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Who are you? Reflection for marriages. John 13:21-33, 36-38

From the Gospel according to John 13:21-33, 3638

Reclining at table with his disciples, Jesus was deeply troubled and testified, “Amen, amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.” The disciples looked at one another, at a loss as to whom he meant. One of his disciples, the one whom Jesus loved, was reclining at Jesus’ side. So Simon Peter nodded to him to find out whom he meant. He leaned back against Jesus’ chest and said to him, “Master, who is it?” Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I hand the morsel after I have dipped it.” So he dipped the morsel and took it and handed it to Judas, son of Simon the Iscariot. After Judas took the morsel, Satan entered him. So Jesus said to him, “What you are going to do, do quickly.” Now none of those reclining at table realized why he said this to him. Some thought that since Judas kept the money bag, Jesus had told him, “Buy what we need for the feast,” or to give something to the poor. So Judas took the morsel and left at once. And it was night.
When he had left, Jesus said, “Now is the Son of Man glorified, and God is glorified in him. If God is glorified in him, God will also glorify him in himself, and he will glorify him at once. My children, I will be with you only a little while longer. You will look for me, and as I told the Jews, ‘Where I go you cannot come,’ so now I say it to you.”
Simon Peter said to him, “Master, where are you going?” Jesus answered him, “Where I am going, you cannot follow me now, though you will follow later.” Peter said to him,
“Master, why can I not follow you now? I will lay down my life for you.” Jesus answered, “Will you lay down your life for me? Amen, amen, I say to you, the cock will not crow before you deny me three times.”

Who are you?

With the reading of this Gospel, and taking a moment for self-examination, we see that at times we may resemble some disciples more than others, and we must “choose” what kind of spouse we want to be:

At times, we can be like Judas: loving ourselves more than God and, therefore, unable to love anyone else. Apparently faithful, yet deep in our hearts we know that we are betraying our spouse whenever we can, because we seek our own benefit and happiness above all else.

At other times, we can be like Peter: in certain situations there is a struggle between our self-love and our love for God. We are faithful and devoted spouses, but from time to time fear creeps in and we begin to doubt whether we made a mistake in our marriage, doubting the gift that our spouse is.

And we can also be like John: when we profess a pure love, completely given to God, a love without duplicity, through which we remain firm in our commitment because we are united to the Lord—and it is that union that allows our sacrament to grow and be renewed each day.

As we can see, it does not depend on what we want, but rather the kind of union we have with the Lord is what will define the “disciple-spouse” we can become.

Applied to married life:

Andrew: Hanna, I remember that when we got married, I did it because I wanted you to make me happy. I was seeking my own happiness above everything. You were like a “means” to achieve it.

Hanna: I understand, Andrew… it’s true that at that time you weren’t very united to the Lord, and sometimes that self-interest showed in the way you acted.

Andrew: Yes… thank God, little by little I began to understand what all this was about, and I realized that I also had to give a lot of myself. Although from time to time doubts would come, and there was a period when I even wondered if I had made a mistake marrying you.

Hanna: I remember those years. They were tough. But I held on to the Lord and prayed for strength, to remain faithful, so that He would help you believe in the sacrament as He had intended it.

Andrew: Thanks to Married Love Project, the Lord helped me see that we needed to count on Him in our marriage. that this wasn’t just about the two of us. And so I began to strive to include Him, through prayer and the sacraments.

Hanna: That’s right, now we are a new marriage, because both of us have grounded it in our love for God. That makes Him present in our hearts and at the center of our marriage. The Lord can make all things new!

Mother,

Thank you for leading us to Your Son and protecting us under your mantle. Blessed and praised be the Lord!

