At that time Jesus declared, ‘I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that you have hidden these things from the wise and understanding and revealed them to little children; yes, Father, for such was your gracious will. All things have been handed over to me by my Father, and no one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him. Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.’

The Gospel of the Lord

Christocracy

Perhaps I ask myself, “Why can’t I find You, my Jesus?” Perhaps the answer lies in another question: How do I seek You in my heart? Through the meritocracy of the wise and learned, who think they can “earn” Your love and their dignity through good deeds and sound arguments. Or like little children, who recognise that Your love alone is enough to make them worthy. Burden or rest. Achievement or trust. Doing or Being. Meritocracy or Christocracy. Which do you choose?

Applied to Married Life:

Mary arrives home exhausted after a difficult day. She finds the kitchen untidy and James distracted by his mobile. The first thought that springs to her heart is: “I’m always the one who keeps this household going. If he truly loved me, he’d notice and help me without my having to ask.”
James, sensing Mary’s frustration, also justifies himself in his heart: “She doesn’t appreciate everything I do. It’s never enough.” They both begin to weigh up who is more in the right and who deserves more understanding.
But for some time now, Mary and James have been praying together as husband and wife each morning, and they try to continue that prayer throughout the day through an ongoing conversation with the Lord, allowing the Holy Spirit to bring order to their hearts and teach them to see every situation through Christ’s eyes. So, before allowing themselves to be carried away by pride, they pause for a brief moment of interior silence. It is not an act of self-control, but the fruit of a life rooted in prayer that leads them to ask: “Lord, what do You want to show us here? How would You love in this moment?”
Then the Holy Spirit grants them a new understanding. Mary realises that she does not need to make demands in order to feel loved. James understands that he does not need to defend himself to preserve his dignity. He gets up and begins to tidy the kitchen; she thanks him for the gesture without any reproach. Neither has defeated the other; both have allowed Christ to reign over their pride.
They discover in this way that the rest Jesus speaks of does not come when they succeed in proving themselves right, but when they stop carrying the burden of constantly justifying themselves. They have moved from meritocracy—earning love—to Christocracy: allowing Christ to think, love and act within them.

Mother,

Show us your Son, so that it may be He who reigns over our lives. Blessed and praised be He for ever, who redeemed us with His Blood.