Are you still there? Reflection for marriages Matthew 5:17-37

From the Gospel according to Matthew 5:17-37

Jesus said to his disciples:”Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets.I have come not to abolish but to fulfill.Amen, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away,not the smallest letter or the smallest part of a letterwill pass from the law,until all things have taken place.Therefore, whoever breaks one of the least of these commandmentsand teaches others to do sowill be called least in the kingdom of heaven. But whoever obeys and teaches these commandments will be called greatest in the kingdom of heaven. I tell you, unless your righteousness surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven.

“You have heard that it was said to your ancestors, You shall not kill; and whoever kills will be liable to judgment. But I say to you, whoever is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; and whoever says to his brother, ‘Raqa,’
will be answerable to the Sanhedrin; and whoever says, ‘You fool,’ will be liable to fiery Gehenna.
Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar,and there recall that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift there at the altar, go first and be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift. Settle with your opponent quickly while on the way to court. Otherwise your opponent will hand you over to the judge,and the judge will hand you over to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison.Amen, I say to you, you will not be released until you have paid the last penny.

“You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery. But I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one of your members than to have your whole body thrown into Gehenna. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one of your members than to have your whole body go into Gehenna.

“It was also said, Whoever divorces his wife must give her a bill of divorce. But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife – unless the marriage is unlawful – causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery”Again you have heard that it was said to your ancestors,Do not take a false oath,but make good to the Lord all that you vow.But I say to you, do not swear at all;not by heaven, for it is God’s throne;nor by the earth, for it is his footstool;nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King.Do not swear by your head,for you cannot make a single hair white or black.Let your ‘Yes’ mean ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No’ mean ‘No.’Anything more is from the evil one”

The Gospel of the Lord

Are you still there?

There are wounds that, if we allow them to scar over and stop bleeding, end up separating us forever. There are emotional and spiritual distances that, even without leading to a breakup, open the door to indifference—an indifference that wounds the bond.

Then comes the conviction that nothing needs to be healed, hiding the wound while thinking, “it will pass.”

Called to live fullness, we settle for mere neatness. We live by appearances, hiding the pain of a soul made for infinity, yet fed on what is finite. Hunger of Christ IS not fullfilled With wordly things.
Christ has placed fullness—the infinite, the everything—at the very center of our soul: the fullness of the Holy Spirit within us.
What is the truth of your marriage? On what truth is it built?

Applied to married life:

(A scene inspired by The Jeweler’s Shop by Saint John Paul II)

Steve enters quietly. Anna, his wife, sits by the window, holding her engagement ring.

Anna:Do you remember when we promised to love each other… even when it wasn’t easy?
Steve: I remember… though sometimes it’s hard for me to believe it still means anything.
Anna: It’s not the ring that weighs heavy, Steve.  It’s everything we’ve stopped saying and sharing. I’m still here—not out of habit, but because I still believe in Him… and in you.
Steve: I… I got lost, Anna. Love turned into obligation, and I hid in silence.
Anna: Then break that silence. I’m not asking you to feel what you once felt—only to choose to love again.
Steve : (his voice breaking) And what if I no longer know how?
Anna:Start with a yes. Small, sincere. Like the first day—but this time trusting that it will be Him who does it, not us.

(They look at each other. Steve takes the ring and holds it between them.)

Mother,

show us your Son in our marriage, so that we may live it in truth and fullness. Blessed and praised forever be He who redeemed us with His Blood.

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