Does it resemble? Reflection for marriages John 18:1-19:42

Gospel

From the Gospel according to John. Jn 18:1—19:42

Jesus went out with his disciples across the Kidron valley to where there was a garden, into which he and his disciples entered.
Judas his betrayer also knew the place, because Jesus had often met there with his disciples. So Judas got a band of soldiers and guards from the chief priests and the Pharisees and went there with lanterns, torches, and weapons.
Jesus, knowing everything that was going to happen to him, went out and said to them, “Whom are you looking for?”
They answered him, “Jesus the Nazorean.”
He said to them, “I AM.”
Judas his betrayer was also with them.
When he said to them, “I AM“, they turned away and fell to the ground. So he again asked them, “Whom are you looking for?”
They said, “Jesus the Nazorean.”
Jesus answered, “I told you that I AM. So if you are looking for me, let these men go.”
This was to fulfill what he had said, “I have not lost any of those you gave me.”
Then Simon Peter, who had a sword, drew it, struck the high priest’s slave, and cut off his right ear. The slave’s name was Malchus.
Jesus said to Peter, “Put your sword into its scabbard. Shall I not drink the cup that the Father gave me?”

So the band of soldiers, the tribune, and the Jewish guards seized Jesus, bound him, and brought him to Annas first. He was the father-in-law of Caiaphas, who was high priest that year. It was Caiaphas who had counseled the Jews that it was better that one man should die rather than the people.

Simon Peter and another disciple followed Jesus. Now the other disciple was known to the high priest, and he entered the courtyard of the high priest with Jesus. But Peter stood at the gate outside. So the other disciple, the acquaintance of the high priest, went out and spoke to the gatekeeper and brought Peter in. Then the maid who was the gatekeeper said to Peter, “You are not one of this man’s disciples, are you?”
He said, “I am not.”
Now the slaves and the guards were standing around a charcoal fire that they had made, because it was cold, and were warming themselves. Peter was also standing there keeping warm.

The high priest questioned Jesus about his disciples and about his doctrine.
Jesus answered him, “I have spoken publicly to the world. I have always taught in a synagogue or in the temple area where all the Jews gather, and in secret I have said nothing. Why ask me? Ask those who heard me what I said to them. They know what I said.”
When he had said this, one of the temple guards standing there struck Jesus and said, “Is this the way you answer the high priest?”
Jesus answered him, “If I have spoken wrongly, testify to the wrong; but if I have spoken rightly, why do you strike me?”
Then Annas sent him bound to Caiaphas the high priest.

Now Simon Peter was standing there keeping warm. And they said to him, “You are not one of his disciples, are you?”
He denied it and said, “I am not.”
One of the slaves of the high priest, a relative of the one whose ear Peter had cut off, said, “Didn’t I see you in the garden with him?”
Again Peter denied it. And immediately the cock crowed.

Then they brought Jesus from Caiaphas to the praetorium. It was morning.
And they themselves did not enter the praetorium, in order not to be defiled so that they could eat the Passover. So Pilate came out to them and said, “What charge do you bring against this man?”
They answered and said to him, “If he were not a criminal, we would not have handed him over to you.”
At this, Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves, and judge him according to your law.”
The Jews answered him, “We do not have the right to execute anyone, “in order that the word of Jesus might be fulfilled that he said indicating the kind of death he would die.
So Pilate went back into the praetorium and summoned Jesus and said to him, “Are you the King of the Jews?”
Jesus answered, “Do you say this on your own or have others told you about me?”
Pilate answered, “I am not a Jew, am I? Your own nation and the chief priests handed you over to me. What have you done?”
Jesus answered, “My kingdom does not belong to this world. If my kingdom did belong to this world, my attendants would be fighting to keep me from being handed over to the Jews. But as it is, my kingdom is not here.”
So Pilate said to him, “Then you are a king?”
Jesus answered, “You say I am a king. For this I was born and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to my voice.”
Pilate said to him, “What is truth?” When he had said this, he again went out to the Jews and said to them, “I find no guilt in him. But you have a custom that I release one prisoner to you at Passover. Do you want me to release to you the King of the Jews?”
They cried out again, “Not this one but Barabbas!”
Now Barabbas was a revolutionary. 

