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The Invitation Is Your Spouse.Reflection for marriages Luke14:1, 7-14

From the Gospel according to Luke14:1, 7-14

On a sabbath Jesus went to dineat the home of one of the leading Pharisees,and the people there were observing him carefully.
He told a parable to those who had been invited,noticing how they were choosing the places of honor at the table.”When you are invited by someone to a wedding banquet,do not recline at table in the place of honor.A more distinguished guest than you may have been invited by him,and the host who invited both of you may approach you and say,’Give your place to this man,’and then you would proceed with embarrassmentto take the lowest place.Rather, when you are invited,go and take the lowest placeso that when the host comes to you he may say,’My friend, move up to a higher position.’Then you will enjoy the esteem of your companions at the table.For every one who exalts himself will be humbled,but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”Then he said to the host who invited him,”When you hold a lunch or a dinner,do not invite your friends or your brothersor your relatives or your wealthy neighbors,in case they may invite you back and you have repayment.Rather, when you hold a banquet,invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind;blessed indeed will you be because of their inability to repay you.For you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.”

The Gospel of the Lord

The Invitation Is Your Spouse

In the heart of Christ, we are given the first place. He invites us to His great banquet. Yet we often reject that invitation, betraying Him—spied upon, arrested, judged, slapped, beaten, mocked, scourged, condemned, shoved, insulted, humiliated, pierced, crucified, abandoned, mistreated, killed, buried… and finally raised by His Father and seated at His right hand.

So, where do you want to live—where do you want to have the first place? In His heart, or in your own? In His heart, you die in order to live; in your own, you live only to die.

Which feast do you long to attend—the great banquet of heaven, or a shabby party with cheap wine and an eternal hangover?

Maybe you wonder when and where this banquet will be, what food will be served, or how you should dress. The answer lies in the heart of your spouse.

Your spouse is God’s invitation to the banquet. In the intimacy of your marriage lies the great promise. In your sacrament, the doorway of entry. Do you want to attend? Do you want to be holy?

Applied to married life:

(Louis speaks with Peter, his mentor, about his marriage with Marie)

Louis: Yesterday she told me she doesn’t feel anything for me anymore. She wants to leave. She asked me for divorce.

Peter: Come here—let me give you a hug. You know you’re not alone, right?

Louis: I feel so powerless.

Peter: Maybe it’s time to ask Christ to do what you cannot.

Louis: How do I do that?

Peter: Ask yourself: who comes first in your heart—your own suffering, or Marie’s? When you give yourself to her, is it pure, or do you expect something in return? Is your self-giving complete, or are you holding something back? Have you been faithful—not just in what you do, but in your thoughts and desires?

Louis: Then… is this my fault?

Peter: This isn’t about blame. It’s about the truth: you carry Christ’s power within you to live your marriage in His way. Joy brings us together, but suffering unites us. Think about it—joy gathers us around Christ, but it’s in suffering that we are most deeply united with Him.

Louis: And where should I start?

Peter:Start before the Blessed Sacrament. Don’t say anything. Don’t demand anything. Just humble yourself and ask Him to show you your truth. Don’t be afraid. When He reveals your weakness and you accept it, His Spirit will come, and with His love, you’ll be able to walk with Marie.

Louis: But I have no strength left… not even hope.

Peter: Loluis, whether you see it or not, you’ve just received an immense grace. You’ve come to the point where your faith and your hope are not enough—you must ask for Christ’s. We think that when life is running smoothly, we’re at peace… but in reality, we’re slowly dying. To live Christ’s truth, you must be born again, and labor pains are part of that birth. But there is no greater fullness than living in the truth that only His Spirit can give.

Louis: Peter, I’m really going to need you on this path. Right now it’s hard and difficult to understand what you’re saying.

Peter: What we’ll need most is Him. And even if you can’t see it yet—that’s what faith is for. In the meantime, in His hope, I will be with you, helping you in everything you need.

