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Who Wants Anything Else? Reflection for Married Couples. Matthew 13, 18-23

GOSPEL

The man who hears the word and understands it yields a rich harvest
A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew 
Mt 13:18-23
Jesus said to his disciples: ‘You are to hear the parable of the sower. When anyone hears the word of the kingdom without understanding, the evil one comes and carries off what was sown in his heart: this is the man who received the seed on the edge of the path. The one who received it on patches of rock is the man who hears the word and welcomes it at once with joy. But he has no root in him, he does not last; let some trial come, or some persecution on account of the word, and he falls away at once. The one who received the seed in thorns is the man who hears the word, but the worries of this world and the lure of riches choke the word and so he produces nothing. And the one who received the seed in rich soil is the man who hears the word and understands it; he is the one who yields a harvest and produces now a hundredfold, now sixty, now thirty.’
The Gospel of the Lord
Who Wants Anything Else?

Although it may be harsh, not everyone understands the Word of the Lord and thus misses out on the kingdom of God here on earth. If they truly understood it, they would not want anything else. Who wants anything else when they discover and know the love of God? It is our mission to bring the Word closer to everyone’s understanding, in a very visual way, grounded in married life, adapted to the maturity of their spiritual ears, and to repeat it and demonstrate it through the testimony of our lives. We must do everything possible to help them understand.

There will, of course, be those who do not want to listen, or who lack patience, or who do not wish to persevere. But despite this, what we sow in the name of the Lord will yield a hundredfold, sixtyfold, or thirtyfold, for the greater glory of God.

Applied to Married Life:

Peter: My problem was that, although the Word of God told me that my wife is the suitable helper He created for me, I thought that must mean something else because I did not see any help in her. All I saw were her flaws. Later, I discovered that the problem was with my perception, and that she was truly a gift from God for me.

Beatrix: I was told that my husband is a precious gift from God to me, and that even the bad in him could be a path for growth as a person and as a couple. I was amazed when they explained this to me, and it seemed wonderful. But then I went back to my daily life and forgot everything. I treated him with disdain for not accepting his faults. I saw him as the bad one. Until one day, I decided I would no longer look at him that way and would try to discover the gift of God in him. By God’s grace, little by little, my heart was purified and my perception changed. We have learned and grown so much together since then.

Peter: Additionally, I was very focused on my business and football. Conversations with my wife seemed like “women’s talk” and I did not pay much attention. Until I realised that she and my relationship with her are the most important things in my life. It is my path to holiness. It is the legacy we will leave to our children. This changed my priorities, and now my marriage comes first, and everything else follows. If she is not well attended to, I do not attend to anything else.

Beatrix: This is how we both began to understand the greatness of our vocation. We discovered how well God had done all things, and we started to learn from each other, to unite against problems, to delve into each other’s hearts. Thus, we began to build a shared intimacy, united with God. We are still discovering the beauty and mysteries of this wonderful sacrament that God has entrusted to us.

Mother,

In His Word, the Lord gives us the keys to life, holiness, and happiness. Our problem is that we do not want to embrace it. Give us a heart like Yours, which always embraces the Word, meditating on it in the heart, from where both good and bad emerge. Thank you, Lord, for sharing your eternal Wisdom with us. Amen.

Spiritual Avalanche. Reflection for Marriages. Matthew 20, 20-28

GOSPEL
‘Can you drink the cup that I am going to drink?’

A reading of the Holy Gospel according to Matthew 

Mt 20:20-28

The mother of the sons of Zebedee came to Jesus with her sons to make a request of him, and bowed low; and he said to her, ‘What is it you want?’ She said to him, ‘Promise that these two sons of mine may sit one at your right hand and the other at your left in your kingdom.’ ‘You do not know what you are asking’ Jesus answered. ‘Can you drink the cup that I am going to drink?’ They replied, ‘We can.’ ‘Very well,’ he said ‘you shall drink my cup, but as for seats at my right hand and my left, these are not mine to grant; they belong to those to whom they have been allotted by my Father.’
  When the other ten heard this they were indignant with the two brothers. But Jesus called them to him and said, ‘You know that among the pagans the rulers lord it over them, and their great men make their authority felt. This is not to happen among you. No; anyone who wants to be great among you must be your servant, and anyone who wants to be first among you must be your slave, just as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Spiritual Avalanche

When listening to this Gospel, the first temptation might be: How selfish! One wants to sit on the right and the other on the left of the Lord. But isn’t it natural to want to be close to the Lord? Thankfully, God has provided us with a way to be close to Him in heaven. That way is through humility. If you are willing to humble yourself, simply embrace humiliations with joy, for they bring you closer to His path on earth and to His destination in heaven.
And to be together with the Lord, embrace this path together. Are you willing to drink from His Cup?