Then Pilate took Jesus and had him scourged. And the soldiers wove a crown out of thorns and placed it on his head, and clothed him in a purple cloak,
and they came to him and said, “Hail, King of the Jews!” And they struck him repeatedly.
Once more Pilate went out and said to them, “Look, I am bringing him out to you, so that you may know that I find no guilt in him.”
So Jesus came out, wearing the crown of thorns and the purple cloak. And he said to them, “Behold, the man!”
When the chief priests and the guards saw him they cried out, “Crucify him, crucify him!”
Pilate said to them, “Take him yourselves and crucify him. I find no guilt in him.”
The Jews answered, “We have a law, and according to that law he ought to die, because he made himself the Son of God.”
Now when Pilate heard this statement, he became even more afraid, and went back into the praetorium and said to Jesus,
“Where are you from?” Jesus did not answer him.
So Pilate said to him, “Do you not speak to me? Do you not know that I have power to release you and I have power to crucify you?”
Jesus answered him, “You would have no power over me if it had not been given to you from above. For this reason the one who handed me over to you has the greater sin.”
Consequently, Pilate tried to release him; but the Jews cried out, “If you release him, you are not a Friend of Caesar. Everyone who makes himself a king opposes Caesar.”

When Pilate heard these words he brought Jesus out and seated him on the judge’s bench in the place called Stone Pavement, in Hebrew, Gabbatha. It was preparation day for Passover, and it was about noon.
And he said to the Jews, “Behold, your king!”
They cried out, “Take him away, take him away! Crucify him!”
Pilate said to them, “Shall I crucify your king?”
The chief priests answered, “We have no king but Caesar.”
Then he handed him over to them to be crucified. So they took Jesus, and, carrying the cross himself, he went out to what is called the Place of the Skull, in Hebrew, Golgotha. There they crucified him, and with him two others, one on either side, with Jesus in the middle. Pilate also had an inscription written and put on the cross. It read, “Jesus the Nazorean, the King of the Jews.”
Now many of the Jews read this inscription, because the place where Jesus was crucified was near the city; and it was written in Hebrew, Latin, and Greek. So the chief priests of the Jews said to Pilate, “Do not write ‘The King of the Jews,’ but that he said, ‘I am the King of the Jews’.”
Pilate answered, “What I have written, I have written.”

When the soldiers had crucified Jesus, they took his clothes and divided them into four shares, a share for each soldier. They also took his tunic, but the tunic was seamless, woven in one piece from the top down. So they said to one another, “Let’s not tear it, but cast lots for it to see whose it will be, “
in order that the passage of Scripture might be fulfilled that says: They divided my garments among them, and for my vesture they cast lots. This is what the soldiers did.
Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary of Magdala. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son.” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother.” And from that hour the disciple took her into his home.

After this, aware that everything was now finished, in order that the Scripture might be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I thirst.” There was a vessel filled with common wine. So they put a sponge soaked in wine on a sprig of hyssop and put it up to his mouth. When Jesus had taken the wine, he said, “It is finished.” And bowing his head, he handed over the spirit. 

Now since it was preparation day, in order that the bodies might not remain on the cross on the sabbath, for the sabbath day of that week was a solemn one, the Jews asked Pilate that their legs be broken and that they be taken down. So the soldiers came and broke the legs of the first and then of the other one who was crucified with Jesus. But when they came to Jesus and saw that he was already dead, they did not break his legs, but one soldier thrust his lance into his side, and immediately blood and water flowed out. An eyewitness has testified, and his testimony is true; he knows that he is speaking the truth, so that you also may come to believe. For this happened so that the Scripture passage might be fulfilled: Not a bone of it will be broken. And again another passage says: They will look upon him whom they have pierced.

After this, Joseph of Arimathea, secretly a disciple of Jesus for fear of the Jews, asked Pilate if he could remove the body of Jesus. And Pilate permitted it. So he came and took his body. Nicodemus, the one who had first come to him at night, also came bringing a mixture of myrrh and aloes weighing about one hundred pounds. They took the body of Jesus and bound it with burial cloths along with the spices, according to the Jewish burial custom. Now in the place where he had been crucified there was a garden, and in the garden a new tomb, in which no one had yet been buried. So they laid Jesus there because of the Jewish preparation day; for the tomb was close by.

The Gospel of the Lord.

 

Does it resemble?

We contemplate Jesus, the Spouse, and the way he loves. Saint John Paul II said that a marriage cannot be called Christian if it does not resemble Christ the Bridegroom who gives himself for his Bride, the Church, on the Cross. Therefore, I contemplate how much my way of loving resembles that of Christ.

