Daily Archives: 13 January, 2026

Quiet! Reflection for married couples. Mark 1:21-28

Gospel of the day

From the Gospel according to Mark 1:21-28

Jesus came to Capernaum with his followers,
and on the sabbath he entered the synagogue and taught.
The people were astonished at his teaching,
for he taught them as one having authority and not as the scribes.
In their synagogue was a man with an unclean spirit;
he cried out, “What have you to do with us, Jesus of Nazareth?
Have you come to destroy us?
I know who you are–the Holy One of God!”
Jesus rebuked him and said, “Quiet! Come out of him!”
The unclean spirit convulsed him and with a loud cry came out of him.
All were amazed and asked one another,
“What is this?
A new teaching with authority.
He commands even the unclean spirits and they obey him.”
His fame spread everywhere throughout the whole region of Galilee.

Quiet!
Do you remember hearing this?: “If you are not going to say something good, it is better to keep quiet.” How many times have words left our mouths like piercing arrows, lodging themselves in the heart of our husband or wife? Perhaps we silence our conscience by saying, “I was only telling the truth.” Yet what that demon said about Jesus was also true—and He silenced him. Why? Because truth can never walk apart from love.

What is driving you to speak that truth? Examine your heart. If it is not love that moves you, then let Jesus silence you. Restrain your passions, tie up your judgement, submit your will—but do not use truth as a weapon. Use it to love, for Jesus is the Truth. And when you find yourself in that temptation, call upon Him. Invoke His Holy Name. Slowly pray the Our Father, with all your heart, asking for help. Allow Jesus to cast out that demon within you that urges you to use truth to injure rather than to build, and to place it instead at the service of God. Then, if upheld by grace you manage to restrain your tongue, you will discover that in such a moment, the greatest strength lies in remaining silent rather than in speaking. And if, even so, you should fall, do not be afraid to look at yourself truthfully. Do not hide, do not defend yourself. Present your frailty to the Lord; acknowledge your fault with simplicity and ask forgiveness of your spouse and of God, with a contrite heart—which God never despises—and He will also make you grow in humility. Everything can serve love.

Applied to Married Life

Margaret and Michael have just returned from a retreat they coordinated over the weekend. During their spousal prayer time at home:

Michael: Margaret, I think that during the retreat I went too far again with the issue of punctuality. I know you noticed too, even though you didn’t say anything… I still have so much to work on.
Margaret: Michael, we are all on a journey. But I have noticed that you’ve made progress in that area. To begin with, you acknowledge it—and that is the first essential step towards change, and you’ve taken it.
Michael: Yes… (sad tone). We are nothing…
Margaret: We are not, no. Sometimes it is simply a matter of ordering things. The intention is good, but along the way it can get distorted. You want to do things well for the Lord.
Michael: How lovely you are.
Margaret: Well, not long ago I would have used that attitude of yours to reproach you, criticise you, throw it back at you to attack you and expose your weakness… in short… what a work the Lord is doing in our hearts.
Michael: Nothing is impossible for God.
Margaret: Glory to God, my husband—glory to God!

Mother,

Teach us, as you do, to keep silence in our hearts, so that it may be God who speaks there and not ourselves. Praised be the Sacred Hearts of Jesus and Mary!