Mother

Perfect Bride who remained faithful to the Bridegroom, show me the way.
Would you like me to also condense this into a short reflection + prayer (like something a couple could read together in 2–3 minutes during prayer time)?

The Talents Belong to the Lord. Reflection for marriages. Matthew 25:14-30

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Matthew 25:14-30
Jesus told his disciples this parable:
“A man going on a journey
called in his servants and entrusted his possessions to them.
To one he gave five talents; to another, two; to a third, one–
to each according to his ability.
Then he went away.
Immediately the one who received five talents went and traded with them,
and made another five.
Likewise, the one who received two made another two.
But the man who received one went off and dug a hole in the ground
and buried his master’s money.
After a long time
the master of those servants came back and settled accounts with them.
The one who had received five talents
came forward bringing the additional five.
He said, ‘Master, you gave me five talents.
See, I have made five more.’
His master said to him, ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant.
Since you were faithful in small matters,
I will give you great responsibilities.
Come, share your master’s joy.’
Then the one who had received two talents also came forward and said,
‘Master, you gave me two talents.
See, I have made two more.’
His master said to him, ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant.
Since you were faithful in small matters,
I will give you great responsibilities.
Come, share your master’s joy.’
Then the one who had received the one talent came forward and said,
‘Master, I knew you were a demanding person,
harvesting where you did not plant
and gathering where you did not scatter;
so out of fear I went off and buried your talent in the ground.
Here it is back.’
His master said to him in reply, ‘You wicked, lazy servant!
So you knew that I harvest where I did not plant
and gather where I did not scatter?
Should you not then have put my money in the bank
so that I could have got it back with interest on my return?
Now then! Take the talent from him and give it to the one with ten.
For to everyone who has,
more will be given and he will grow rich;
but from the one who has not,
even what he has will be taken away.
And throw this useless servant into the darkness outside,
where there will be wailing and grinding of teeth.'”

The Gospel of the Lord

 

The Talents Belong to the Lord
In this parable, the Lord makes it clear that my talents are not mine—they are gifts He has given me so that I may manage them, put them to work, and carry out the mission He has entrusted to me. That part is my responsibility: to use my abilities to serve, to bear fruit, to multiply.
The Lord has given me certain abilities, certain talents. How many? It doesn’t matter whether they are many or few. Which ones? The ones He chose. The important thing is that, whether few or many, whatever they are, He has not given them for my own benefit, nor for me to keep hidden away, but to put them at His holy service. They are not mine—they are His. And my task is to administer them well.
And He promises that if I am a good and faithful servant, if I use these talents to work for the Kingdom of God, then they will surely multiply. And on top of that, as a reward, He will grant me Eternal Life. That is astonishing! If I am faithful in little things—in the ordinary tasks of each day, with my spouse, my children, my family, my friends… He promises me Eternal Life! Could there be a greater reward?

So I ask myself… what am I doing with the talents the Lord has given me? Am I placing them at the service of my spouse, my children, my neighbor, just as He expects me to? Or am I keeping them for myself and burying them?

 