 

Applied to married life:

Martha: I no longer believe in my marriage. Who believes it’s possible to live a communion between spouses as God intended?

Rob: Don’t say that. Do you think God would have made us spouses if marriage weren’t possible?

Martha: Despite my husband’s sin? Despite mine? You say that because you’re not in my situation and you don’t know what I’m going through. Do you know anyone who’s enduring what I’ve endured and still fighting for their marriage?

Rob: Yes. I know a marriage. One of the spouses was taken to court, suffered abuse, contempt, unjust judgments, crushed by pride, vanity, envy, and countless sins of their spouse…

Martha: Right, and now you’ll tell me they’re still together, won’t you?

Rob: Yes, with bonds stronger than death.

Martha: Oh, come on! Who is this person so I can praise him?

Rob: Christ. And He promises you by His Blood that if you follow Him, you will achieve what you seek in your marriage.

 

Mother,

The agony you endured in the Passion of Our Lord, which we live again in these days, must have been unbearable. But all your pain was also for our salvation. Thank you, Mother, thank you. Thank you, Lord, praised be You forever. No one has loved me as much as You have.

Just yesterday. Reflection for marriages. Luke, 4:16-21

Gospel
God´s Spirit is upon me; because he anointed me.
From the Gospel according to Luke, 4:16-21.

He came to Nazareth where he had been raised. As he always did on the Sabbath, he went to the Synagoge. When he stood up to read, he was handed the scroll of the prophet Isaiah. Unrolling the scroll he found the place where it was written: “God´s Spirit is upon me; because he anointed me to preach the Message of good news to the poor, sent me to announce release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set the burdened and battered free, to announce: This is God´s time to shine.”
He rolled up the scroll, handed i back to the assistant and sat down. The eyes of all in the synagoge were fixed on him. Then he said: “Today´s scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing”.
The Gospel of the Lord.
 

Just yesterday.

700 years later, the prophecy of Isaiah is fulfilled. It is God’s timing. And we, being impatient, seek conversion and strive for holiness only after 20 or 30 years. What are 700 years compared to eternity? They are just, yesterday. Therefore, let us allow God to be God and let His plan unfold in His time, without too many demands from our part.

Applied to Married Life:

Ali: Peter, I was feeling distressed because I didn’t see sufficient progress in our Marriage, and reading today’s Gospel, I realized I’m a bit impatient. I often pray in the Lord’s Prayer for His will to be done, but then I hurry things along. 

Peter: Well, it’s normal to yearn for union with Him and communion with me. I think it’s good that we desire it, and perhaps what’s not so good is when we complain or become desperate because the process isn’t faster. 

Ali: It’s clear that God has chosen the process to be slow. I’m sorry for blaming you for it to be slow. Will you forgive me? 

Peter: I forgive you. I ask for your forgiveness too because sometimes impatience gets the better of me. But I love you just the way you are. 

Ali: I forgive you.

Mother,

The Lord has given us plenty. We should not demand more than what we have received, as Adam and Eve did in Paradise. We ask the Lord for His will to be fulfill when His Majesty determines. Amen.

You are so good… Reflection for marriages. Matthew 26:14-25

Gospel

The Son of Man indeed goes, as it is written of him,
but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed.

From the Gospel according to Matthew. Mt 26:14-25

One of the Twelve, who was called Judas Iscariot, went to the chief priests and said, “What are you willing to give me if I hand him over to you?”
They paid him thirty pieces of silver, and from that time on he looked for an opportunity to hand him over.

On the first day of the Feast of Unleavened Bread, the disciples approached Jesus and said, “Where do you want us to prepare for you to eat the Passover?”
He said, “Go into the city to a certain man and tell him, ‘The teacher says, “My appointed time draws near; in your house I shall celebrate the Passover with my disciples.”‘“
The disciples then did as Jesus had ordered, and prepared the Passover.

