From the Gospel according to John

Jn 14:6-14

Jesus said to Thomas, “I am the way and the truth and the life.

No one comes to the Father except through me.

If you know me, then you will also know my Father.

From now on you do know him and have seen him.”

Philip said to him,

“Master, show us the Father, and that will be enough for us.”

Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you for so long a time

and you still do not know me, Philip?

Whoever has seen me has seen the Father.

How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’?

Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me?

The words that I speak to you I do not speak on my own.

The Father who dwells in me is doing his works.

Believe me that I am in the Father and the Father is in me,

or else, believe because of the works themselves.

Amen, amen, I say to you,

whoever believes in me will do the works that I do,

and will do greater ones than these,

because I am going to the Father.

And whatever you ask in my name, I will do,

so that the Father may be glorified in the Son.

If you ask anything of me in my name, I will do it.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

The Compass.

Lord, give us the opportunity to know the way of being in each other, of representing each other, of speaking through each other’s mouths, acting through each other. Give us the opportunity to believe in You so that we can act like You, I ask it in Your name, and I know You will do it. What is clear is that You are the way because You show us the path of love through your own life, the truth because we have already found that if we do what You say our relationship will work and happiness and life will come because You gave it to us, You redeemed us, You lift us up all the time and make our relationship new all the time as well. Thank you, Lord

Applied to married life:

We were quite lost in matters of love. Then a Marriage Mentor gave us the “compass” of the Gospel to show us the path of love. Every time we got lost and things started going wrong, we aligned the small needle with the word that caused distance and harm, and then we followed the long arrow pointing in the opposite direction, showing us the right path. Let us tell you what that compass was like:

There were 7 words:

• When the argument heats up and I even offend you because I don’t want to back down, or when I don’t want to accept your improvements: Pride
• When I get angry with you over money issues: Greed
• When I look at you with desire: Lust
• When my anger overpowers me and I hurt you: Anger
• When my world is one of indulgence and I feel bad if you haven’t made me enjoy as I expected: Gluttony
• When I don’t rejoice in your successes or possessions, but would prefer them for myself: Envy
• When I prefer my comfort over yours: Sloth.

On the opposite side of each of those sins, forming a larger concentric circle, are the 7 virtues that Christ teaches us:

• Understanding that I am dust and have received everything from God and am merely a steward of His goods: Humility
• Understanding that there is more happiness in giving than in receiving: Generosity
• Discovering the greatness and sacredness of the surrender of our bodies: Chastity
• Accepting setbacks and unforeseen events as the will of God: Patience
• Enjoying and glorifying God for the good, but without abuses that weaken our soul and enslave us: Temperance
• Making you happy is what makes me happiest: Charity
• Life on the sofa suffocates, exhausts, the life that is given away, now that is life!: Diligence

The Gospel compass is what led us to discover love between us.

Mother,

We give thanks for the gift of Jesus Christ. God’s generosity is impressive. Through Christ, with Him, and in Him, to you Almighty God, Father, all honour and all glory forever and ever. Amen.

From the Gospel according to John

Jn 15:9-11

Jesus said to his disciples:

“As the Father loves me, so I also love you.

Remain in my love.

If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love,

just as I have kept my Father’s commandments

and remain in his love.

“I have told you this so that

my joy might be in you and

your joy might be complete.”

The Gospel of the Lord

Long live the newlyweds!

Seeking enjoyment is selfish because I use people and material things from this world to amuse myself. On the other hand, joy is not from this world; it comes from God. “My spirit rejoices in God,” said Our Mother at when visiting Elizabeth.

How about experiencing the joy of the Lord in me? Such a great experience makes my joy complete.

Applied to married life:

Hermi: Our wedding yesterday was so beautiful, wasn’t it, Paco?

Paco: Absolutely gorgeous, Hermi. Very anointed by the Lord who has blessed us with so much joy. Now we have to keep it…

Hermi: Yes, indeed. It’s a matter of staying close to the Lord.

Paco: How? By going to Adoration every day?