Attention to the detail. Reflection fo marriages. John 12:1-11

From the Gospel according to John 12:1-11

Six days before Passover Jesus came to Bethany, where Lazarus was, whom Jesus had raised from the dead. They gave a dinner for him there, and Martha served, while Lazarus was one of those reclining at table with him. Mary took a liter of costly perfumed oil made from genuine aromatic nard and anointed the feet of Jesus and dried them with her hair; the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil. Then Judas the Iscariot, one of his disciples, and the one who would betray him, said, “Why was this oil not sold for three hundred days’ wages and given to the poor?” He said this not because he cared about the poor but because he was a thief and held the money bag and used to steal the contributions. So Jesus said, “Leave her alone. Let her keep this for the day of my burial.You always have the poor with you, but you do not always have me.”
The large crowd of the Jews found out that he was there and came, not only because of him, but also to see Lazarus, whom he had raised from the dead. And the chief priests plotted to kill Lazarus too, because many of the Jews were turning away and believing in Jesus because of him.

Attention to the detail.

Sometimes our love looks a lot like that house in Bethany: there are days of routine, of quiet service, of a shared table… and, without realizing it, Jesus is there, in the midst of us. Mary’s attitude is very striking. She doesn’t calculate, she doesn’t measure, she holds nothing back. She simply loves… and it is noticable. She pours out the best she has, without fear of it being too much.

Perhaps we, over time, have learned to love with more caution than passion: giving just enough, making sure not to “overdo it,” waiting for the other person to give first. And yet, the love that truly transforms a marriage is the kind that goes first, that surprises, that gives itself without keeping score. That free gesture, that detail that “wasn’t necessary,” that tenderness that breaks the routine… that is the perfume that fills the house again.

Judas also appears, and he is closer than he seems. He is in those inner voices that tell us: “it’s not worth it,” “why make such an effort?” “nothing will change.” When we listen to that, love becomes cold, practical… and loses its beauty.

Today this Gospel whispers something very simple to us: let us not stop perfuming our marriage. Let us not stop making free gestures, caring for the little things, loving without measure.

Because when one of the two dares to love like this, something changes. And little by little, the whole house, our whole life, is filled again with that “fragrance” that reminds us why we began this journey together.

Applied to married life:

Alex: Today I was reading the Gospel of Bethany… and you know, it made me think of us. About how Mary behaves… that way of loving without measuring. It impresses me how she pours out the perfume without thinking if it’s too much or too little. And I realized that many times, with you, I do just the opposite.

Ily: What do you mean?

Alex: That I calculate. Sometimes I think, “I’ve already done enough today,” or “now it’s her turn”… and I forget to simply love you without keeping score.

Ily: (smiles) Well, you’re not the only one… I fall into that too. It’s like love becomes practical, efficient… but less beautiful.

Alex: Yes… and then there’s that little Judas-like voice… “why so much effort?” “in the end, nothing changes…”

Ily: Ugh, I know that one well. Especially on bad days.

Alex: But Mary’s example really touched me. Because her gesture seemed excessive… and Jesus not only doesn’t stop her, He defends her, as if saying: that’s real love, the kind that isn’t afraid of being too much. And I thought: it’s been a while since I’ve “poured perfume” on you.

Ily: Perfume?

Alex: Yes… gestures without a reason, time without rushing, affection without you asking for it… those things that used to come naturally to us.

Ily: (in a softer voice) I’d like to get back to that too…

Alex: What if we start again? Without waiting for the other to change first.

Ily: And let the house be filled with that perfume… I hope that happens here too.

Alex: Then let’s try. I’ll start today.

Ily: (laughing) Okay… but be careful, don’t stop halfway.

Mother,

you who knew how to love without measure, teach us to live our marriage with a generous and self-giving heart. Blessed are you forever, Mother.

At the Foot of the Cross. Reflection for married couples. Matthew 26:14—27:66

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to Matthew 26:14—27:66

One of the Twelve, who was called Judas Iscariot,

went to the chief priests and said,

“What are you willing to give me

if I hand him over to you?”

They paid him thirty pieces of silver,

and from that time on he looked for an opportunity

to hand him over.

On the first day of the Feast of Unleavened Bread,

the disciples approached Jesus and said,

“Where do you want us to prepare

for you to eat the Passover?”

He said,

“Go into the city to a certain man and tell him,

‘The teacher says, “My appointed time draws near;

in your house I shall celebrate the Passover with my disciples.”‘”

The disciples then did as Jesus had ordered,

and prepared the Passover.

When it was evening,

he reclined at table with the Twelve.