When it was evening, he reclined at table with the Twelve. And while they were eating, he said, “Amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.” Deeply distressed at this, they began to say to him one after another,
“Surely it is not I, Lord?”
He said in reply, “He who has dipped his hand into the dish with me is the one who will betray me. The Son of Man indeed goes, as it is written of him,
but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed. It would be better for that man if he had never been born.”
Then Judas, his betrayer, said in reply, “Surely it is not I, Rabbi?” He answered, “You have said so.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

You are so good…

Thank you Lord, because today you wanted to share with me the pain of having someone so dear to you betray your trust. It was very special, because in that pain there was no pride. It was all pain for not being able to remain united with that beloved disciple, and a pain for him, for seeing how he sank into a darkness of death for his soul.
It was a sharp, deep, bitter and heartbreaking pain, it was like a lance in the heart.
Today you have made me see that this same pain is what I cause you every time I betray your trust. You who have given me so much and I who turn my back on you. Tremendous tearing of Your Heart. You are so good… you don’t deserve this pain. Poor my Lord.
Applied to Married life:

Marcelo: Today I was thinking about the enthusiasm with which the Lord gave himself to give us the precious gift of our Sacrament of Marriage. Then I remembered how many times we have despised it, and I experienced the pain we caused the Holy Trinity by seeing us trample upon something so great and rich in experiences of supernatural love.

Laura: The more aware we become of the wonder of the gift of Marriage, the more conscious we can be of the gift we have received. I hope that, as Saint John Paul II says, we feel effectively called by this gift we have received from Christ’s redemption.

Marcelo: Well, yes. This alone should give us enough strength to not hurt each other again and not betray our marital union. May Our Mother help us.

Laura: Yes. May She help us.

Mother,

When will we come to value in its true measure the Love we have received from Your son? When will we come to value our Marriage according to its authentic worth? This we ask of you in these days of Passion. It is the price He paid to give it to us. Praised be Him forever.

I promise to be faithful to you. Reflection for marriages. John 13:21-33, 36-38

Gospel

I say to you, one of you will betray me. The cock will not crow before you deny me three times.

From the Gospel according to John. Jn 13:21-33, 36-38

Reclining at table with his disciples, Jesus was deeply troubled and testified, “Amen, amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.”
The disciples looked at one another, at a loss as to whom he meant. One of his disciples, the one whom Jesus loved, was reclining at Jesus’ side. So Simon Peter nodded to him to find out whom he meant. He leaned back against Jesus’ chest and said to him, “Master, who is it?”
Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I hand the morsel after I have dipped it.” So he dipped the morsel and took it and handed it to Judas, son of Simon the Iscariot. After Judas took the morsel, Satan entered him.
So Jesus said to him, “What you are going to do, do quickly.” Now none of those reclining at table realized why he said this to him. Some thought that since Judas kept the money bag, Jesus had told him, “Buy what we need for the feast,” or to give something to the poor. So Judas took the morsel and left at once. And it was night.

When he had left, Jesus said, “Now is the Son of Man glorified, and God is glorified in him. If God is glorified in him, God will also glorify him in himself, and he will glorify him at once. My children, I will be with you only a little while longer. You will look for me, and as I told the Jews, ‘Where I go you cannot come,’ so now I say it to you.”

Simon Peter said to him, “Master, where are you going?”
Jesus answered him, “Where I am going, you cannot follow me now, though you will follow later.”
Peter said to him, “Master, why can I not follow you now? I will lay down my life for you.”
Jesus answered, “Will you lay down your life for me? Amen, amen, I say to you, the cock will not crow before you deny me three times.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

I promise to be faithful to you.

So many unfulfilled promises. So many shattered commitments… Starting with our marriage vow: “I promise to accept you as you are and give myself to you every day of my life!”  However, how many days have I not kept my promise… Knowing that I made it before the Lord, before the altar representing His daily commitment in our lives. He, indeed, does not fail. Based on that, how could I demand anything from my husband/wife? How can I demand anything from God?.

Applied to married life

Alfred: I believe there are more days when I haven’t fully devoted myself to you than days when I have. 

Lou: I feel the same. Sometimes I find myself more focused on what you give me than on what I give you. 

Alfred: Well, that’s an indication that we’re not allowing the Holy Spirit to work among us, and that’s why we’re not faithful to the Sacrament. We need to pray more and be more humble. Shall we help each other? 

Lou: Sure! I shall be grateful “forever.”

Mother,

Help us to be faithful to our marriage promise. We made it to God. We cannot let Him down. He never fails. Praise be to Him forever.