Applied to Marriage life:
Martin: Caroline, we’ve been invited to lead the new marriage group starting at our parish. What do you think? Should we say yes?
Caroline: What are you talking about, Martin? Us? We’re useless! There are so many couples who are better prepared than we are.
Martin: That’s exactly what I said at first… but they insisted. They said they see something in us, and that with the gifts we have, we could do a lot of good for the couples in the group.
Caroline: Our gifts? What gifts?
Martin: They said we’re welcoming, that you’re responsible, and that I’m persevering… And that we should pray about it.
Caroline: Well… that you’re persevering, that’s true, hahaha… when you set your mind on something, there’s no way to change it. And that I’m responsible, I think that’s true too… when I commit to something, I really try to give it all. And if they see us as welcoming… But will that be enough? Let’s pray about it…
(Later…)
Caroline: Honestly, I had never really stopped to think and pray about the gifts God has given us, why He gave them, and what He wants us to do with them. And the truth is, I’m not sure we’re the right ones to lead a group. I feel like I don’t have many gifts. I think the people we know have more than we do.
Martin: Could it be that laziness is winning over you? Because this isn’t about comparing ourselves with others. You know—God distributes His gifts as He wants. Everything He gives is a gift of His Love. The point is to do His Will, to put to the service of His Kingdom the gifts He has entrusted to us. We can’t be like the lazy and negligent servant in the parable, who buried his talent instead of putting it to work, and ended up losing everything.
Caroline: You’re right, Martin. Maybe it’s laziness, or maybe a bit of false humility, which at the end of the day is still just pride. I think we need to give it a try. If the Lord wants this to be our way of putting our gifts at His service, He will make it possible. And if not, He’ll let us know. Jesus, I trust in You!
Martin: That’s my Caroline! I love you!
Mother,
help us to recognize with humility the talents God has given us, never to claim them as our own, and like you, to always and in every moment give thanks to God for all He gives. He is the source of every good thing. “My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord!” Blessed are you, Mother! Praised be the Lord!

God’s Will . Reflection for marriages. Mark 6 :17-29

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Mark6:17-29

Herod was the one who had John the Baptist arrested and bound in prisonon account of Herodias,the wife of his brother Philip, whom he had married.John had said to Herod,“It is not lawful for you to have your brother’s wife.”Herodias harbored a grudge against himand wanted to kill him but was unable to do so.Herod feared John, knowing him to be a righteous and holy man,and kept him in custody.When he heard him speak he was very much perplexed,yet he liked to listen to him.She had an opportunity one day when Herod, on his birthday,gave a banquet for his courtiers,his military officers, and the leading men of Galilee.Herodias’ own daughter came inand performed a dance that delighted Herod and his guests.The king said to the girl,“Ask of me whatever you wish and I will grant it to you.”He even swore many things to her,“I will grant you whatever you ask of me,even to half of my kingdom.”She went out and said to her mother,“What shall I ask for?”She replied, “The head of John the Baptist.”The girl hurried back to the king’s presence and made her request,“I want you to give me at onceon a platter the head of John the Baptist.”The king was deeply distressed,but because of his oaths and the guestshe did not wish to break his word to her.So he promptly dispatched an executioner with ordersto bring back his head.He went off and beheaded him in the prison.He brought in the head on a platter and gave it to the girl.The girl in turn gave it to her mother.When his disciples heard about it,they came and took his body and laid it in a tomb.

The Gospel of the Lord

 God’s will

Today we celebrate the martyrdom of Saint John the Baptist, of whom his father Zechariah said: “And you, child, will be called the prophet of the Most High; for you will go before the Lord to prepare His ways, to give His people knowledge of salvation through the forgiveness of their sins.” (Luke 1:76–77).

He was the first martyr to defend the truth of marriage as God intended it, speaking out before Herod about the unlawfulness of his relationship with his brother’s wife, Herodias. John gave his life to do the Will of God. And I—what am I willing to give in order to do God’s Will in my life? How far am I willing to go? One thing is clear: we are called to holiness, and the way to reach it is by living according to God’s Will.

We have been called to the vocation of marriage, and that is where we must give everything. We are not called to be holy priests, nor holy religious… but holy husbands and wives. With the help of God’s grace, and our small but sincere “yes,” we will make it!

Living it in Marriage:

Steven: Martha, we need to talk…

Martha: Oh Steve, don’t scare me—those words bring back such bad memories….

Steven: You’re right, forgive me. But maybe the Lord wanted to bring back that memory,  when we were on the verge of throwing away our marriage and our family. I remember the turning point was the retreat we attended led by project for conjugal love

Martha: Now that’s a much better memory. What an amazing retreat! What a gift your sister gave us, without even knowing how badly we were doing, when she decided to invite us as a Christmas present! . I’ll never be able to thank her enough—or Our Lady, who was the one who truly brought us there.