And while they were eating, he said,

“Amen, I say to you, one of you will betray me.”

Deeply distressed at this,

they began to say to him one after another,

“Surely it is not I, Lord?”

He said in reply,

“He who has dipped his hand into the dish with me

is the one who will betray me.

The Son of Man indeed goes, as it is written of him,

but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed.

It would be better for that man if he had never been born.”

Then Judas, his betrayer, said in reply,

“Surely it is not I, Rabbi?”

He answered, “You have said so.”

While they were eating,

Jesus took bread, said the blessing,

broke it, and giving it to his disciples said,

“Take and eat; this is my body.”

Then he took a cup, gave thanks, and gave it to them, saying,

“Drink from it, all of you,

for this is my blood of the covenant,

which will be shed on behalf of many

for the forgiveness of sins.

I tell you, from now on I shall not drink this fruit of the vine

until the day when I drink it with you new

in the kingdom of my Father.”

Then, after singing a hymn,

they went out to the Mount of Olives.

Then Jesus said to them,

“This night all of you will have your faith in me shaken,

for it is written:

I will strike the shepherd,

and the sheep of the flock will be dispersed;

but after I have been raised up,

I shall go before you to Galilee.”

Peter said to him in reply,

“Though all may have their faith in you shaken,

mine will never be.”

Jesus said to him,

“Amen, I say to you,

this very night before the cock crows,

you will deny me three times.”

Peter said to him,

“Even though I should have to die with you,

I will not deny you.”

And all the disciples spoke likewise.

Then Jesus came with them to a place called Gethsemane,

and he said to his disciples,

“Sit here while I go over there and pray.”

He took along Peter and the two sons of Zebedee,

and began to feel sorrow and distress.

Then he said to them,

“My soul is sorrowful even to death.

Remain here and keep watch with me.”

He advanced a little and fell prostrate in prayer, saying,

“My Father, if it is possible,

let this cup pass from me;

yet, not as I will, but as you will.”

When he returned to his disciples he found them asleep.

He said to Peter,

“So you could not keep watch with me for one hour?

Watch and pray that you may not undergo the test.

The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

Withdrawing a second time, he prayed again,

“My Father, if it is not possible that this cup pass

without my drinking it, your will be done!”

Then he returned once more and found them asleep,

for they could not keep their eyes open.

He left them and withdrew again and prayed a third time,

saying the same thing again.

Then he returned to his disciples and said to them,

“Are you still sleeping and taking your rest?

Behold, the hour is at hand

when the Son of Man is to be handed over to sinners.

Get up, let us go.

Look, my betrayer is at hand.”

While he was still speaking,

Judas, one of the Twelve, arrived,

accompanied by a large crowd, with swords and clubs,

who had come from the chief priests and the elders

of the people.

His betrayer had arranged a sign with them, saying,

“The man I shall kiss is the one; arrest him.”

Immediately he went over to Jesus and said,

“Hail, Rabbi!” and he kissed him.

Jesus answered him,

“Friend, do what you have come for.”

Then stepping forward they laid hands on Jesus and arrested him.

And behold, one of those who accompanied Jesus

put his hand to his sword, drew it,

and struck the high priest’s servant, cutting off his ear.

Then Jesus said to him,

“Put your sword back into its sheath,

for all who take the sword will perish by the sword.

Do you think that I cannot call upon my Father

and he will not provide me at this moment

with more than twelve legions of angels?

But then how would the Scriptures be fulfilled

which say that it must come to pass in this way?”

At that hour Jesus said to the crowds,

“Have you come out as against a robber,

with swords and clubs to seize me?

Day after day I sat teaching in the temple area,

yet you did not arrest me.

But all this has come to pass

that the writings of the prophets may be fulfilled.”

Then all the disciples left him and fled.

Those who had arrested Jesus led him away

to Caiaphas the high priest,

where the scribes and the elders were assembled.

Peter was following him at a distance

as far as the high priest’s courtyard,

and going inside he sat down with the servants

to see the outcome.

The chief priests and the entire Sanhedrin

kept trying to obtain false testimony against Jesus

in order to put him to death,

but they found none,

though many false witnesses came forward.