How could you? Reflection for Marriages. Saint Mark 15:1-39

GOSPEL
The Passion of our Lord Jesus Christ according to Saint Mark 15:1-39:

1. As soon as it was morning, the chief priests held a consultation with the elders and scribes, and the whole council. They bound Jesus, led him away, and handed him over to Pilate.
2. Pilate asked him, “Are you the King of the Jews?” He answered him, “You say so.”
3. Then the chief priests accused him of many things.
4. Pilate asked him again, “Have you no answer? See how many charges they bring against you.”
5. But Jesus made no further reply, so that Pilate was amazed.
6. Now at the festival he used to release a prisoner for them, anyone for whom they asked.
7. Now a man called Barabbas was in prison with the rebels who had committed murder during the insurrection.
8. So the crowd came and began to ask Pilate to do for them according to his custom.
9. Then he answered them, “Do you want me to release for you the King of the Jews?”
10. For he realized that it was out of jealousy that the chief priests had handed him over.
11. But the chief priests stirred up the crowd to have him release Barabbas for them instead.
12. Pilate spoke to them again, “Then what do you wish me to do with the man you call the King of the Jews?”
13. They shouted back, “Crucify him!”
14. Pilate asked them, “Why, what evil has he done?” But they shouted all the more, “Crucify him!”
15. So Pilate, wishing to satisfy the crowd, released Barabbas for them; and after flogging Jesus, he handed him over to be crucified.
16. Then the soldiers led him into the courtyard of the palace (that is, the governor’s headquarters); and they called together the whole cohort.
17. And they clothed him in a purple cloak; and after twisting some thorns into a crown, they put it on him.
18. And they began saluting him, “Hail, King of the Jews!”
19. They struck his head with a reed, spat upon him, and knelt down in homage to him.
20. After mocking him, they stripped him of the purple cloak and put his own clothes on him. Then they led him out to crucify him.
21. They compelled a passer-by, who was coming in from the country, to carry his cross; it was Simon of Cyrene, the father of Alexander and Rufus.
22. Then they brought Jesus to the place called Golgotha (which means the place of a skull).
23. And they offered him wine mixed with myrrh; but he did not take it.
24. And they crucified him, and divided his clothes among them, casting lots to decide what each should take.
25. It was nine o’clock in the morning when they crucified him.
26. The inscription of the charge against him read, “The King of the Jews.”
27. And with him they crucified two bandits, one on his right and one on his left.
28. Those who passed by derided him, shaking their heads and saying, “Aha! You who would destroy the temple and build it in three days,
29. save yourself, and come down from the cross!”
30. In the same way the chief priests, along with the scribes, were also mocking him among themselves and saying, “He saved others; he cannot save himself.
31. Let the Messiah, the King of Israel, come down from the cross now, so that we may see and believe.” Those who were crucified with him also taunted him.
32. When it was noon, darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon.
33. At three o’clock Jesus cried out with a loud voice, “Eloi, Eloi, lema sabachthani?” which means, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
34. When some of the bystanders heard it, they said, “Listen, he is calling for Elijah.”
35. And someone ran, filled a sponge with sour wine, put it on a stick, and gave it to him to drink, saying, “Wait, let us see whether Elijah will come to take him down.”
36. Then Jesus gave a loud cry and breathed his last.
37. And the curtain of the temple was torn in two, from top to bottom.
38. Now when the centurion, who stood facing him, saw that in this way he breathed his last, he said, “Truly this man was God’s Son!”
39. When all the people who had gathered there for this spectacle saw what had taken place, they returned home, beating their breasts.

The Word of the Lord.

How could you?

I contemplate Jesus carrying all my sins upon himself in Gethsemane. I’ve conducted a general examination of conscience, recalling them and imagining having to carry them all at once. It seemed like an unbearable burden. Now I imagine adding to that burden all the sins I will commit in the future, and now I add those of my family, friends, acquaintances, compatriots, all my contemporaries in the world, and I add all my ancestors and those who will come… Then I wonder, “Lord, how could you bear such a barbarity?” I understand that the Father sent an angel to sustain you.

Thank you, thank you, Lord. Blessed be you forever.

Applied to married life:

Miguel: Rocío, I don’t want Jesus to bear my future sins. It’s over. I’m going to fight tooth and nail to spare him from them.

Rocío: Oh, Miguel. Who would have thought? You can see how much you love the Lord. And it brings me so much joy. I’m sure you also greatly relieve him with your affection.

Mother,

We love Jesus. We want to continue accompanying him these days. May he continue to be our center of attention. We love him, Mother. We contemplate him with tremendous admiration and praise.