How to conquer the spouse.Reflection for marriages John 21:1-14


From the Gospel according to John 21:1-14

Jesus revealed himself again to his disciples at the Sea of Tiberias. He revealed himself in this way. Together were Simon Peter, Thomas called Didymus, Nathanael from Cana in Galilee, Zebedee’s sons, and two others of his disciples. Simon Peter said to them, “I am going fishing.” They said to him, “We also will come with you.” So they went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing. When it was already dawn, Jesus was standing on the shore; but the disciples did not realize that it was Jesus.
Jesus said to them, “Children, have you caught anything to eat?” They answered him, “No.” So he said to them, “Cast the net over the right side of the boat and you will find something.” So they cast it, and were not able to pull it in because of the number of fish. So the disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter, “It is the Lord.”When Simon  Peter heard that it was the Lord, he tucked in his garment, for he was lightly clad, and jumped into the sea.
The other disciples came in the boat, for they were not far from shore, only about a hundred yards, dragging the net with the fish. When they climbed out on shore, they saw a charcoal fire with fish on it and bread. Jesus said to them, “Bring some of the fish you just caught.” So Simon Peter went over and dragged the net ashore full of one hundred fifty-three large fish. Even though there were so many, the net was not torn.
Jesus said to them, “Come, have breakfast.” And none of the disciples dared to ask him, “Who are you?” because they realized it was the Lord. Jesus came over and took the bread and gave it to them,
and in like manner the fish. This was now the third time Jesus was revealed to his disciples after being raised from the dead.

The Gospel of the Lord

How to conquer the spouse.

We often hear that only God can fully satisfies. And it’s true, because we are born to return to Him. But does that mean we can’t experience fulfillment on earth through our vocation? Is our marriage destined to not bring us happiness? Because in heaven, marriage will no longer exist. Has God called us to a vocation frustrated by our limitations?

We don´t think so. A loving Father doesn’t do that. We can achieve it! We believe we can find fulfillment in our marriage. Without God’s help? No. But it’s our union as spouses that He will give us that fulfillment. A fulfillment that will expand and can always be fuller, until we are prepared to embrace the infinity of God.

To do this, all I have to do is conquer my husband, following Christ’s instructions: The daily Gospel. He will tell us where we need to cast the nets each day.

Applied to Married Life:

They got married convinced that the love they had for each other will last forever. But as the years passed, their love began to deteriorate their affection began to wane, the burden of negative emotions became so heavy that they lost faith in their marriage. So they decided to work on it, to fight to change things. They tried to get to know each other better, to be kinder to one another, to learn to listen… but they didn’t see much progress. The pain of their mutual wounds, the chasm that separated them, was so deep that there seemed to be no way to bridge it. The bridges they tried to build were too weak and collapsed at the slightest strain. Sometimes they grew tired of trying because it seemed futile. But they kept fighting…

Then the Lord, whom they invoked together, opened up a new path for them, one they didn’t know. It was the path of true marriage: “Cast the net to the right side of the boat and you will find.” That’s what the Conjugial Love Project is, the direction where the Lord has told us to cast our nets. These nets are very strong because they are coherent and withstand any onslaught. They are the catechesis of Saint John Paul II on human love. In them, we have found our truth, the truth of our marriage.

Then comes each person’s response. In the Gospel, we see three types of responses: John’s, who is in love with the Lord and recognizes Him immediately. Peter’s, who jumps without hesitation to meet Jesus, and the rest of the apostles who gradually approach Him, rowing, mindful not to neglect the fish they have already caught. But they all reach Him.

Now the Lord waits for us every day, on the shore of our “Sea of Galilee,” with the table set for us to bring our offering and dine with Him. You can sign this story too.


Grant us the hope to know that our marriage will fulfill us, that it is real, that we can build a deep communion with the help of God, and we can become one. It is the promise of the Lord through our Sacrament.  Mother, it is so important to keep hope alive!. We trust in you. We trust in Him. Praise be to the Lord, who will make it happen. This is the promise.

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