless when doubts, fears, fatigue, or selfishness seem to rule our hearts. Today Christ invites us to look beyond our darkness, to discover the light that conquers sin and death, and to live in the truth of a love that transforms daily life into a reflection of His divine love.

To love our spouse with Christ’s love is to live the Resurrection day by day: to die to selfishness and be born into self-giving, to die to pride and live in communion. Like the two Marys who went to the tomb, we sometimes lack the faith to believe that after sacrifice, life always comes. We find it hard to accept that self-giving out of love, even when it hurts or requires sacrifice, leads to fullness and joy.

Christ assures us that even in doubt and fear, He goes before us and says: “Rejoice.” He calls us to be witnesses of His love and to live in communion with Him, so that His work may be made visible in us and through us. May we learn to walk toward that light, embracing our spouse and living true love where Christ rises and hope is reborn.

Applied to married life:

Mary: David, today in prayer I felt that our love has gone through a resurrection.
David: Resurrection?
Mary: Yes… before, we loved each other from ourselves, measuring, comparing, expecting from the other… and that made it fragile.
David: That’s true, Mary… a very limited kind of love.
Mary: But now it feels different, as if it is born from Christ. When we allow ourselves to be filled by Him, we can love each other with peace, without demands or fear.
David: And everything changes… not because difficulties disappear, but because there is a source that sustains our love.
Mary: Exactly, my love. Our love now lives from something that does not run out, because it is born and sustained in Christ, the source of life and hope.

Mother,

Help us to remain beside your Son in silence and waiting, so that the light of His Resurrection may always fill our hearts. Blessed and praised are You forever, Lord!

