At that time: Jesus answered the Jews, ‘My Father is working even now, and I am working.’ This was why the Jews were seeking all the more to kill him, because not only was he breaking the Sabbath, but he was even calling God his own Father, making himself equal with God.
  So Jesus said to them, ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of his own accord, but only what he sees the Father doing. For whatever the Father does, that the Son does likewise. For the Father loves the Son and shows him all that he himself is doing. And greater works than these will he show him, so that you may marvel. For as the Father raises the dead and gives them life, so also the Son gives life to whom he will. For the Father judges no one, but has given all judgement to the Son, that all may honour the Son, just as they honour the Father. Whoever does not honour the Son does not honour the Father who sent him. Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word, and believes him who sent me, has eternal life. He does not come into judgement, but has passed from death to life.
  ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, an hour is coming, and is now here, when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God, and those who hear will live. For as the Father has life in himself, so he has granted the Son also to have life in himself. And he has given him authority to execute judgement, because he is the Son of Man. Do not marvel at this, for the hour is coming when all who are in the tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who have done good to the resurrection of life, and those who have done evil to the resurrection of judgement.
  ‘I can do nothing on my own. As I hear, I judge, and my judgement is just, because I seek not my own will but the will of him who sent me.’

The Gospel of the Lord

My dear Jesus, You so often emphasise that You do not seek to do Your own will, but the will of the Father.
If You, being God, seek only to do the Father’s will, how can I—a small creature, who knows so little compared to You—insist on doing my own will? How can I think that my will should be the measure of truth? What a mistake it is to believe that truth lies in my own will!
Please, Lord, help me to turn away from doing my own will. May my will never be the guiding principle, because it can only lead me into selfishness—even when I have the best intentions.
So, Jesus, may I desire only to do Your will.
And how do I know what Your will is? By listening to You—in prayer, in the silence of my heart. There You show me that the measure is not what I feel like doing or not doing, not what I think or fail to think. The measure is what You would do.
And if I am not sure? I must always question my own judgement, listen to You in silence, and, in doubt, follow my spouse. There, Your will will always be present. Because Your will is that I give myself, that I come out of myself—that I deny myself, take up my daily cross, and love in every situation.

Applied to Married Life

Mary: Christopher, this Gospel speaks so deeply to me. I remember how I used to think you were wrong, that you didn’t understand things properly. I would go before the Blessed Sacrament and tell the Lord how mistaken you were… but I wasn’t really listening to Him. I would come away convinced that I was right, and then return home lecturing you.
Christopher: I’ve really noticed the change—from demanding things of me to treating me with such tenderness.
Mary: I know what the secret is: the sacraments and prayer. But prayer where I truly look at Christ and listen to Him. At first, I hardly heard Him, because I found it so hard to stop thinking about my own concerns. But when I gaze at Him—when I see how good He is, how much He loves me, when I simply contemplate Him—that’s when I’ve learned to listen. And do you know something? He never tells me I’m right. He always tells me to give myself, to love, to welcome, to excuse.
Christopher: It’s wonderful to hear you say that. I still find it difficult, but I know that, when in doubt, what I should do is not what I feel like doing, but what you would prefer. For that, besides the sacraments and prayer you mentioned, those small acts of self-denial are essential. They help me move away from my own desires—I wrap them in love and offer them up for our family.
Mary: How great the Lord is!

Mother,

help us always to live in your presence. By doing what you would do, we will always be doing the will of God. Blessed and praised be the Lord!