Monthly Archives: January 2025

The Most Powerful Gifts. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 4:12-17, 23-25

Gospel

‘The kingdom of heaven is at hand.’
Reading from the Holy Gospel according to Matthew 
Mt 4:12-17, 23-25

At that time: When Jesus heard that John had been arrested, he withdrew into Galilee. And leaving Nazareth he went and lived in Capernaum by the sea, in the territory of Zebulun and Naphtali, so that what was spoken by the prophet Isaiah might be fulfilled: ‘The land of Zebulun and the land of Naphtali, the way of the sea, beyond the Jordan, Galilee of the Gentiles — the people dwelling in darkness have seen a great light, and for those dwelling in the region and shadow of death, on them a light has dawned.’ From that time Jesus began to preach, saying, ‘Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.’
  And he went throughout all Galilee, teaching in their synagogues and proclaiming the gospel of the kingdom and healing every disease and every affliction among the people. So his fame spread throughout all Syria, and they brought him all the sick, those afflicted with various diseases and pains, those oppressed by demons, those having seizures, and paralytics, and he healed them. And great crowds followed him from Galilee and the Decapolis, and from Jerusalem and Judea, and from beyond the Jordan.

The Gospel of the Lord

The Most Powerful Gifts

“The kingdom of heaven is near,” Jesus said. And the kingdom of heaven has already come. What does this mean for you and me? It means that while we had a fallen nature, the Lord has raised it so we can partake in the Divine nature.
We often rely on the gifts inherent to our fallen nature: intelligence, free will, determination—powers that today are often exalted far beyond their true worth. Whether acknowledged or not, these are gifts from God. But above these are the preternatural gifts. These are superior to the gifts of fallen human nature but were present in humanity before the Fall and are still found in other creatures of God. For example, the gift of immortality, which angels possess. Alongside this are gifts like knowledge, integrity, and immunity.
Even higher are the supernatural gifts—gifts that surpass the nature of all creatures and are unique to the Divine nature. These include grace and glory.
Through Christ’s death and resurrection, we are made partakers of the Divine nature (by adoption), allowing us to share in these supernatural gifts, namely His grace and glory. Shouldn’t we place more trust in these gifts than in the natural ones so highly valued today?
Spouses, the kingdom of heaven is already here. Let us enjoy it.

Applied to Married Life:

Charles: Darling, a new year is beginning, and I propose a change in our relationship. So far, we’ve tried to heal our wounds and overcome our differences by relying on dialogue, trying to convince each other that one of us is right. But it hasn’t worked. We’ve tried various techniques, therapies, and approaches, and at best, we’ve managed to tolerate each other or carve out separate zones of tranquillity—though not true peace—where we leave each other alone without interfering too much.
Alice: Yes, Charles. Let’s say we’ve reached a kind of strained understanding that works only in phases. But this isn’t what I hoped for in our marriage. It falls far short of my expectations.
Charles: Exactly. I feel the same. We’ve aimed to become one, to be truly united, but we haven’t achieved that. So, I propose we work with a different set of gifts—supernatural gifts that God has given us, the very gifts for which He came into the world: to make communion between us possible. I’m talking about the grace of God. Let’s rely on Him, the sacraments, prayer, and the grace of our sacrament in our mutual self-giving. Love is by far the strongest force in the universe, with infinite power, and we must draw on it. Don’t you agree?
Alice: I think that’s brilliant. It’s the best plan for this year, and it fills me with hope.

Mother,

Full of Grace, you truly trusted in the most precious gifts. You knew how to make the most of God’s greatest gift through your Son. Praise be to the Lord, who has brought us supernatural gifts to lead us to glory. Amen.

But a lot!. Reflection for marriages John 1:1-18

Gospel of the Day

Reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint John 1:1-18 

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.  
He was in the beginning with God.  
All things were made through him, and without him nothing was made that was made.  
In him was life, and the life was the light of men.  
And the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not receive it.  
There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. This man came as a witness, to bear witness of the light, that all through him might believe.  
He was not that light, but was sent to bear witness of that Light.  
That was the true Light which gives light to every man coming into the world.  
He was in the world, and the world was made through him, and the world did not know him.  
He came to his own, and his own did not receive him.  
But as many as received him, to them he gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in his name:  
who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.  
And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth.  
John bore witness of him and cried out, saying, “This was he of whom I said, ‘He who comes after me is preferred before me, for he was before me.'”  
And of his fullness we have all received, and grace for grace.  
For the law was given through Moses, but grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.  
No one has seen God at any time. The only begotten Son, who is in the bosom of the Father, He has declared Him.

But a lot!

There may be situations that make me uncomfortable in life, and I might complain about them, but that is completely unjust. Here and now, I am going to realize what it means for Jesus to be with the Father in heaven for all eternity and suddenly leave heaven to come into the world to live a life among creatures, or should I say worms, sinners (which is what we are without Him). Can one love more? Can anyone love someone more?  
I can imagine the brutal leap it must entail to move from our life to the life of heaven, as I cannot even begin to imagine what that leap must mean but in reverse. We must love a great deal, but a great deal, a lot. But a lot, to give it.

Applying to Married Life:

Carmen: Today I confessed about the number of times I am unjust to God every day.  
Jaime: Unjust? Why?  
Carmen: For every time I have complained. It is unjust for me to complain when the Lord loves me so much, and He does not complain about what He has had to do for me.  
Jaime: You are right. The least we can do is to suffer for our own sins. I think we should be in constant gratitude and praise to Him.  
Carmen: That’s it. That’s what I had to confess.  
Jaime: I will keep that in mind for my next confession.

Mother,

Let your spirit rejoice in God. May we do the same. Blessed be the Lord who loves us so, so much.