Giving One’s Life. Reflection for marriages. John 18:1-19:42

From the Gospel according to John, 18:1—19:42

Jesus went out with his disciples across the Kidron valley to where there was a garden, into which he and his disciples entered. Judas his betrayer also knew the place,
because Jesus had often met there with his disciples. So Judas got a band of soldiers and guards from the chief priests and the Pharisees and went there with lanterns, torches, and weapons. Jesus, knowing everything that was going to happen to him, went out and said to them, “Whom are you looking for?”
They answered him, “Jesus the Nazorean.”
He said to them, “I AM.”
Judas his betrayer was also with them. When he said to them, “I AM,“ they turned away and fell to the ground.
So he again asked them, “Whom are you looking for?”
They said, “Jesus the Nazorean.”
Jesus answered, “I told you that I AM. So if you are looking for me, let these men go.” This was to fulfill what he had said, “I have not lost any of those you gave me.” Then Simon Peter, who had a sword, drew it, struck the high priest’s slave, and cut off his right ear. The slave’s name was Malchus. Jesus said to Peter, “Put your sword into its scabbard. Shall I not drink the cup that the Father gave me?” So the band of soldiers, the tribune, and the Jewish guards seized Jesus, bound him, and brought him to Annas first. He was the father-in-law of Caiaphas, who was high priest that year. It was Caiaphas who had counseled the Jews that it was better that one man should die rather than the people.
Simon Peter and another disciple followed Jesus. Now the other disciple was known to the high priest, and he entered the courtyard of the high priest with Jesus. But Peter stood at the gate outside. So the other disciple, the acquaintance of the high priest, went out and spoke to the gatekeeper and brought Peter in. Then the maid who was the gatekeeper said to Peter, “You are not one of this man’s disciples, are you?” He said, “I am not.” Now the slaves and the guards were standing around a charcoal fire that they had made, because it was cold, and were warming themselves. Peter was also standing there keeping warm.
The high priest questioned Jesus about his disciples and about his doctrine. Jesus answered him, “I have spoken publicly to the world. I have always taught in a synagogue or in the temple area where all the Jews gather, and in secret I have said nothing. Why ask me? Ask those who heard me what I said to them. They know what I said.” When he had said this, one of the temple guards standing there struck Jesus and said, “Is this the way you answer the high priest?” Jesus answered him, “If I have spoken wrongly, testify to the wrong; but if I have spoken rightly, why do you strike me?” Then Annas sent him bound to Caiaphas the high priest.
Now Simon Peter was standing there keeping warm. And they said to him, “You are not one of his disciples, are you?” He denied it and said, “I am not.” One of the slaves of the high priest, a relative of the one whose ear Peter had cut off, said, “Didn’t I see you in the garden with him?” Again Peter denied it. And immediately the cock crowed.
Then they brought Jesus from Caiaphas to the praetorium. It was morning. And they themselves did not enter the praetorium, in order not to be defiled so that they could eat the Passover. So Pilate came out to them and said, “What charge do you bring against this man?” They answered and said to him, “If he were not a criminal, we would not have handed him over to you.” At this, Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves, and judge him according to your law.”
The Jews answered him, “We do not have the right to execute anyone, “ in order that the word of Jesus might be fulfilled that he said indicating the kind of death he would die. So Pilate went back into the praetorium and summoned Jesus and said to him, “Are you the King of the Jews?” Jesus answered, “Do you say this on your own or have others told you about me?” Pilate answered, “I am not a Jew, am I? Your own nation and the chief priests handed you over to me. What have you done? ”Jesus answered, “My kingdom does not belong to this world. If my kingdom did belong to this world, my attendants would be fighting to keep me from being handed over to the Jews. But as it is, my kingdom is not here.” So Pilate said to him, “Then you are a king?” Jesus answered, “You say I am a king. For this I was born and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to my voice.” Pilate said to him, “What is truth?”
When he had said this, he again went out to the Jews and said to them, “I find no guilt in him. But you have a custom that I release one prisoner to you at Passover. Do you want me to release to you the King of the Jews?” They cried out again, “Not this one but Barabbas!” Now Barabbas was a revolutionary.
Then Pilate took Jesus and had him scourged. And the soldiers wove a crown out of thorns and placed it on his head, and clothed him in a purple cloak, and they came to him and said, “Hail, King of the Jews!” And they struck him repeatedly. Once more Pilate went out and said to them, “Look, I am bringing him out to you, so that you may know that I find no guilt in him.” So Jesus came out, wearing the crown of thorns and the purple cloak. And he said to them, “Behold, the man!” When the chief priests and the guards saw him they cried out, “Crucify him, crucify him!” Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves and crucify him. I find no guilt in him.” The Jews answered, “We have a law, and according to that law he ought to die, because he made himself the Son of God.” Now when Pilate heard this statement, he became even more afraid, and went back into the praetorium and said to Jesus, “Where are you from?” Jesus did not answer him. So Pilate said to him, “Do you not speak to  me? Do you not know that I have power to release you and I have power to crucify you?” Jesus answered him, “You would have no power over me if it had not been given to you from above. For this reason the one who handed me over to you has the greater sin.” Consequently, Pilate tried to release him; but the Jews cried out, “If you release him, you are not a Friend of Caesar. Everyone who makes himself a king opposes Caesar.”
When Pilate heard these words he brought Jesus out and seated him on the judge’s bench in the place called Stone Pavement, in Hebrew, Gabbatha. It was preparation day for Passover, and it was about noon. And he said to the Jews, “Behold, your king!” They cried out, “Take him away, take him away! Crucify him!” Pilate said to them, “Shall I crucify your king?” The chief priests answered, “We have no king but Caesar.” Then he handed him over to them to be crucified.
So they took Jesus, and, carrying the cross himself, he went out to what is called the Place of the Skull, in Hebrew, Golgotha. There they crucified him, and with him two others, one on either side, with Jesus in the middle. Pilate also had an inscription written and put on the cross. It read, “Jesus the Nazorean, the King of the Jews.” Now many of the Jews read this inscription, because the place where Jesus was crucified was near the city; and it was written in Hebrew, Latin, and Greek. So the chief priests of the Jews said to Pilate, “Do not write ‘The King of the Jews,’ but that he said, ‘I am the King of the Jews’.” Pilate answered, “What I have written, I have written.”
When the soldiers had crucified Jesus, they took his clothes and divided them into four shares, a share for each soldier. They also took his tunic, but the tunic was seamless, woven in one piece from the top down. So they said to one another, “Let’s not tear it, but cast lots for it to see whose it will be, “ in order that the passage of Scripture might be fulfilled that says: They divided my garments among them, and for my vesture they cast lots. This is what the soldiers did. Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary of Magdala. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son.” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother.” And from that hour the disciple took her into his home.
After this, aware that everything was now finished, in order that the Scripture might be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I thirst.” There was a vessel filled with common wine. So they put a sponge soaked in wine on a sprig of hyssop and put it up to his mouth. When Jesus had taken the wine, he said, “It is finished.” And bowing his head, he handed over the spirit.
Here all kneel and pause for a short time.
Now since it was preparation day, in order that the bodies might not remain on the cross on the sabbath, for the sabbath day of that week was a solemn one, the Jews asked Pilate that their legs be broken and that they be taken down. So the soldiers came and broke the legs of the first and then of the other one who was crucified with Jesus. But when they came to Jesus and saw that he was already dead, they did not break his legs, but one soldier thrust his lance into his side, and immediately blood and water flowed out. An eyewitness has testified, and his testimony is true; he knows that he is speaking the truth, so that you also may come to believe. For this happened so that the Scripture passage might be fulfilled: Not a bone of it will be broken. And again another passage says: They will look upon him whom they have pierced.
After this, Joseph of Arimathea, secretly a disciple of Jesus for fear of the Jews, asked Pilate if he could remove the body of Jesus. And Pilate permitted it. So he came and took his body. Nicodemus, the one who had first come to him at night, also came bringing a mixture of myrrh and aloes weighing about one hundred pounds. They took the body of Jesus and bound it with burial cloths along with the spices, according to the Jewish burial custom. Now in the place where he had been crucified there was a garden, and in the garden a new tomb, in which no one had yet been buried. So they laid Jesus there because of the Jewish preparation day; for the tomb was close by.

Giving One’s Life

We see Jesus in the Passion not as a passive victim, but as one who freely offers himself out of love. He is the one who says: “No one takes my life from me, but I lay it down of my own accord.”
Saint John allows us to contemplate this truth: a God who loves to the very end, who gives his life for his bride, the Church, transforming the wood of the cross into a source of eternal life. Do I give my life for my spouse?

Applied to married life:

Elizabeth: Paul, seeing Jesus in his Passion really gives me a lot to think about, and I see that in our marriage we are called to that same “love to the very end.”
Paul: Yes, Elizabeth, you’re right, but sometimes tiredness or hurt tempt us to “wash our hands” like Pilate or to “deny” like Peter.
Elizabeth: Yes… however, our own Sacrament gives us the grace and strength to give ourselves and lay down our lives in everyday life. To love is the decision to die to oneself so that the other may live. In our mutual self-giving, the world should see Christ’s love.
Paul: You’re absolutely right, but… wow… how difficult it can be sometimes… Shall we pray a bit and ask the Lord for the grace to help us in this mutual self-giving?
Elizabeth: Of course Paul, let’s do it!
Eliabeth and Paul: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, amen. Lord Jesus, grant us the grace to live our marriage with a sustained “yes,” so that we may give ourselves without reserve at all times, in difficulties and in joys. May our love not be of this world, but a reflection of yours. Amen.

Mother,

You too loved as the Lord did, teach us to love with that same self-giving. Blessed and praised be the Lord.