Hermi: That would be wonderful, but for now, what we need to do is follow His commandments. Actually, just two: to love God above all things (and that’s something we need to see how it translates into our daily lives) and love each other as He loves us.

Paco: Okay. So let’s be clear that if there’s no joy between us, it’s not because of our work problems, or our finances, or our children, not even because of our families. If there’s no joy between us, it’s because I’m not following the commandments.

Hermi: Certainly, with such wonderful parents, that won’t be a problem. But it’s clear that our own happiness depends on us. The Lord promised yesterday to give it to us.

Mother,

May the joy of the Lord be within us. Praised be forever.

From the Gospel according to John

Jn 15:1-8

Jesus said to his disciples:

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vine grower.

He takes away every branch in me that does not bear fruit,

and everyone that does he prunes so that it bears more fruit.

You are already pruned because of the word that I spoke to you.

Remain in me, as I remain in you.

Just as a branch cannot bear fruit on its own

unless it remains on the vine,

so neither can you unless you remain in me.

I am the vine, you are the branches.

Whoever remains in me and I in him will bear much fruit,

because without me you can do nothing.

Anyone who does not remain in me

will be thrown out like a branch and wither;

people will gather them and throw them into a fire

and they will be burned.

If you remain in me and my words remain in you,

ask for whatever you want and it will be done for you.

By this is my Father glorified,

that you bear much fruit and become my disciples.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

Samurai plants.

This whole pruning thing does not seem very appealing to us. We’re trying to avoid it. I imagine plants during the pruning season dodging the pruning shears like in The Matrix, trying to avoid the cut. The Holy Spirit wants to prune me using the circumstances of everyday life, with the differences with my husband that make me uncomfortable, or with his sins, or with mine. All of this takes me out of my comfort zone. It makes my heart more elastic, open to others, simple and tender. I resist, and I complain. But then I ask for humility, I ask for gentleness, I ask for love in my life… But if you haven’t let yourself be pruned? In spring the gardener would say to the “samurai” plant that it will not bloom as a consequence of not being pruned.

If I want the fruits of love, I have to let myself be pruned. It will initially hurt, but then the joy comes.

Applied to married life:

Antonio: Lord, I’m grateful that I fixed the kitchen chair despite my wife didn’t thank me. I have the opportunity to give without receiving anything in return. Thank you because I try to leave everything as she likes, the window open, the slippers in their place… but last night I forgot to take out the rubbish, and that bothered her. Thank you, Lord, because I have discovered my limited love and it helps me not to demand perfection from her. At dinner, she brought up again  that occasion when I hurt her when we were newlyweds, and she blamed me for it as if I had done it today. Thank you, Lord, because you helped me look at her with mercy and see her wounded heart instead of reacting defensively.

Marta: Lord, I agreed to meet him at 5pm, and he arrived late without letting me know. Thank you because I had the opportunity to love him in that situation, it helped me grow in patience and not to focus on myself despite feeling undervalued. And when he got stressed because of the traffic that bothers him so much, I asked for your help not to react badly, You helped me and I managed to calm him down with kindness. Thank you, Lord, because You helped me to not think of myself and to enter his heart and heal it.

Both together: Thank you, Lord, because in your plan you have considered our weaknesses and everything that happens in our lives. With all this, You build.

Mother,

The Lord prunes those who love Him the most. Sometimes we get tired, and sometimes it seems like the pruning never ends, and we never see the results. But the Lord knows better. We trust in Him. Thank you for those little flowers that we see sprouting from our branches, because they fill us with hope. Praise be to the Lord who makes all things new.

From the Gospel according to John

Jn 14:27-31a

Jesus said to his disciples:

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you.

Not as the world gives do I give it to you.

Do not let your hearts be troubled or afraid.

You heard me tell you,

‘I am going away and I will come back to you.’

If you love me,

you would rejoice that I am going to the Father;

for the Father is greater than I.

And now I have told you this before it happens,

so that when it happens you may believe.

I will no longer speak much with you,

for the ruler of the world is coming.

He has no power over me,

but the world must know that I love the Father

and that I do just as the Father has commanded me.”