Applied to Married Life:

Myriam: Today in prayer, I found a way to get much closer to the Lord very quickly.
Jamie: Oh! That’s great! You’re going to be like Thérèse of Lisieux.
Myriam: Oh, you silly, don’t tease me.
Jamie: No, I’m serious.
Myriam: Sure, sure… Since it’s the humiliations that bring us closer to Him, I thought of recalling all those I’ve received and offering them up, thanking Him for allowing me to endure them for His greater glory.
Jamie: That sounds good. I’m sure I’m responsible for quite a few of those…
Myriam: Yes, but you benefit because once I offer them to the Lord, I can’t recall or mention them again, because they are His now, and no longer mine.
Jamie: Great! A clean slate… Freed from all my dark past, how cool!
Myriam: You’re in a cheeky mood today, aren’t you?
Jamie: Instead of a spiritual path, you’re on a spiritual avalanche.
Myriam: Haha. It seems there’s no way you’re taking me seriously today.
Jamie: Haha. No, seriously now, I think your “spiritual avalanche” is amazing. Can I join you and we offer it together? Today’s special: 2 for 1.

Mother,

You are a testament to someone who became a Servant and is now beside the Lord. Lead us close to you, Mother, through the path of humility. Amen.

Marriage Counsellor. Reflection for Marriages. Matthew 13, 1-9

GOSPEL

A sower went out to sow
A reading of the Gospel according to Matthew
Mt 13:1-9
Jesus left the house and sat by the lakeside, but such large crowds gathered round him that he got into a boat and sat there. The people all stood on the beach, and he told them many things in parables.
  He said, ‘Imagine a sower going out to sow. As he sowed, some seeds fell on the edge of the path, and the birds came and ate them up. Others fell on patches of rock where they found little soil and sprang up straight away, because there was no depth of earth; but as soon as the sun came up they were scorched and, not having any roots, they withered away. Others fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Others fell on rich soil and produced their crop, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. Listen, anyone who has ears!’
The Gospel of the Lord

Marriage Counsellor

Today in prayer, the Spirit did not lead us through the usual discernment about how we are receiving the Word. Instead, the Spirit placed us on the shore, among the crowd, gazing at Jesus. Yes, it is Him. The one who loves us enough to give His life, whom we love madly. And there He is, in front of us, speaking to us. Every time He looks at us, we know there is no criticism in His gaze, only Love in His Heart.
We just have to listen and learn because He is the truth. There is no need for critical listening on our part. He is God, He does not need to reference other authors, nothing He says is debatable. We relax and simply listen to Him, our hearts gripped with the wonder of seeing and hearing Him.
It is Him! He is the beloved.

Applied to Married Life:

Maddie: It is Him, I feel His presence among us. It’s so powerful!
David: And to think that others look for their marriage counsellor in books. It’s because they haven’t discovered that the true marriage counsellor is Christ.
Maddie: No one else can teach us to be spouses like He is the Spouse. Through the path of humility, gentleness, mercy, the common priesthood…
David: Every time we listen to His Word and act like Him, our marriage grows because His Love grows in us, and every time we don’t listen, we falter.
Maddie: Glory to the Lord who is within us.
David: Glory to Him.

Mother,

How much we love Your Son. Today we were overwhelmed contemplating Him teaching from the boat. What a precious Son you have!

The Second Conversion. Reflection for marriages. John 15, 1-8

GOSPEL

A reading from the holy Gospel according to John 

Jn 15:1-8
I am the vine, you are the branches
Jesus said to his disciples:
‘I am the true vine,
and my Father is the vinedresser.
Every branch in me that bears no fruit
he cuts away,
and every branch that does bear fruit
he prunes to make it bear even more.
You are pruned already,
by means of the word that I have spoken to you.
Make your home in me, as I make mine in you.
As a branch cannot bear fruit all by itself,
but must remain part of the vine,
neither can you unless you remain in me.
I am the vine,
you are the branches.
Whoever remains in me, with me in him,
bears fruit in plenty;
for cut off from me you can do nothing.
Anyone who does not remain in me
is like a branch that has been thrown away – he withers;
these branches are collected and thrown on the fire,
and they are burnt.
If you remain in me
and my words remain in you,
you may ask what you will
and you shall get it.
It is to the glory of my Father that you should bear much fruit,
and then you will be my disciples.’