Steven: Well, that’s actually what I wanted to talk about. I know money is really tight with the kids’ school…

Martha: True, but it’s the best choice we could have made. Our children’s education is so important. As a friend of mine says, “if we have to eat rice every day, then we’ll eat rice.” The change we’ve seen in them at their new school is another gift from Our Lady. Just yesterday little one told me that she no longer feels like a “weirdo” for going to Mass and praying.

Steven: Well, my idea is that we should now give back the gift my sister once gave us. Do you remember Lukas, my coworker? He told  me they already have an appointment with a lawyer to get divorced. On top of that, they’re struggling financially. I was thinking… (Martha interrupts)

Martha: I think that’s a wonderful idea, and honestly, I believe it’s our duty. To give now what we once received—even if it means a real financial sacrifice. “Give until it hurts,” as Mother Teresa of Calcutta used to say. Thank you for your generosity, Steven. You help me so much to see God’s Will in our life. I love you so much—and now I’m off to prepare some rice! (laughs)

Mother,

It must have been so painful for you to learn that the son of your beloved cousin, Saint Elizabeth, had been beheaded. Surely it was another sorrow you kept deep in your heart. How much pain we cause others when we act out of selfishness. Forgive our weaknesses and help us to discern God’s Will in our lives, so that we may be salt and light for the world. Blessed be your purity, and may it be forever so!

Always on Guard.Reflection for marriages Matthew 24:42-51

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Matthew 24:42-51

Jesus said to his disciples:”Stay awake!For you do not know on which day your Lord will come.Be sure of this: if the master of the house had known the hour of night when the thief was coming,he would have stayed awake and not let his house be broken into.So too, you also must be prepared,for at an hour you do not expect, the Son of Man will come.
“Who, then, is the faithful and prudent servant,whom the master has put in charge of his household to distribute to them their food at the proper time?Blessed is that servant whom his master on his arrival finds doing so.Amen, I say to you, he will put him in charge of all his property.But if that wicked servant says to himself, ‘My master is long delayed,’and begins to beat his fellow servants,and eat and drink with drunkards,the servant’s master will come on an unexpected dayand at an unknown hour and will punish him severelyand assign him a place with the hypocrites,where there will be wailing and grinding of teeth.

The Gospel of the Lord

Always on Guard

When we read this Gospel, it’s easy to think only about death—the day the Lord will call us into His presence—and the need to always be prepared, since as He tells us, we do not know the day or the hour. And that’s true: we cannot simply rely on ourselves or leave everything to the last moment. We are in a constant battle against sin. It doesn’t rest, and neither can we. But the reward is always greater: God’s grace. And the final prize? Heaven and eternity with Him.

That is why we must always stay a step ahead and remain prepared—especially in the situations that are uncomfortable, inconvenient, or not what we would have chosen. Our response must always be one of renunciation and unconditional self-giving.

Married couples have a special grace through the sacrament of Matrimony, a gift we must not waste. It helps us to remain vigilant, to welcome our spouse in their weakness caused by sin—without forgetting that this weakness is also ours. We are called to reach heaven together, and every time we overcome a temptation, it is another step closer to our goal. And to reach that eternal reward, we have a wonderful solution: LOVE without limits. As St. Augustine said, “The measure of love is to love without measure.”

Applied to Married Life:

Marie: You’re home already, John! I didn’t expect you so soon. Didn’t you have a lot going on at the office?

John: Yes, it’s been exhausting these last few days, but I realized I need to set limits with work—otherwise it consumes me, and I lose sight of what matters most. Besides, it’s my feast day today, and we should celebrate it properly.

Marie: I’m so glad to see the way you’re handling this now, it’s such a gift having you home more.

John: Before, I thought work was everything—that it was the key to securing a relaxed life later on. But now I know there’s nothing more restful than simply being with you. Thank God, there’s plenty of work for the future, but I don’t want it to steal my present.

Marie: Do you realize how much our life has changed these past years? Before, we were focused on worldly things—on what we wanted or didn’t want, on money—and we poured extra hours into work just to earn more and “secure” a comfortable life. Now all of that has taken second place. We’ve discovered what God had prepared for us, and we’ve put Him first.