Finally two came forward who stated,

“This man said, ‘I can destroy the temple of God

and within three days rebuild it.'”

The high priest rose and addressed him,

“Have you no answer?

What are these men testifying against you?”

But Jesus was silent.

Then the high priest said to him,

“I order you to tell us under oath before the living God

whether you are the Christ, the Son of God.”

Jesus said to him in reply,

“You have said so.

But I tell you:

From now on you will see ‘the Son of Man

seated at the right hand of the Power’

and ‘coming on the clouds of heaven.'”

Then the high priest tore his robes and said,

“He has blasphemed!

What further need have we of witnesses?

You have now heard the blasphemy;

what is your opinion?”

They said in reply,

“He deserves to die!”

Then they spat in his face and struck him,

while some slapped him, saying,

“Prophesy for us, Christ: who is it that struck you?”

Now Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard.

One of the maids came over to him and said,

“You too were with Jesus the Galilean.”

But he denied it in front of everyone, saying,

“I do not know what you are talking about!”

As he went out to the gate, another girl saw him

and said to those who were there,

“This man was with Jesus the Nazorean.”

Again he denied it with an oath,

“I do not know the man!”

A little later the bystanders came over and said to Peter,

“Surely you too are one of them;

even your speech gives you away.”

At that he began to curse and to swear,

“I do not know the man.”

And immediately a cock crowed.

Then Peter remembered the word that Jesus had spoken:

“Before the cock crows you will deny me three times.”

He went out and began to weep bitterly.

When it was morning,

all the chief priests and the elders of the people

took counsel against Jesus to put him to death.

They bound him, led him away,

and handed him over to Pilate, the governor.

Then Judas, his betrayer, seeing that Jesus had been condemned,

deeply regretted what he had done.

He returned the thirty pieces of silver

to the chief priests and elders, saying,

“I have sinned in betraying innocent blood.”

They said,

“What is that to us?

Look to it yourself.”

Flinging the money into the temple,

he departed and went off and hanged himself.

The chief priests gathered up the money, but said,

“It is not lawful to deposit this in the temple treasury,

for it is the price of blood.”

After consultation, they used it to buy the potter’s field

as a burial place for foreigners.

That is why that field even today is called the Field of Blood.

Then was fulfilled what had been said through Jeremiah

the prophet,

And they took the thirty pieces of silver,

the value of a man with a price on his head,

a price set by some of the Israelites,

and they paid it out for the potter’s field

just as the Lord had commanded me.

Now Jesus stood before the governor, and he questioned him,

“Are you the king of the Jews?”

Jesus said, “You say so.”

And when he was accused by the chief priests and elders,

he made no answer.

Then Pilate said to him,

“Do you not hear how many things they are testifying against you?”

But he did not answer him one word,

so that the governor was greatly amazed.

Now on the occasion of the feast

the governor was accustomed to release to the crowd

one prisoner whom they wished.

And at that time they had a notorious prisoner called Barabbas.

So when they had assembled, Pilate said to them,

“Which one do you want me to release to you,

Barabbas, or Jesus called Christ?”

For he knew that it was out of envy

that they had handed him over.

While he was still seated on the bench,

his wife sent him a message,

“Have nothing to do with that righteous man.

I suffered much in a dream today because of him.”

The chief priests and the elders persuaded the crowds

to ask for Barabbas but to destroy Jesus.

The governor said to them in reply,

“Which of the two do you want me to release to you?”

They answered, “Barabbas!”

Pilate said to them,

“Then what shall I do with Jesus called Christ?”

They all said,

“Let him be crucified!”

But he said,

“Why? What evil has he done?”

They only shouted the louder,

“Let him be crucified!”

When Pilate saw that he was not succeeding at all,

but that a riot was breaking out instead,

he took water and washed his hands in the sight of the crowd,

saying, “I am innocent of this man’s blood.

Look to it yourselves.”

And the whole people said in reply,

“His blood be upon us and upon our children.”

Then he released Barabbas to them,

but after he had Jesus scourged,

he handed him over to be crucified.