It depends on the answer. Reflection for marriages John 1:35-42

Gospel of the Day

Reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint John 1:35-42 
At that time, John was standing with two of his disciples, and as he watched Jesus walk by, he said, “Behold, the Lamb of God!”
The two disciples heard him say this and they followed Jesus. Jesus turned and saw them following, and he said to them, “What are you looking for?”
They said to him, “Rabbi (which means Teacher), where are you staying?”
He said to them, “Come and see.”  
They came and saw where he was staying and they stayed with him that day; it was about the tenth hour.  
One of the two who heard John speak and followed Jesus was Andrew, the brother of Simon Peter. He first found his brother Simon and said to him, “We have found the Messiah (which is translated: Christ).”  
He brought him to Jesus. Jesus looked at him and said, “You are Simon, son of John; you will be called Cephas (which is translated: Peter).”

It depends on the answer.
Before telling them to follow him, Jesus asked them, “What are you looking for?” This is an interesting question because the answer determined whether he would say, “Come and see” or not. It is a good moment to ask myself, “What do I seek in my relationship with the Lord?” It is important to discover if the answer comes from love or not, whether what matters to me is Him or if what matters to me is something for myself.

Applying to Married Life:
Montse: Would you marry me again?
Luis: Of course! But right now, I would marry you for different reasons.
Montse: What were those reasons back then?
Luis: I hoped to have a happy life with you.
Montse: That’s not bad, right? And now, what would motivate you to marry me?
Luis: Now, to help you reach holiness.
Montse: Well, I like that answer much more.

Mother, 
May love always be what moves us. Blessed be our beloved Lord.

Have you come out against Me? Reflection for marriages John 1:29-34

Gospel of the Day

A reading from the Holy Gospel according to John 1:29-34:
The next day, John the Baptist saw Jesus coming towards him and said, “Look, there is the Lamb of God that takes away the sin of the world! This is the one of whom I said, ‘A man is coming after me who has passed ahead of me because he existed before me.’ I did not know him myself, but I came baptizing with water so that he might be revealed to Israel.” John gave this testimony, “I saw the Spirit come down on him like a dove from heaven and rest on him. I did not know him myself, but he who sent me to baptize with water had said to me, ‘The man on whom you see the Spirit come down and rest is the one who is going to baptize with the Holy Spirit.’ Yes, I have seen and I testify that he is the Son of God.”

Have you come out against Me?
Jesus is the Lamb of God who removes the sins of my husband. He is the one who sacrifices Himself so that my husband can stand before God without blemish or wrinkle. How much do I owe you, Lord, for doing this for my husband, Lord? 
What is clear is that He will not allow me to go behind Him judging and accusing my husband when He gives His life to save him from his sins. And against the Lord, I cannot, I must not, and I do not want to go. I want to go with Him and in Him for the salvation of my husband whom I love.

Grounded in Married Life:
Lucas: Today the Lord reproached me in prayer. He said: “Why have you come out as against a thief with swords and clubs to apprehend me?” I answered, “Me, Lord? I would never go against you.”  
Teresa: And what did He say to you?  
Lucas: He told me that every time I accuse you in my heart, I am going against Him and His interests, because it is His interest to offer Himself for you to save you and not condemn you.  
Teresa: I am grateful to God for being my Savior and for allowing me to rise each time I fall. I am not worthy that He should enter into my house.

Mother,
We both unite in Your saving mission. Praised be the Lamb of God.

Where we do not see. Reflection for marriages John 1:19-28

Gospel of the Day

Reading from the Holy Gospel according to John 1:19-28
This is the testimony of John.
When the Jews from Jerusalem sent priests and Levites to him
to ask him, “Who are you?”
he admitted and did not deny it, but admitted,
“I am not the Christ.”
So they asked him,
“What are you then? Are you Elijah?”
And he said, “I am not.”
“Are you the Prophet?”
He answered, “No.”
So they said to him,
“Who are you, so we can give an answer to those who sent us?
What do you have to say for yourself?”
He said:
“I am the voice of one crying out in the desert,
‘Make straight the way of the Lord,’
as Isaiah the prophet said.”
Some Pharisees were also sent.
They asked him,
“Why then do you baptize
if you are not the Christ or Elijah or the Prophet?”
John answered them,
“I baptize with water;
but there is one among you whom you do not recognize,
the one who is coming after me,
whose sandal strap I am not worthy to untie.”
This happened in Bethany across the Jordan,
where John was baptizing.

Where we do not see.
A new year is beginning, and it is time to cross to the other shore, a moment of change, like those announced by John the Baptist. We embark on these changes in which God always wants us to advance towards Him, with hope. We go with the docility to the Holy Spirit that sometimes requires us to respond in places where we do not see. Let us all journey together towards the Lord this year on this new path that opens before us in 2025, with more strength and enthusiasm than ever, wherever the Holy Spirit may lead us.

Grounded in Married Life:
Pablo: Vanesa, I bought salmon for dinner tonight, knowing that you like it.  
Vanesa: (Very surprised) Salmon, Pablo? I can’t believe it! It has never been to my taste. The one who likes salmon is you, not me.  
(That evening in prayer)  
Pablo: Lord, forgive me because I felt hurt by Vanesa’s response when I specifically bought salmon for her. I don’t understand anything, because I did it with love, and because other years I’ve seen her enjoy salmon butter toasts.  
Vanesa: Lord, forgive me because I did not understand how little Pablo knows me if he doesn’t even know what I like. I failed to use this moment of misunderstanding to love him more instead of criticising him in my heart.  
Pablo: Holy Spirit, thank you for placing this moment of confusion in front of me so that I realise what prevents me from loving, which is looking at myself. I hope to better seize the next moment of bewilderment you put before me.

Mother,
Blessed be the Holy Spirit who leads us where we need to go.