John: Yes, Marie, that’s exactly it. I’m so grateful we’ve finally seen it. God’s plan for marriage has always been there, but we didn’t want to recognize it. By discovering its greatness, we’ve grown together, and our relationship has flourished in ways I never imagined. We’ve chosen to put God—and each other—ahead of everything else, and our life has been transformed. I thank the Lord constantly for that.

Marie: Before, we acted based only on our own needs. But now, we’re ready for whatever comes—always on guard to do God’s will. It’s not always easy, but we don’t tire of trying.

John: It’s amazing to see how the Lord is changing us. How about we pray  together, and then I’ll cook you a dinner you won’t forget?

Marie: Perfect! You’re wonderful, and I thank God for you every single moment. Let’s do it—and celebrate your feast day as it deserves.

Mother,

Guided by your example and sheltered beneath your mantle, help us to remain always alert and prepared to welcome the Lord. Blessed be the Lord, who is always waiting for us.

Hidden Beauty. Reflection for marriages Matthew 23:27-32

Gospel

From the Gospel according to Matthew 23:27-32

Jesus said,”Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, you hypocrites.You are like whitewashed tombs, which appear beautiful on the outside,but inside are full of dead men’s bones and every kind of filth.Even so, on the outside you appear righteous,but inside you are filled with hypocrisy and evildoing.
“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, you hypocrites.You build the tombs of the prophets and adorn the memorials of the righteous,and you say, ‘If we had lived in the days of our ancestors,we would not have joined them in shedding the prophets’ blood.’Thus you bear witness against yourselves that you are the children of those who murdered the prophets;now fill up what your ancestors measured out!”

The Gospel of the Lord

Hidden Beauty

“Beauty will save the world.” These words of St. John Paul II seem deeply connected to today’s Gospel. Deep within every human heart there is a longing for beauty, because God Himself is Beauty—and that is why we are naturally drawn to it. The problem is that sometimes we pursue this desire in a disordered way. Mixed with self-love, pride, and vanity, it can lead us to care more about appearances than about the heart.

That is why in today’s Gospel, Jesus warns us and calls us once again to look inward—to true conversion of the heart, and to the purification of our intentions.

St. John Paul II also said that the invisible shapes a person more than the visible. What if, instead of seeing someone’s body, we could see their soul? We might be surprised. We live in a culture of appearances—we want to look good, we crave applause, we invest more in our image than ever, we worry about what others think. But… what about our soul? Do we take care of it as much as the body? Do I seek to remain in God’s grace? Do I nurture my soul with prayer and the Eucharist, and cleanse it through confession?

True beauty is not in what we show on the outside, but in who we are within. What makes the body truly beautiful is a soul transformed by the grace of God. That is why caring for our soul is the path to reflecting the Beauty that saves.

Applied to Marriage life:

Julie: I’m convinced that this retreat we just experienced was truly from God… it was filled with a beauty that could only come from Him. I want that kind of love between us!

James: So, where do we start?

Julie: I think it begins with seeking purity of heart. Everything else—how we act, how we speak, how we dress, even how we spend our free time—flows from that. But it all starts in the heart.

James: Exactly. The Lord doesn’t want a love that’s only on the surface. He invites us to look deeper. So, what is our heart really searching for? What does it long for, what does it love? Are we truly seeking the good of our souls, or just a kind of superficial happiness?

Julie: Yes, we need to rethink so many things. We put so much effort into how others see us—being the “perfect” couple on social media, at church… but we’ve been neglecting our souls and the hidden love we’re called to nurture at home, where no one else sees.

James: That’s true. The beauty of marriage isn’t found in trips or picture-perfect moments, but in real self-giving. Let’s ask the Lord for that grace—to change our hearts and make them more like His.

Mother,

Blessed be your purity, forever and always, for God Himself delights in such radiant Beauty.