Then the soldiers of the governor took Jesus inside the praetorium

and gathered the whole cohort around him.

They stripped off his clothes

and threw a scarlet military cloak about him.

Weaving a crown out of thorns, they placed it on his head,

and a reed in his right hand.

And kneeling before him, they mocked him, saying,

“Hail, King of the Jews!”

They spat upon him and took the reed

and kept striking him on the head.

And when they had mocked him,

they stripped him of the cloak,

dressed him in his own clothes,

and led him off to crucify him.

As they were going out, they met a Cyrenian named Simon;

this man they pressed into service

to carry his cross.

And when they came to a place called Golgotha

—which means Place of the Skull —,

they gave Jesus wine to drink mixed with gall.

But when he had tasted it, he refused to drink.

After they had crucified him,

they divided his garments by casting lots;

then they sat down and kept watch over him there.

And they placed over his head the written charge against him:

This is Jesus, the King of the Jews.

Two revolutionaries were crucified with him,

one on his right and the other on his left.

Those passing by reviled him, shaking their heads and saying,

“You who would destroy the temple and rebuild it in three days,

save yourself, if you are the Son of God,

and come down from the cross!”

Likewise the chief priests with the scribes and elders mocked him and said,

“He saved others; he cannot save himself.

So he is the king of Israel!

Let him come down from the cross now,

and we will believe in him.

He trusted in God;

let him deliver him now if he wants him.

For he said, ‘I am the Son of God.'”

The revolutionaries who were crucified with him

also kept abusing him in the same way.

From noon onward, darkness came over the whole land

until three in the afternoon.

And about three o’clock Jesus cried out in a loud voice,

“Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?”

which means, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”

Some of the bystanders who heard it said,

“This one is calling for Elijah.”

Immediately one of them ran to get a sponge;

he soaked it in wine, and putting it on a reed,

gave it to him to drink.

But the rest said,

“Wait, let us see if Elijah comes to save him.”

But Jesus cried out again in a loud voice,

and gave up his spirit.

Here all kneel and pause for a short time.

And behold, the veil of the sanctuary

was torn in two from top to bottom.

The earth quaked, rocks were split, tombs were opened,

and the bodies of many saints who had fallen asleep were raised.

And coming forth from their tombs after his resurrection,

they entered the holy city and appeared to many.

The centurion and the men with him who were keeping watch over Jesus

feared greatly when they saw the earthquake

and all that was happening, and they said,

“Truly, this was the Son of God!”

There were many women there, looking on from a distance,

who had followed Jesus from Galilee, ministering to him.

Among them were Mary Magdalene and Mary the mother of James and Joseph,

and the mother of the sons of Zebedee.

When it was evening,

there came a rich man from Arimathea named Joseph,

who was himself a disciple of Jesus.

He went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus;

then Pilate ordered it to be handed over.

Taking the body, Joseph wrapped it in clean linen

and laid it in his new tomb that he had hewn in the rock.

Then he rolled a huge stone across the entrance to the tomb

and departed.

But Mary Magdalene and the other Mary

remained sitting there, facing the tomb.

The next day, the one following the day of preparation,

the chief priests and the Pharisees

gathered before Pilate and said,

“Sir, we remember that this impostor while still alive said,

‘After three days I will be raised up.’

Give orders, then, that the grave be secured until the third day,

lest his disciples come and steal him and say to the people,

‘He has been raised from the dead.’

This last imposture would be worse than the first.”

Pilate said to them,

“The guard is yours;

go, secure it as best you can.”

So they went and secured the tomb

by fixing a seal to the stone and setting the guard.

or

Matthew 27:11-54

Jesus stood before the governor, Pontius Pilate, who questioned him,

“Are you the king of the Jews?”

Jesus said, “You say so.”

And when he was accused by the chief priests and elders,

he made no answer.

Then Pilate said to him,

“Do you not hear how many things they are testifying against you?”

But he did not answer him one word,

so that the governor was greatly amazed.

Now on the occasion of the feast

the governor was accustomed to release to the crowd

one prisoner whom they wished.

And at that time they had a notorious prisoner called Barabbas.