The Gospel of the Lord

The Second Conversion

In the spiritual journey, just as in the process of marital communion, there is a first conversion, and then a second is necessary.
In the first conversion, we discover God, His plan, His Providence, His logic… We are in awe and begin to follow Him, and He starts to bring order to our lives. However, a moment arrives when we reach a certain harmony and seem to stagnate. This is the time of testing. God tests us by allowing temptations and apparent setbacks. It is the moment to recognise all this as part of God’s plan and to remain steadfast in Him, committed to His plan, until He decides to lead us out of it and take us onwards. It is then that we truly begin to soar.

Applied to Married Life:

George: This morning, I missed another opportunity that the Lord provided for me to advance towards Him and towards communion with you.

Lucy: This morning, I was demanding and snappy with you, I apologise.

George: I forgive you, but the issue is that God places these situations before me to help me grow in humility, to make me gentler, and to prepare me to be guided by Him. Yet, I still struggle to let myself be pruned. Please forgive me too, my dear, for my response was terrible.

Lucy: I forgive you. This phase is not easy, but even when we don’t understand anything, we must not blame each other. It is God who wants to make us His own.

Mother,

How many opportunities for pruning do we miss by trying to impose our own justice instead of allowing God’s justice to prevail. How patient He is with us! Praise be to Him forever.

The Magdalena Plan. Reflection for marriages. John 20, 1-2. 11-18

GOSPEL

‘Mary, go and find the brothers and tell them’
A reading from the holy Gospel according to John
Jn 20:1-2,11-18

It was very early on the first day of the week and still dark, when Mary of Magdala came to the tomb. She saw that the stone had been moved away from the tomb and came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one Jesus loved. ‘They have taken the Lord out of the tomb’ she said ‘and we don’t know where they have put him.’
  Meanwhile Mary stayed outside near the tomb, weeping. Then, still weeping, she stooped to look inside, and saw two angels in white sitting where the body of Jesus had been, one at the head, the other at the feet. They said, ‘Woman, why are you weeping?’ ‘They have taken my Lord away’ she replied ‘and I don’t know where they have put him.’ As she said this she turned round and saw Jesus standing there, though she did not recognise him. Jesus said, ‘Woman, why are you weeping? Who are you looking for?’ Supposing him to be the gardener, she said, ‘Sir, if you have taken him away, tell me where you have put him, and I will go and remove him.’ Jesus said, ‘Mary!’ She knew him then and said to him in Hebrew, ‘Rabbuni!’ – which means Master. Jesus said to her, ‘Do not cling to me, because I have not yet ascended to the Father. But go and find the brothers, and tell them: I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’ So Mary of Magdala went and told the disciples that she had seen the Lord and that he had said these things to her.

The Gospel of the Lord

The Magdalena Plan

Today we celebrate the feast of Mary Magdalene, a testament to transformation through God’s forgiveness and love. After Jesus exorcised seven demons from her, Mary became a brave and faithful follower, even accompanying Him to Calvary during His Passion and Death. Her loyalty earned her the reward of being the first to witness the resurrected Jesus and to announce it to others. She was the first witness of the resurrection in the history of the universe. What a reward for her faithfulness!

Applied to Married Life:

Laura: Sometimes I worry that there are no changes in our married life, but today, reading about Mary Magdalene has given me hope. She transformed from a person with a complicated past into one of Jesus’s most devoted followers. I think her devotion and ability to change could teach us a lot. Don’t you agree?

David: Yes, I find her testimony very powerful and hopeful. How do you think we could respond like Mary Magdalene in our marriage?

Laura: The first thing she did was to bravely present her troubled past to Jesus and, once forgiven, leave it behind. I believe it’s unhealthy to try to hide and excuse our mistakes. We should face them with courage, acknowledge them, forgive ourselves, and let them go, just as she did. Cleansing our past could lead to the transformation of our marriage.

David: What you’re suggesting sounds like a sort of purification of our marital memories, doesn’t it? That is, ensuring there’s no lingering resistance to God’s forgiveness and mutual forgiveness in our recollections.

Laura: Exactly. As a second step, I suggest we commit to being very faithful to our mutual dedication for each other’s salvation. This means that whenever one of us falls into temptation, the other should be brave and remain steadfast in the face of the challenges that come our way.

David: I understand. And the reward will be being the first witness to your resurrection and you to mine. It sounds like an amazing plan. We’ll call it the Magdalena Plan. What do you think?

Laura: It sounds more like a breakfast plan than anything else. Hahaha, but okay…

David: I think you’ve just ruined my plan. Hahaha…

Mother,

We wish to live out the transformation and courage of Mary Magdalene. You loved her dearly and supported her in her faithfulness. Guide us by the hand as well. Praise be to the Lord who rewards us with His Resurrection.