The Gospel of the Lord

Striving to love you more.

Jesus goes to the Father because He loves Him and because He does His will. We also love Him, and that’s why we do the Lord’s will and want to be with Him. It seems that loving someone has a lot to do with wanting to be together and doing the will of our beloved. Is it the same with our spouse?

Applied to married life:

Martha: You want me to be with you, but only so I can do what you want.

Mark: And you keep telling me you love me, but it seems like you don’t want to be with me. I bet  you enjoy being with the Lord??

Martha: Yes, because the Lord loves me and doesn’t hurt me like you do.

(That evening, Martha and Mark pray together the Gospel in front of the Lord)

Mark: Jesus, I see Your relationship with the Father, and it’s true that you show how much you love Him by doing His will. Help me to connect again with my wife’s will, for love.

Martha: Jesus, I see that You want to be with the Father because you love Him. Help me not to love my husband only when he does what I like and how I like it. I would like to love him more for what he is and also because I love You.

Mark: I’m sorry, Martha. I’ll try to do my best.

Martha: I forgive you, my love. Please forgive me as well, Mark. I’ll try to love you more.

Mark: I forgive you.

Mother,

How happy you must be in heaven, forever re-united with Your Father, Your Son, and Your Husband. Knowing that our fate is to be together with You, strongly encourages us to keep trying hard. Praise be to the Lord who wants us with Him and to the Father whose will is for us to be with You, Lord 

From the Gospel according to John
Jn 14:21-26

Jesus said to his disciples:
“Whoever has my commandments and observes them
is the one who loves me.
Whoever loves me will be loved by my Father,
and I will love him and reveal myself to him.”
Judas, not the Iscariot, said to him,
“Master, then what happened that you will reveal yourself to us
and not to the world?”
Jesus answered and said to him,
“Whoever loves me will keep my word,
and my Father will love him,
and we will come to him and make our dwelling with him.
Whoever does not love me does not keep my words; yet the word you hear is not mine but that of the Father who sent me. “I have told you this while I am with you. The Advocate, the Holy Spirit whom the Father will send in my name — he will teach you everything and remind you of all that I told you.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

Gentle or bitter?

Suffering is tough, but suffering without love or suffering while hating is much harder than suffering while loving. Striving to live out a marriage as God intended is difficult, but not living the marriage as God intended is like Chinese torture. Two proud spouses inflict much more harm on each other than they could by humbling themselves for love. Two spouses who try to dominate each other cause more harm. It’s nothing like the pain of self-control that gentleness requires. I decide whether I want to wear the face of bitterness or the peaceful face that gentleness brings. Spouses who live out marriage as God intended truly come to love each other because that sacrifice of mutual surrender, that self-mastery, bears the fruits of love, peace, joy, all obviously by the grace of God.

Applied to married life:

Mary: There are still times when we fall into misunderstandings, argue, and offend each other.

Peter: Yes, because even though we know that the way is that of humility, of putting myself last, of serving and not being served, etc., it’s hard to apply it to our lives.

Mary: What I’ve realised during this time is that those distances that affect us are getting shorter. They leave less residue in us each time, the wound is less deep. It’s like the Lord rebuilds it, heals it, and leaves no trace in us.

Peter: It is the Holy Spirit, who is within us. He intervenes, rebuilds us from within, redeems us, heals us. I have experienced it. I know He is in us. He is very powerful, very great, and leads us back to the path of love. By the way, what has the Holy Spirit poured into you that drives me crazy? I’m just in love with  you.

Mary: He has poured a little bit of God’s mercy into me.

Peter: How beautiful is God’s mercy.

Mary: And what has He poured into you that drives me crazy for you?

Peter: He has poured a little bit of God’s Will into me.

Mary: How beautiful is God’s Will.

Mother,

How beautiful is God’s way when we allow ourselves to be led by the Holy Spirit. He shows us God’s secrets, comforts us, advises us… The more we know Him, the more we like Him. Praise be to Christ for sending us His Spirit. Glory be to God