So when they had assembled, Pilate said to them,

“Which one do you want me to release to you,

Barabbas, or Jesus called Christ?”

For he knew that it was out of envy

that they had handed him over.

While he was still seated on the bench,

his wife sent him a message,

“Have nothing to do with that righteous man.

I suffered much in a dream today because of him.”

The chief priests and the elders persuaded the crowds

to ask for Barabbas but to destroy Jesus.

The governor said to them in reply,

“Which of the two do you want me to release to you?”

They answered, “Barabbas!”

Pilate said to them,

“Then what shall I do with Jesus called Christ?”

They all said,

“Let him be crucified!”

But he said,

“Why? What evil has he done?”

They only shouted the louder,

“Let him be crucified!”

When Pilate saw that he was not succeeding at all,

but that a riot was breaking out instead,

he took water and washed his hands in the sight of the crowd,

saying, “I am innocent of this man’s blood.

Look to it yourselves.”

And the whole people said in reply,

“His blood be upon us and upon our children.”

Then he released Barabbas to them,

but after he had Jesus scourged,

he handed him over to be crucified.

Then the soldiers of the governor took Jesus inside the praetorium

and gathered the whole cohort around him.

They stripped off his clothes

and threw a scarlet military cloak about him.

Weaving a crown out of thorns, they placed it on his head,

and a reed in his right hand.

And kneeling before him, they mocked him, saying,

“Hail, King of the Jews!”

They spat upon him and took the reed

and kept striking him on the head.

And when they had mocked him,

they stripped him of the cloak,

dressed him in his own clothes,

and led him off to crucify him.

As they were going out, they met a Cyrenian named Simon;

this man they pressed into service

to carry his cross.

And when they came to a place called Golgotha

— which means Place of the Skull —,

they gave Jesus wine to drink mixed with gall.

But when he had tasted it, he refused to drink.

After they had crucified him,

they divided his garments by casting lots;

then they sat down and kept watch over him there.

And they placed over his head the written charge against him:

This is Jesus, the King of the Jews.

Two revolutionaries were crucified with him,

one on his right and the other on his left.

Those passing by reviled him, shaking their heads and saying,

“You who would destroy the temple and rebuild it in three days,

save yourself, if you are the Son of God,

and come down from the cross!”

Likewise the chief priests with the scribes and elders mocked him and said,

“He saved others; he cannot save himself.

So he is the king of Israel!

Let him come down from the cross now,

and we will believe in him.

He trusted in God;

let him deliver him now if he wants him.

For he said, ‘I am the Son of God.'”

The revolutionaries who were crucified with him

also kept abusing him in the same way.

From noon onward, darkness came over the whole land

until three in the afternoon.

And about three o’clock Jesus cried out in a loud voice,

“Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?”

which means, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”

Some of the bystanders who heard it said,

“This one is calling for Elijah.”

Immediately one of them ran to get a sponge;

he soaked it in wine, and putting it on a reed,

gave it to him to drink.

But the rest said,

‘Wait, let us see if Elijah comes to save him.”

But Jesus cried out again in a loud voice,

and gave up his spirit.

Here all kneel and pause for a short time.

And behold, the veil of the sanctuary

was torn in two from top to bottom.

The earth quaked, rocks were split, tombs were opened,

and the bodies of many saints who had fallen asleep were raised.

And coming forth from their tombs after his resurrection,

they entered the holy city and appeared to many.

The centurion and the men with him who were keeping watch over Jesus

feared greatly when they saw the earthquake

and all that was happening, and they said,

“Truly, this was the Son of God!”

The Word of the Lord

 

At the Foot of the Cross

From the place of the scourging, and through the streets of Jerusalem, along that whole Via Dolorosa up to the sacred hill, Your shed Blood was writing the beautiful pages of the history of the Heart that loves us most… Yours. Remember how the earth, grateful yet terrified, received Your precious Blood. All of nature trembled in horror, and the heavens shuddered; the angels — and even the demons — were astonished at that incredible scene. A whole God was dying. What was this? What was happening? On that first Good Friday, O Jesus, You opened heaven for sinful humanity.

Excerpt from one of the prayers that Jesus Christ revealed to Saint Bridget.

Applied to Married Life

Mary: Love, this Lent has stirred something in me in a different and deeper way. As if, for the first time, I weren’t looking at the Cross from the outside.

Jon: What do you mean?

Mary: I always thought the Cross would come in the form of big problems — illnesses, difficulties that come from outside. But these days… watching the Passion… I’ve realised it isn’t that.

Jon: Then what is the Cross for you?

Mary: It’s staying at the foot of Christ’s Cross. Without running away. Without making excuses. Seeing who He is… and who I am. And not looking away.

Jon: That sounds tough…

Mary: It is… but it’s also… healing. Because in that comparison there’s no humiliation that destroys, but truth that heals. It’s as if His love makes it bearable to see my own misery.

Jon: I’d never thought of it like that… I’ve always wanted to improve, to change…

Mary: Me too. But now I feel that before all of that… comes remaining. Contemplating. Letting Him love even the parts of me I don’t like.

Jon: And what does that have to do with us?

Mary: A lot… because I think that in our marriage I’ve also been waiting for “external” crosses… and I haven’t seen that the real one is here: learning to love when I see your limits… and mine. Without running away. Without demanding that everything change first.

Jon: …That’s a bit frightening.

Mary: Yes… but it also brings peace. Because it no longer depends on everything being perfect… but on staying together at the foot of that Cross. There, where everything — even what’s most broken — can be loved and healed.

Jon: So… our cross… is to stay?

Mary: To stay… and to look towards Him together. And to let His way of loving teach us ours.

 

Mother,

Teach us to remain together at the feet of your Son’s Cross.

May He be forever blessed and praised, He who redeemed us with His Blood.

What Do We Do?. Reflection for married couples. John 11:45-56

GOSPEL OF THE DAY

From the Gospel according to John 11:45-56

Many of the Jews who had come to Mary

and seen what Jesus had done began to believe in him.

But some of them went to the Pharisees

and told them what Jesus had done.

So the chief priests and the Pharisees

convened the Sanhedrin and said,

“What are we going to do?

This man is performing many signs.

If we leave him alone, all will believe in him,

and the Romans will come

and take away both our land and our nation.”

But one of them, Caiaphas,

who was high priest that year, said to them,

“You know nothing,

nor do you consider that it is better for you

that one man should die instead of the people,

so that the whole nation may not perish.”

He did not say this on his own,

but since he was high priest for that year,

he prophesied that Jesus was going to die for the nation,

and not only for the nation,

but also to gather into one the dispersed children of God.

So from that day on they planned to kill him.

So Jesus no longer walked about in public among the Jews,

but he left for the region near the desert,

to a town called Ephraim,

and there he remained with his disciples.

Now the Passover of the Jews was near,

and many went up from the country to Jerusalem

before Passover to purify themselves.

They looked for Jesus and said to one another

as they were in the temple area, “What do you think?

That he will not come to the feast?”

The word of the Lord

 

What Do We Do?

In this Gospel we see the reaction of the people who witnessed the resurrection of Lazarus. Faced with this sign, many believed in Jesus, but others, seeing the very same thing, closed their hearts and rejected Him. They were not indifferent — they decided to put Him to death.

Before Jesus there are only two possible attitudes: to welcome Him or to reject Him. Which is mine? Do I welcome Him and believe in Him with all the consequences that entails, or do I look for excuses and reject Him? Because God’s logic is so far from human logic that welcoming Him means making a radical change in my life — a change that leads me somewhere I do not control, that goes against my own criteria, that alters my plans, that pulls me out of my comfort zone. Am I willing to embark on that adventure, or do I prefer to control my own life and, in doing so, reject Him and put Him to death in my heart?

In our marriage, the Lord performs many signs, but if our hearts are not attentive and ready to recognise Him, those signs pass unnoticed. Husbands and wives, let us stay awake so that we may see the signs of Jesus and welcome Him. Let us trust Him, for He has promised us immense and eternal happiness. And the Lord always fulfils His Word.

 

Applied to Married Life

Paula: Nick, what do you think about helping at a retreat next weekend instead of going to the little house in the mountains?

Nick: But Paula, my love, you know we’ve had that getaway planned for weeks — and I’ve really been looking forward to it. Why the sudden change?

Paula: It’s just that Sandra called me. She said a married couple were going to help out, but the husband has fallen ill and now they won’t be able to go.

Nick: And has she asked us to go?

Paula: No, she hasn’t, actually. But she sounded worried and a bit overwhelmed, and I thought maybe we could offer ourselves — perhaps it’s a sign that we’re meant to go.

Nick: The very weekend we were going to the mountains?

Paula: Well, you know God’s plans rarely match ours, and they always unsettle us a bit. How about we take it to prayer?

Nick: But what if another couple has already offered to go in their place?

Paula: Then it’ll mean it isn’t God’s will for us to go this time, and we’ll head to the mountains… how does that sound?

Nick: Alright, fine — let’s pray about it. Because it’s true: when God calls and you say yes, He fills you with blessings, and I wouldn’t want to miss out on them…

(And in prayer they decided to place it in the hands of the Virgin. They would offer themselves the next day and, if no one else had filled the gap, they would go to the retreat, postponing their mountain getaway for another time.)

 

Mother,

Teach us to live attentive to the signs of God, and to submit our will, always ready to do whatever is necessary to fulfil the plans He has for us, just as you did, always welcoming His will. Blessed and glorious are you, Mother. May the Lord be praised for ever.

We Are Children of God. Reflection for married couples. John 10:31-42

GOSPEL OF THE DAY 

From the Gospel according to John 10:31-42

The Jews picked up rocks to stone Jesus.

Jesus answered them, “I have shown you many good works from my Father.

For which of these are you trying to stone me?”

The Jews answered him,

“We are not stoning you for a good work but for blasphemy.

You, a man, are making yourself God.”

Jesus answered them,

“Is it not written in your law, ‘I said, ‘You are gods”‘?

If it calls them gods to whom the word of God came,

and Scripture cannot be set aside,

can you say that the one

whom the Father has consecrated and sent into the world

blasphemes because I said, ‘I am the Son of God’?

If I do not perform my Father’s works, do not believe me;

but if I perform them, even if you do not believe me,

believe the works, so that you may realize and understand

that the Father is in me and I am in the Father.”

Then they tried again to arrest him;

but he escaped from their power.

He went back across the Jordan

to the place where John first baptized, and there he remained.

Many came to him and said,

“John performed no sign,

but everything John said about this man was true.”

And many there began to believe in him.

The word of the Lord

 

We Are Children of God

By pure grace, when we receive the Sacrament of Baptism, God makes us His children. What an undeserved gift. This is the dignity my wife has, and it is the dignity I have. No one can take it from me, though I can lose it through sin. And if that happens, the Lord is so good and so merciful that He has prepared another great Sacrament for us: Penance. Once we repent and confess our sins to the priest, we regain that dignity we had lost.

Husbands and wives — we also have the Sacrament of Matrimony. Let us not waste even a drop of the grace the Lord pours out upon us so abundantly.

 

Applied to Married Life

(Mike and Magda in prayer after finishing their meeting with the couple they are guiding)

Mike: Lord, I feel such deep sorrow seeing how this married couple treat each other without respect. If this is what they say in front of us, what must they say when they’re at home? Give us light so that we may know how to help them recognise themselves as your children.

Magda: Indeed — what pain the Father must feel seeing them like this. We need to pray a great deal for them and make reparation for the offences they commit against each other and against the Lord.

Mike: Today it seemed that, by the end of the meeting, they left with a little more hope. Let’s pray that they persevere, begin their conjugal prayer, and go to confession, just as we suggested.

Magda: I’m sure that will set them on a path of purification — and that will be what saves their marriage.

Mike: We place our trust in you, Mother. You never consider any marriage lost, and neither do we. Glory to God.

 

Mother,

May we know how to live these last days of Lent at your side, at the foot of the Cross, making reparation for the many offences we commit against your Son.

Blessed are you.

Praised be the Lord in the Most Holy Sacrament of the Altar.